Short and sweet and to the point. I'm a nice guy and I'm none of that shit except maybe lacking some confidence. I'm not even 100% all nice guy as much anymore and women still (in my mid 20's now) go for the asshole guys. The worst thing is now they try to date them and marry them which is going to bite them in the assignment later. The weird thing is that women find me attractive for hooking up but I'm failing to bring in the girls who want a relationship like I do. I know this sounds bad but I've turned down opportunities for sex because I'm not into the whole casual sex thing and hookup culture. Maybe I should get into that. But women do find me attractive, I just don't get out a lot anymore is the thing.
I think you guys who claim to be nice guys are way to butt hurt. I like to think I'm a good guy but I don't struggle with women like you guys talking about. The feed back I tend to get is that I'm very genuine and straight forward and personally I think it makes women more likely to sleep with me or date me because there is some predictability and interesting conversation
@Octavius My thoughts precisely. They're only really interested in women for their looks and are surprised when these women don't behave appropriately or whatever.
That's a great point. It seems like nice guys always fall for these party girls who would never have an interest in them. Meanwhile, there are nice girls around them who must seem boring or something.
I ask myself that question everday. And why do they get all upset when the girls that don't even deserve nor appreciate a good guy rejects them when there are other girls they could be chasing after?
Like WTF, never knew this was it what women thaught about "nice guys." I think you have been to much on Nine GAG or something. I am also a nice guy and not as nice afraid but just i can't become a dick. With something i share your opinion and with some i can't. + I've also seen it that the badass pussy gets the girls and so and so and so... + I've been in friendzone for years because i went to "start talking to girls." A buddy's advice. - Go and reflect on yourself to find what are your problems. Like mine are that i'm insecure and never been thaugth to talk to women. - Never Go on Nine GAG to see these memes. Helped a lot. - Start become a dick in someways or not chasing girls. That will also work.
the Whole nice guy thing is out of hand, period. For me being nice and polite is becoming a nightmare, mostly because girls thinks i'm down of getting mistreaten and then if i react and call them out for being rude they label me like an asshole. Meanwhile, the real assholes get the girls. From my own point of view, everything nowdays is fucked up - if you're decent looking and have what seems a decent instgram life you're more interesting than everyone else even if you're an asshole. THAT'S JUST A PHOTOBOOK people! So, to me, is all about the apparences nowdays. You can be a Brad Pitt (and i do not) but if you act polite too many times you end up alone if you dont have A) little to no respect to girls B) a photobook or a social media account with dozens of likes c) money. Yes, money. Nobody wants to date with bums, sad to say the truth, most women wants to be treaten like they're in the middle of a courtship with a prince. An ideal man with all his shit togheter. That's it.
and the last reason is why younger girls go with older men : they're secure, they dont act like babies and most importantly, they know there are girls everywhere. So if not one, on with the next.
I'd like for once to see if there's the male equivalent of Nice Girls, but it all seems to me that there's no such thing - either misunderstood princesses or strong indipendent women who for the sole fact that they have a vagina can treat you with the upper hand. Am i right or i wrong? i dont give a shit anymore, this "game of tag" is pointless!
@TayTay21 he says we are wrong when we say nice guys are bitter towards women, yet he made this obviously bitter mytake on how it annoys him when women don't want to fuck him, and it's unfair because he's "nice", soooo
That's just what you read into this. I think that girls like you who get so angry over guys expressing frustration don't have any men in your lives that you care for, so you lack inherent sympathy for them. Girls have a horrible double standard of feeling total justification in complaining about guys, but getting really angry when guys complain about us. You need to learn not to take their complaints so personally.
@TayTay21 Why should women be nice towards bitter, cowardly men who does nothing but moan and whine about what bitches they are? This take is prove that women are right to stay away from "nice guys"
everybody has emotions men or women there ain't no way around it and we're entitled to be bitter cause we're frustrated because we can't get with a girl because women ain't accepting us for the way we are that's the problem here that we're dealing with why I don't know the thing of the matter is I can accept a person for the way they are but why is it so hard for someone to accept me
Why do so many women hate guys who treat them with respect and thoughtfulness so much? Why do they hate it when we treat other women as such? They must be masochists. Not to mention nothing but a dog in a manger, lol!
