Here's 6 reasons NOT to: (1.) STD's (2.) It's stupid (3.) You don't know them and they could harm you. Especially physically, being raped is not aging thing. (4.) It's stupid (5.) Possible pregnancy (6.) It's stupid
Here are several easy counters- 1. Condoms 2. Its fun, reduces stress, and leads to better health 3. Its a great form of exercise 4. its not stupid 5. The morning after bill, abortions, and spermicide. 6. You could be harmed driving your car or inhaling fumes from the highway. 7. Sex is one of the best things in lif 8. You gain experience so that when you do find a partner you'll be more able to pleasure them
Basically your list is retarded and is only an issue if someone is also retarded and doesn't choose the correct methods of safe sex.
@serp777 1-condoms aren't 100% safe 2- yeah... "leads to better health" which can cause STD's... Thats so healthy -_- besides no one said it isn't fun, but that doesn't mean to go do it with a person YOU DONT KNOW 3- there's way more other exercises that don't include having sex with a stranger 4- having sex with a guy/girl and THEN dating is definitely stupid 5-Avoiding it is better then having to get rid of your pregnancy afterwards, besides, abortions aren't allowed EVERYWHERE 6- ( don't know what you meant by that ) 7- no one said sex isn't one of the best things, but sometimes we need to use our brains before doing something 8- you can gain that same experience AFTER you date and KNOW that person...
@DaniaMQ 1. Condoms are 99.9% safe. 2. That's why its called protected sex and getting constant std checks. Also you just completely ignored the point about reducing stress, improving cardiovascular function, etc. 3. Those other exercises suck significantly more. 4. No it isn't. Prove it. You're just imposing your traditional or religious values 5. Condoms again, and the morning after pill, and the regular pill, and spermicide. 6. You take risks in life just by driving or walking down the street. Anything worth doing has risks. The key thing is how much risk. Your chance of dying by car crash is much higher than by have safe sex with condoms 7. I just used my brain sufficiently to demonstrate that safe sex is worthwile. 8. It increases the overhead a lot. Plus by focusing on one person you don't get exposed to a wide range of sexual behaviors.
@serp777 whatever, to each his own, you like it, then do it, I don't like it so I won't do it ( and they aren't only religious things that stop me from doing it ) so nevermind, I won't argue about it coz its not worth it, have a nice day
There is no check on the first date because I don't take them to a restaurant on the first date. How am I supposed to talk to a girl if our mouths are stuffed with food.
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these stuff work for seculars. in the mindset of a christian its all vain nonsense. but i have to get "supernatural" to explain why. if you dont experience daily what the grace of God can offer you have no reason to believe me and it will all seem like nonsense. its a gift to us christians its not something we achieve "for our goodness". if you dont experience this divine love then its only normal you think like seculars do. we believe and know from experience that a successful wedding needs no "chemistry", "sparks", "sexual compatibility" and all these societal excuses for people to not love, and not see the problem in themselves. just two humans who love each other cause they both love Him who is Love incarnate. a couple that daily practice what church says, that the relationship between man and woman should be like thatwhich Christ has with the church. how can such a couple have hatred, bitterness, and hard feelings for one another?
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by the way if you think "but i've seen christians who blah blah". many of us are self proclaimed disciples of His, but as He said "the lukeworms are appalling to me" and "because of you my Name will be cursed by the world". and that "i'll tell you who are you, i dont know you". many of us who you see like that are this exact kind of case.
Lol this sounds kind of ideal to me I never understood that practice americans have of going on these formal dinner restaurant things with someone they did not know well. I feel when you do not know someone so well casual situations are the best way to go.
I don't even know what this take is. Meeting someone and then arranging the two of you get together for drinks IS a date. Its just a casual date that hopefully isn't going to cost too much and put too much pressure on either person
This is the most irresponsible tripe I've read on GaG. You're encouraging young impressionable females to be promiscuous. What worries me is there's numerous young ladies who agree with you.
You're despicable for thinking your ancient religious values are superior and pretending to be self righteous. Its the modern age; sex is fun and can be very safe with the proper "equipment."
Nice fun take... But then there would be no second date for sure.. Or maybe the would be.. But then it would ask be about sex only... And I would think that she is so slutty... Cause then I would think she has done the same with other guys... And I wouldn't be comfy with that at all...
Just scrolled down to read the female responses and they've got it covered from pretty much every angle. Basically this is a great idea if you're looking for sex. Not so much if you're looking for a relationship.
Dating can still be awkward and the dates aren't special
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If I'm not looking for anything serious and just wants to fuck, no I will not be offended. I'll actually love it. If a guy wants to mess around after not knowing me well then he's definitely not relationship material... ALSO I have to know he doesn't have STDs first. I refuse to catch anything or get pregnant
LMAO Matbe Im just to old but I can see why you posted this anonymously.
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I would feel used and discarded like a sardine can.
But then... I would never sleep with a guy outside of marriage anyway.
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The longest relationship I had we never went on a "date" at all. And we were together for 2 years. No official date, we simply liked eachother and trashed the traditional methods. Only problem that broke us up was her desire for kids, she wanted more than one kid and I hate kids.
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Here's 6 reasons NOT to:
(1.) STD's
(2.) It's stupid
(3.) You don't know them and they could harm you. Especially physically, being raped is not aging thing.
(4.) It's stupid
(5.) Possible pregnancy
(6.) It's stupid
My thoughts exactly.
Here are several easy counters-
1. Condoms
2. Its fun, reduces stress, and leads to better health
3. Its a great form of exercise
4. its not stupid
5. The morning after bill, abortions, and spermicide.
6. You could be harmed driving your car or inhaling fumes from the highway.
7. Sex is one of the best things in lif
8. You gain experience so that when you do find a partner you'll be more able to pleasure them
Basically your list is retarded and is only an issue if someone is also retarded and doesn't choose the correct methods of safe sex.
