What's the best way to escape the friendzone? Make her jealous! (Page 2)

[Scrambledagain]

It seriously works. But you have to do it in a way that doesn't show that you are doing it on purpose. It so happened to me the other day but I didn't even plan it. There were 2 girls I met and the one I msged. She was cool but there was nothing flirty or sexual. So I thought I would take it slow. But her friend showed massive signals towards me so I went strait in and asked for her number etc. it went ok, but another guy came into the picture and there was a bit of shit. So I cut this girl off. But then, the first friend I message all of a sudden gets very sexual with me and we hooked up.

[Linhlilypops]

That's cruel to the other girl that you flirt with, just thinking about that made me mad already. Girls, what if you find out that the guy who is flirting with you is actually just does that to get attention from the girl that he likes, he's just using you! Horrible!

[brain5000]

Presumably he'd flirt with someone he might find desirable. If the object of his flirtation is receptive, maybe everyone might wind up happy.

[Rei02]

This plan can backfire, specially if one does it on purpose.

She could get jealous, but she might not act or behave as expected.

Also, think about the girl you are using for jealousy. Yes, you are using someone in order to achieve a goal which it can be unrequited. What if she is or starts to like you?

[Rei02]

@iliamilik You have done what is in your might, you tried to contact him to explain the misunderstanding, but if he doesn't want to listen nor understand, then it is better to live him alone. Obviously, if you have still feeling for him, you won't date anyone else for a while till you feel you can move on. If he won't see it nor understand it, then that's his own problem and he isn't worthy for you.

[iliamilik]

i didn't contact him who said I did?

[Rei02]

@iliamilik I said you tried, it is in your reply, not that you did it. I meant that you tried everything todo contact him and explain him, unless you know how to talk to him in person or in other ways you haven't mentioned.

[iliamilik]

i haven't tried to explain anything to him

[Azara]

as you know you can be jealous of someone else getting attention formerly reserved for you-- without actually wanting them for yourself. jealousy just means you think you're entitled to something. it doesn't mean love or affection or compassion or anything other than hostile possessiveness.

[Marrry]

You miss something... in order to make her jealous she must be somewhat attracted to you to begin with. If she doesn't like you at all and just wants ego boost or want you for treats or I don't know what this won't work.

[girlwithfeelings]

Maybe in a disney channel teen drama. In the real world and when dealing with mature adults, these sleazy hollywood tactics are not going to get you any positive attention let alone any meaningful relationships.

Instead try honest communication, and if the person you have feelings for doesn't reciprocate the attraction, then you have to accept that and move on. It isn't exactly easy, but it is the best thing to do.

[GoodManDave]

There's never any kind of jealousy that I've seen, not that I've ever flirted with someone to make someone else jealous.

I have avoided flirting with a new crush in front of an old one (if it's recent), and I try to avoid looking like the guy who just moves from girl to girl. That's more because when I do flirt, the girl will shut it down, and do it to humiliate me. It's designed to be cruel. I'm going to do my best not to open myself up to ridicule in front of a former crush.

[Anonymous]

If you are in the friend zone you should just move on, I had a long time friend who asked me out recently and I said I wasn’t interested, he did the right thing and moved on, now we are still friends and happy.

Yes a girl can get jealous but not because she wants the guy if you are in the friend zone it’s too late already, sorry you gotta move on. If she does get jealous and ends up wanting to date you, you were never really in the friend zone.

[MargaritaPeach]

This idea has some merit to it, since often times girls want anything dangling out of reach. If they are told or shown they can't have it, they want it more. Won't always work, but it's at least worth a shot.

[lumos]

I would say that this should be the last resort, considering that the likelihood of it working as planned is pretty low. And you know, it's also a pretty immature technique.

[GreatnessPersonified]

I don't think works.
It's better to just be straight up with her about everything in a manly way.
That is
-ask her out directly, if you haven't already. none of that netflix and chill shit
-introduce some type of kino to the mix
-be prepared to move on if affections aren't returned

[RachelBrigs]

The "friend zone" is when a girl doesn't like you, the end. That's it. Its impossible to make someone who doesn't like you jealous.
When I don't like a guy who likes me, I hope he gets a girlfriend, I have even been a wingman for a couple guys before.. cause I want them to be happy! (And get over me.)

So if she's actually jealous, you were never in the friend zone in the first place. She was just denying her feelings for you.

[BritGuy212]

It doesn't change the fact that men can escape the friendzone. I've helped friends do so telling me that my advice is amazing. I love being awesome.

[RachelBrigs]

For one, the friend zone doesn't really exist. Again all it is is when a girl doesn't like you. She might get to know you better and start to like you though, so yeah its possible to no longer be in what you call "the friend zone." But tardos like you think that if you press a few buttons and say a few words a girl will automatically like you. Nah. We're people.

[BritGuy212]

"tardos". What a compliment.

[RachelBrigs]

You're welcome!

[BritGuy212]

I bet you tell all the boys that though, you little playa.