@genuinlysensitive No woman hates a man who treats her with respect and thoughtfulness, if you do that and still no one wants you, you are seriously lacking on other areas. You always blame women for not wanting a good guy, but that is simply not true, women don't want all the bitter, whiney "nice guys" who believes they are entitled to sex because they once held a door open.
you know that whole manipulation and control thing ain't getting you women no where anymore cause it shows that your weak cause you don't know any other way to getting anything for yourself cause your too damn lazy to work for it your damn self you have to rely on others to do it for you through forcing and control
you want to call us bitter when the fact of the matter is we're not cause you want to know why we're not bitter cause we already have a good life and all that arguing because you think that we're putting on an act to make us seem like we're nice guys and that you think we're trying to get with you when your making yourself look bad because you want to argue that point to make yourself look more deemable look at me I'm right and he's wrong is that getting you anywhere even if I was getting with you I would care for your damn attitude and I'd tell you now I'd tell you to fucking kick rocks get your ass down the road
@ShaeNielson For someone who pretends to hate generalizations you sure do have a lot of them:
"No woman hates a man who treats her with respect and thoughtfullness." Multiple personal examples of that generalization being untrue, not to mention what others say.
"You blame all women..." I don't. I blame women who constantly tell other women that nice guys are frauds, are doormats etc., is it any surprise that when these women encounter men who are thoughtful and respectful they are immediately suspicious and assume we are lying? No, because certain women make a hobby out of demonizing men who act like that.
I still haven't witnessed this phenomenon where the bad boys get girls and nice guys are all loners. I think pretty much any guy with some attractive qualities gets girls. The only ones who dont , are probably pushovers or guys afraid to make a move. Or maybe its the place i live in. only girls in the us, i have heard of having a "bad boy fever". Pretty much everywhere else , masculinity is associated with good guys. Bad boy traits = douchebaggery
but that's where this MyTake comes in cause the women's thinking is ass backwards cause their thinking that us nice guys are bad guys hence why they say self proclaimed "nice guy"
Hehehehe... good thing i switched over to the dark side when i was younger huh. Sadly, im still called bitter, apparently the definition of bitter to women now is pretty much anything they want it to be. Nice guys--bitter because of non-realized feminine stupidity Guys like me- bitter because we happen to speak our mind and they don't like it Jerks--bitter because some girl broke their heart/mommy issues... sigh...
U r telling that nice guys r being rejected but most of the time we girls are not able to figure out who actually the nice guy is... The problem is nice guys usually gives up on girls n bad guys who pretend to be nice keep trying so the problem to this solution is nice guys should Hv little confident on themselves at least they should start loving themselves then only a girl will able to love her...
and that's our problem why that you can't figure out who actually is a nice guy do you want to know why we give up on you well I'll tell you why go around asking out girls then they turn you down cause they only want to be friends when in fact that the girls just degraded themselves for turning down the nice guys same goes for the next girl then the next girl then the next girl then after awhile you just get sick of it then you pick yourself up and try to do it all over again and this is while that the nice guy is going for the girl because the girls want the men to do the work and try to get with them then we do so for awhile all the while the anger is building to the point to where you're bitter and you don't know how to feel cause the girls don't give you a straight answer why what your doing wrong that's largely why we give up and say fuck it it ain't worth all the headaches to put in the effort when women's attitude is when they want you to do all the work into getting the women
One of the reasons women say they "love bad boys" is that "they need to be fixed." So do a lot of nice guys. Most of us have poorly developed social skills. We need to be helped, just like the "bad boys." that women get so wet over.
If what you're doing isn't getting you the results you want, find out what DOES work and do that.
This applies to anything. Dating, sports, fitness, business, whatever.
But I guess it's easier for some people to whine and expect the world to change to suit their expectations. 'Nice' guys are a lot like feminists in that regard.
I actually go through 4, but I don't hate men for it. I've never been in a relationship because I am not pretty, but I don't get bitter towards guys at all. The hatred is directed at myself instead and my looks. I am going to be 30 soon, but I've never been in a relationship.
Excellent take. If I could just expand on #1. Why is it women have so much hate for nice guys? If a man lies about being single, and she finds out, women typically don't go on rants and bash all married men. They bash lairs! And rightfully so! But when guys lie about being nice, for some stupid reason, the don't bash liars, they bash nice guys! WTF ladies?