@serp777
1-condoms aren't 100% safe
2- yeah... "leads to better health" which can cause STD's... Thats so healthy -_- besides no one said it isn't fun, but that doesn't mean to go do it with a person YOU DONT KNOW
3- there's way more other exercises that don't include having sex with a stranger
4- having sex with a guy/girl and THEN dating is definitely stupid
5-Avoiding it is better then having to get rid of your pregnancy afterwards, besides, abortions aren't allowed EVERYWHERE
6- ( don't know what you meant by that )
7- no one said sex isn't one of the best things, but sometimes we need to use our brains before doing something
8- you can gain that same experience AFTER you date and KNOW that person...
** Than having to ( in point 5 )
* a good thing , not aging
@DaniaMQ 1. Condoms are 99.9% safe.
2. That's why its called protected sex and getting constant std checks. Also you just completely ignored the point about reducing stress, improving cardiovascular function, etc.
3. Those other exercises suck significantly more.
4. No it isn't. Prove it. You're just imposing your traditional or religious values
5. Condoms again, and the morning after pill, and the regular pill, and spermicide.
6. You take risks in life just by driving or walking down the street. Anything worth doing has risks. The key thing is how much risk. Your chance of dying by car crash is much higher than by have safe sex with condoms
7. I just used my brain sufficiently to demonstrate that safe sex is worthwile.
8. It increases the overhead a lot. Plus by focusing on one person you don't get exposed to a wide range of sexual behaviors.
@serp777 whatever, to each his own, you like it, then do it, I don't like it so I won't do it ( and they aren't only religious things that stop me from doing it ) so nevermind, I won't argue about it coz its not worth it, have a nice day
@DaniaMQ well being on this thread probably wasn't worth it but whatever
There is no check on the first date because I don't take them to a restaurant on the first date. How am I supposed to talk to a girl if our mouths are stuffed with food.
these stuff work for seculars. in the mindset of a christian its all vain nonsense. but i have to get "supernatural" to explain why. if you dont experience daily what the grace of God can offer you have no reason to believe me and it will all seem like nonsense. its a gift to us christians its not something we achieve "for our goodness". if you dont experience this divine love then its only normal you think like seculars do. we believe and know from experience that a successful wedding needs no "chemistry", "sparks", "sexual compatibility" and all these societal excuses for people to not love, and not see the problem in themselves. just two humans who love each other cause they both love Him who is Love incarnate. a couple that daily practice what church says, that the relationship between man and woman should be like thatwhich Christ has with the church. how can such a couple have hatred, bitterness, and hard feelings for one another?
by the way if you think "but i've seen christians who blah blah". many of us are self proclaimed disciples of His, but as He said "the lukeworms are appalling to me" and "because of you my Name will be cursed by the world". and that "i'll tell you who are you, i dont know you". many of us who you see like that are this exact kind of case.
Though I am not Christian, I agree.
I believe in something similar.
Lol this sounds kind of ideal to me I never understood that practice americans have of going on these formal dinner restaurant things with someone they did not know well. I feel when you do not know someone so well casual situations are the best way to go.
I don't even know what this take is. Meeting someone and then arranging the two of you get together for drinks IS a date. Its just a casual date that hopefully isn't going to cost too much and put too much pressure on either person
This is the most irresponsible tripe I've read on GaG. You're encouraging young impressionable females to be promiscuous. What worries me is there's numerous young ladies who agree with you.
Despicable.
You're despicable for thinking your ancient religious values are superior and pretending to be self righteous. Its the modern age; sex is fun and can be very safe with the proper "equipment."
@serp777 yknow where people go who want to have sex for fun?
A BROTHEL.
This things doesn't work for for me. I'm old school...
Same here
Nice fun take... But then there would be no second date for sure.. Or maybe the would be.. But then it would ask be about sex only...
And I would think that she is so slutty... Cause then I would think she has done the same with other guys... And I wouldn't be comfy with that at all...
Here... I just told everyone the truth... !
Also I would think she must be having any STD or something.. LOL
Dates are "spexial" but sex isn't? I'm confused here
@BelleGirl21 I'm so glad I'M NOT playing the field. Because good lord! It's insanely vein and impersonal.
Reads like a bad Buzzfeed article.
Just scrolled down to read the female responses and they've got it covered from pretty much every angle. Basically this is a great idea if you're looking for sex. Not so much if you're looking for a relationship.
I disagree with everything here. Well, except for the carrot bouquet, which is an amazing idea.
Anyway, to each his own.
I disagree.
Dating can still be awkward and the dates aren't special
If I'm not looking for anything serious and just wants to fuck, no I will not be offended. I'll actually love it. If a guy wants to mess around after not knowing me well then he's definitely not relationship material... ALSO I have to know he doesn't have STDs first. I refuse to catch anything or get pregnant
LMAO Matbe Im just to old but I can see why you posted this anonymously.
I would feel used and discarded like a sardine can.
But then... I would never sleep with a guy outside of marriage anyway.
The longest relationship I had we never went on a "date" at all. And we were together for 2 years. No official date, we simply liked eachother and trashed the traditional methods.
Only problem that broke us up was her desire for kids, she wanted more than one kid and I hate kids.
Yeah, cause there's no way someone will just fuck you and never contact you again after that. Do you even hear how ridiculous this sounds?
I don't think I would be offended- keeping it casual at first seems like a pretty good way to go tbh. But I wouldn't go back to his the first night.
Lol. Do you know how many guys would bounce and not give the woman a first date if she slept with him BEFORE the date?
If any woman wants to do this, power to her. But I personally wouldn't do it.
Very offended. I wouldn't put out first just for it to have been a waste right after that.