10 Signs He's A Player (Page 2)

[johnny_hustle]

I agree in some instances but it goes both ways I will give an example for each one

1. He could get off work late, and can't text at work. Wants to know how his girls day is. Or wishes her goodnight.

2.A guy can have more female friends than male friends and not be a player. It all depends on who he gets along better with, males or females.

3. Its not hard for a genuine guy to know what to say, the guys who don't know what to say are usually the shy type.

4.This goes one way. player.

[jglassmyer]

1) I always text people late at night; girls and guys. It's like at a slumber party how conversation gets way more honest and interesting when people are tired.

8) doesn't seem to make much sense lol. You're saying even if he doesn't care about your life he'll ask how your day was?

hmmm how about this? Don't f*ck a guy until you've been together for a while! if you do it anyway, he's not a douche, you're just stupid. I could shoot down at least half of these with enough character space

[jtcog]

Why does this sound like someone had feelings for a guy and these are the results of their relationship? First off I agree with #1 anyone texting or calling that late is a booty call. #2 compeletly wrong! I'm a guy and only have girls as friends and that's because I don't get along with other guys. How come its OK for females not to get along but not for men? #3 In terms with players then I agree, but men in general no. The rest I can deal with but the worst is #2 and 3.....

[sammy539400]

concluded: he waits for my reacion at the gym club but I don't give him one. he is older than me and has female freinds ect.. I am curous as I try to find out about him and I can't seem to find answers. we always meet at the same place, never go for meals as he is a gym fanatic and is in bed for 8pm.. texts a lot about sex but tells me he values freindship more is he a potential player. told me he lived abroad with a girl 20 years younger than him but as freinds I was flattered when he tracked me

[mrallen]

And playerhater, I'm open to the idea that I maybe wrong about this, but I also have a lot of confidence that you may one day look back and see that you in fact were "playing" to fill some sort of hole that you didn't realize existed. Even if you have good intentions for whoever you're talking with and your relationship/friendship with her, any manipulation or "saying the right thing" for her sake is not good if it's not truthful. Again, I could be wrong, but think about it.

[mrallen]

As an accidental former player (used it as a reaction to a bad breakup), I can confirm most of this is true. I'm good at reading other people, and I used that to know what to say to girls to get close to them, just wanting to be less lonely. I wasn't intentionally "playing," but most of the time, those relationships turned to nothing or just friendships with the girl wishing there had been more based on my seeming interest in her.

[playerhater]

Long run. I don't intend on cheating nor breaking up with her.

Anyways, before calling guys players before dumping them, get to know their story first. They might surprise you. I consider myself a really nice guy, pardon my comment earlier, but I don't call girls sluts if they have a lot of guy friends. I know A LOT of girls who would rather have guy friends instead of girl friends because girls cause a lot of drama. You know I'm right and I know I'm right.

Lastly, I challenge you to get to know...

[playerhater]

I'm sorry to say but this article is stupid and definitely false. Obviously you don't know anything about guys or haven't been around enough. Truthfully, I fall under 9/10 "facts" listed above and I don't even come close to falling under "player" status. At the moment, I have a very beautiful, loving girlfriend whom I am very grateful for that I have been dating for six going on seven months and she considers me one of the best guys she has ever met in her life. I'm in this relationship for the...

[TimeAndTimeAgain]

This is a very good article. All your points are spot-on. And yes, at the guy who said guys can't be smooth talkers without being players - that's true as well. If the guy know exactly what to say, and makes the girl feel super-special, where do you think he got that from? It goes way beyond common-sense, which is what you use when you talk to someone you care about. You do NOT tell her a bunch of sh*t which worked with previous girls, like players always do.

[myworld2point0]

This is SO true. I compared the list to my ex and 7/10 of these matched with him.

Although, a guy who matches to 1 or 2 of these doesn't necessarily make him a player.

Like the athletic thing--guys always try to look athletic-_-

But otherwise, great article

[blahblahblah12]

Honestly, I've had an ex-boyfriend who has been guilty of showing ALL of these "signs", and in fact, he was just a player. I literally felt as if I had wrote it myself, or had been recalling his behavior or something in my head. This is almost what I needed to prove myself right in a sense. Of course, a guy calling you late doesn't ALWAYS mean you're a rebound, but if he's ALWAYS calling you late? Big ass red flag right there. I think this article was informative, I can truly say this from exp.

[cristinaboss]

In all honesty I don't think that all these signs apply to every player out there. I know this one guy and he is the complete opposite of every trait. He never texts me after 11... always in the middle of the day, he's the one that contacts me, he's not a smooth talker, he doesn't find excuses to avoid hanging out with me, he doesn't act like a d*** to me in front of his friends and he pays much more attention to me than his friends, etc. But he's clearly a player and I know he has many girls.

[Elcristoph]

LOL, this is SUCH rubbish, what its saying to women is

"hey this guy has you interested.. well guess what he's a d*** so get rid of him"

next thing you know this bloke whos worked hard to get the girl he wants on his side tries to call her to invite her on a date but she won't answer the phone becouse she's scared of getting hurt all becouse she decided to read this..

its such man bashing rubbish

[BrookTheCutie]

Ive dealt with a player just recently, and almost all of these traits he had. Reading some of the comments, I hear some people are freaking out about how these are "player only" traits.. well here is my point of few on that. If he's doing theses things when you guys are just getting to know each other, then yes, he's probably a player. But if you've known each other for awhile and he's shown interest in you that whole time, then there's a good chance he isn't a player.

[buffballr12]

WOW this is not true AT ALL. I know tons of guys that are smooth and really nice and aren't players. If anything, girls are the players. they have guys talking to them all the time and can choose which one they want. Doesn't that define a player? Someone that gets a lot of ass?

[gobsmacked3]

I possess most of these, and i have never been a 'player'

Also, I think the term is pretty much voided if women showed greater wisdom in the qualities in men they go for.

But, i guess it is always easier to play victim than it is to face up to bad choices

[Blueeyes2016]

Yeah I'm an introvert so already it's hard enough to talk to women, more often than not because of this I tend to come off the wrong way I think inadvertently. I back off for the sake of peace when a woman rejects me, i guess I take it personal. Try not to get anything stirred up remain quiet and distant even more so now that I've been rejected. Then the woman acts all different kinds standoffish?

[AdamThomas]

Some of these are wrong.

2) I have a lot of female friends. Has nothing to do with being a player. They wouldn't want to be my friend if I was one...

5) Not true. If I like a girl I will be sweet, as long as she is sweet to me. If he agrees with EVERYTHING you say however, and never disagrees with you ever, he's probably a player...

8) Sometimes a guy does care.

10) He doesn't like you, but he doesn't want to hurt you by telling you so. Move on.

You're a little too paranoid.

[sunwolf94]

I don't think the point of this list was to make everyone evaluate their special someone and yell "OH SHIT HE'S A PLAYER!" I think it's to say the TYPICAL signs of a player, and make sure that women be a little more leary of men with many of these attributes. it's not supposed to freak everyone out.

[snackeyg]

1. For most people this is just wrong.

2.He might not get along with guys. Some people are like that. If a girl has to many guy friends she's not automatically a whore/slut.

3. Completely agree with this one.

4. For the most part I agree with this also.

5. Ever heard of a nice guy? Well that's how they act.

6. This is true. A guy isn't going to be exactly the same around his friends but he shouldn't be extremely different.

7. Agreed 100%

[RMClownMASTER]

Can someone make an article about the female player? I think that would be more interesting to read. Most of things mentioned in this are obvious. When it comes to girls, deception is a little harder to figure if they are elite.

[BubbleBoy69]

Isn't a female player an attention whore?