My boyfriend is nice and not bitter, a woman hater, or a wolf on sheep's clothing. I really can't believe this (the nice guy lament) is a thing. Nice sweet guys, I love them 😚😘😍
Maybe of you want to convince the world you're a nice guy, don't write a bitter take about how horrible women are and how much of an innocent victim you are. You're proving their point.
Free world... I guess its ok to say guys are all assholes, guys only want to use girls, guys only think about 1 thing, talk about gender equality in world that is getting under strong feminist influence and demonizing everything that is male. Guess writing something like this and sharing honest and open opinion about something like this just make you bad person and not just bad person make you misoginist, hateful cry baby woos who is worse than Hitler and devil combined.
Not really women are proving his points dince every week i see a mytake from women about nice guys. Do you know how many women have walked up too me and told me i seem like a true gentmen or how many guys have told me i seem like a nice person? I all ready have a girlfriend as of 4 days ago so am not bitching about women rejecting me. But even this girl at first rejected me then quckly fall in love with me with in 8 months... she says she doesn't know wtf i did to earn her truest so fast unlike manny man before me. I don't know what i ddi eather to earn her truest besides be myself but no matter what i do even if its sexual she will look me in the eye and say i truest you. Now as for the victim mentality i can understand how so many have that when so many girls not women can't make up their fucking mind and will lead a guy on. Lets just say i been aroud the block heard some storys and been througg some shit myself.. had 1 girl cheated on me after saying she loves me everyday
And been through a forced break up by my ex parents she end up with a dick. Wanna know how i know he was Dick? Becuase she told me from her own mouth he was a dick and she feels like nothing but a peace of ass too him yet still with him. So the sad truth is some women like man that treat them like a objected or like shit not all women but some do. So am sorry some guys are bitter but so many women are dumb i can name a few right now. I got 1 friend who back with her ex boyfriend who lefted her with 2 dead babys. Explan that? Another girl back with a cheated explan that as will? another girl back with a guy who made a porn tape and posted on his facebook. Explan that? Some women are just dumb and sadly many guys dont see good women anymore its the sad truth
Yea it does suck but they will realize it when it too late... am with a new. Girl and why its not like what i had with my ex girlfriend.. she makes me happpy and i truly love her. And even better shebloves me for who i am as a person and truest me so much it makes me afarid
There ist a certain amount of truth to this, however all nice guys (myself included) go through what i call the 'doormat' phase, once they work out that you don't get the girl you're after by being a doormat, nice guys actually turn out to be fairly successful with women (at least i am anyway)
"Nice guys are victims" Victims of what? Not getting sex when they are "entitled" to it. The first thing that any man needs to realize in this world is that women have the right to date whom they wish.
this is all wrong because it depends on the person. as if every nice guy lacks confidence while there is so many different personalities out there. every girl has their own preference and type of guy.
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Short and sweet and to the point. I'm a nice guy and I'm none of that shit except maybe lacking some confidence. I'm not even 100% all nice guy as much anymore and women still (in my mid 20's now) go for the asshole guys. The worst thing is now they try to date them and marry them which is going to bite them in the assignment later. The weird thing is that women find me attractive for hooking up but I'm failing to bring in the girls who want a relationship like I do. I know this sounds bad but I've turned down opportunities for sex because I'm not into the whole casual sex thing and hookup culture. Maybe I should get into that. But women do find me attractive, I just don't get out a lot anymore is the thing.
I think you guys who claim to be nice guys are way to butt hurt. I like to think I'm a good guy but I don't struggle with women like you guys talking about. The feed back I tend to get is that I'm very genuine and straight forward and personally I think it makes women more likely to sleep with me or date me because there is some predictability and interesting conversation
Why are nice guys attracted to women who make bad relationship decisions?
They're nice but they don't care if the girls nice only if they're hot.
Oh and they're also probably just not actually nice...
@Octavius My thoughts precisely. They're only really interested in women for their looks and are surprised when these women don't behave appropriately or whatever.
They're not
That's a great point. It seems like nice guys always fall for these party girls who would never have an interest in them. Meanwhile, there are nice girls around them who must seem boring or something.
@TayTay21 your wrong we don't go for the bad girls not me at least
@TayTay21 Exactly. I see that happen ALL the time.
I ask myself that question everday. And why do they get all upset when the girls that don't even deserve nor appreciate a good guy rejects them when there are other girls they could be chasing after?