[RachelBrigs]

Right ok

[RachelBrigs]

You sound like you don't leave the house

[BritGuy212]

Whose house?

[RachelBrigs]

The one you live in.

[BritGuy212]

Never met the one you live in. Who's that?

[RachelBrigs]

This is why you get "friend zoned"

[BritGuy212]

You have an odd way of flirting.

[BellePepper]

She wasn't flirting with you and now you look like a huge creep. Great job OP.

[BritGuy212]

@BellePepper I'm flattered

[BellePepper]

You're flattered you makepeople so uncomfortable they don't want to talk to you anymore and misread them so badly that you thought they were flirting with you while you did it?

[BritGuy212]

@BellePepper You continue to flatter me

[BellePepper]

Explain this to me.

[Calex]

You sound insecure o_o;

[RachelBrigs]

@Calex how?

[Calex]

Sorry, that was a bit mean of me. :]

[RachelBrigs]

@Calex I'm not offended, but I think you are.

[Calex]

Oh, thats good. I was worried.

[BritGuy212]

@Calex Never apologize

[Calex]

Hehe. It's better to be a good person :]

[BritGuy212]

@Calex Not in this world

[pr3ttybr0wn]

If I placed a man in the friend zone that means I don't want him. So why would I be Jealous of him and another woman? I could have had him if I wanted him!

[Anonymous]

As is the case with most dating advice, this is pure crap.

It is, however, a great way to screw a friendship and make her think you are a complete idiot. Well, in that case she is likely to stop being your friend altogether, so in a sense this works: you would no longer be in the *friendzone* but in the *patheticzone*.

[BritGuy212]

Keep tellin' yourself that.

[damnwinter]

there is an age difference between you guys, so yeah it might work with girls up to 20 years old - not so much with women :)

[ZionOrtov]

Stop concerning yourselves with the friendzone, be yourself and be honest, present yourself as such, and if they do not want you, then you should not want them unless they are better than you (morality wise), try getting on their level before you engage them.

[Octavius]

If she's jealous it's not jealous of your romantic intentions she's just jealous of the attention. So she'll sabotage your relationship with a different girl make her vanish and put you right back into craving after her and her spurring your advances.

[HikerDude]

Sadly, this works, and works damn well. Women don't always friendzone guys just because he's ugly or something. Lots of guys get friendzoned for not playing the game to her liking. Bitchy, entitled women demand perfection, so if you make a misstep, that may be it for you. However, if you can display your value to her by getting another woman's attentions, you can flip the script.

[willow74]

Actually, if you follow this guys advice, there's a good chance that she either won't care, or worse, she'll be happy for you, or even better- she'll hate you. And any slim chance you have will be gone. Good luck 👍

[FatherJack]

Why even allow yourself to be " zoned " anyway , this tactic will simply backfire , as she was never into you anyway , plus you have proven yourself to lack real character , word spreads fast & this will ruin your chances with the said woman's friends & acquaintances. Simple solution , if " zoned " , then just walk away , NEVER contact her again & forget her !!

[31yovirgindude]

I've never been in the friendzone. I ask the girl out, get rejected, whine about it for a few days, then simply forget it. I haven't asked a girl out in 6 years, hence no rejection and no friendzone. Simple as that.

[udolipixie]

I find jealousy is one of the best ways to get a guy attracted to a gal as well. To any male commenters that disagree: I find what guys say completely differ from what guys do.

[BritGuy212]

Male and female psyches differ. Playing hard to get doesn't work on me, vice versa does. Equality is a farce.

[BritGuy212]

men*

[udolipixie]

"Male and female psyches differ"
In your opinion male and female psyche differ in this regard.

"Playing hard to get doesn't work on men"
In your opinion. I highly doubt you pursue males to get this opinion so this seems more like defensiveness to me. Either way I find what guys say completely differ from what guys do.

" Equality is a farce. "
My statement had nothing to do with equality. It had to with me finding jealousy being a great way to gain attraction.

[BritGuy212]

"so this seems more like defensiveness to me." Nice little dodge right there! I'm flattered. You can't make guys jealous unless it's some guy stuck deep in the friendzone. Gonna have to deal with it.

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[udolipixie]

" Nice little dodge right there! I'm flattered. "
I didn't doge anything. You cut off the part why I think you're defensive I stated you probably don't pursue males so how can you know what works on males. Unless you are bisexual/homosexual?

"You can't make guys jealous unless it's some guy stuck deep in the friendzone. "
In your opinion guys can't be made jealous. Again unless you're pursuing guys I don't think you can speak for what works.

"Gonna have to deal with it."
There's nothing to deal with as I find what guys say completely differ from what guys do.

[BritGuy212]

You're so on the defensive. How men and women react to the opposite sex is different, lol. That's a fact. Deal with it.

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[udolipixie]

It seems you're mad brah. That's okay.

I get that you don't like the thought that playing hard to get and using jealousy works on men. It's okay. You're just gonna have to deal with it.

Laters. You can keep commenting if you want. I won't be reading.