Like WTF, never knew this was it what women thaught about "nice guys."
I think you have been to much on Nine GAG or something.
I am also a nice guy and not as nice afraid but just i can't become a dick.
With something i share your opinion and with some i can't.
+ I've also seen it that the badass pussy gets the girls and so and so and so...
+ I've been in friendzone for years because i went to "start talking to girls." A buddy's advice.
- Go and reflect on yourself to find what are your problems. Like mine are that i'm insecure and never been thaugth to talk to women.
- Never Go on Nine GAG to see these memes. Helped a lot.
- Start become a dick in someways or not chasing girls. That will also work.
Go work on yourself and stop whining!
the Whole nice guy thing is out of hand, period.
For me being nice and polite is becoming a nightmare, mostly because girls thinks i'm down of getting mistreaten and then if i react and call them out for being rude they label me like an asshole. Meanwhile, the real assholes get the girls. From my own point of view, everything nowdays is fucked up - if you're decent looking and have what seems a decent instgram life you're more interesting than everyone else even if you're an asshole. THAT'S JUST A PHOTOBOOK people! So, to me, is all about the apparences nowdays. You can be a Brad Pitt (and i do not) but if you act polite too many times you end up alone if you dont have A) little to no respect to girls B) a photobook or a social media account with dozens of likes c) money.
Yes, money. Nobody wants to date with bums, sad to say the truth, most women wants to be treaten like they're in the middle of a courtship with a prince. An ideal man with all his shit togheter. That's it.
and the last reason is why younger girls go with older men : they're secure, they dont act like babies and most importantly, they know there are girls everywhere. So if not one, on with the next.
I'd like for once to see if there's the male equivalent of Nice Girls, but it all seems to me that there's no such thing - either misunderstood princesses or strong indipendent women who for the sole fact that they have a vagina can treat you with the upper hand. Am i right or i wrong? i dont give a shit anymore, this "game of tag" is pointless!
aw look guys it's another bitter nice guy how cute (:
You're unwittingly proving his point.
@TayTay21 he says we are wrong when we say nice guys are bitter towards women, yet he made this obviously bitter mytake on how it annoys him when women don't want to fuck him, and it's unfair because he's "nice", soooo
That's just what you read into this. I think that girls like you who get so angry over guys expressing frustration don't have any men in your lives that you care for, so you lack inherent sympathy for them. Girls have a horrible double standard of feeling total justification in complaining about guys, but getting really angry when guys complain about us. You need to learn not to take their complaints so personally.
@TayTay21 You sound like a very nice wise lady.
@TayTay21 Why should women be nice towards bitter, cowardly men who does nothing but moan and whine about what bitches they are?
This take is prove that women are right to stay away from "nice guys"
@ShaeNielson always reduced to name calling does it get you anywhere I want to ask you that
does it make you feel better
everybody has emotions men or women there ain't no way around it and we're entitled to be bitter cause we're frustrated because we can't get with a girl because women ain't accepting us for the way we are that's the problem here that we're dealing with why I don't know the thing of the matter is I can accept a person for the way they are but why is it so hard for someone to accept me
Why do so many women hate guys who treat them with respect and thoughtfulness so much? Why do they hate it when we treat other women as such? They must be masochists. Not to mention nothing but a dog in a manger, lol!
@CancerianMan81 Does being a hypersensitive victim get you anywhere?
@genuinlysensitive No woman hates a man who treats her with respect and thoughtfulness, if you do that and still no one wants you, you are seriously lacking on other areas. You always blame women for not wanting a good guy, but that is simply not true, women don't want all the bitter, whiney "nice guys" who believes they are entitled to sex because they once held a door open.
@ShaeNielson You're as mad as a box of frogs
@ShaeNielson it does for me cause it makes me stronger as a person
you know that whole manipulation and control thing ain't getting you women no where anymore cause it shows that your weak cause you don't know any other way to getting anything for yourself cause your too damn lazy to work for it your damn self you have to rely on others to do it for you through forcing and control
and do i give a shit that you think I'm a hypersensitive victim not really
you want to call us bitter when the fact of the matter is we're not cause you want to know why we're not bitter cause we already have a good life and all that arguing because you think that we're putting on an act to make us seem like we're nice guys and that you think we're trying to get with you when your making yourself look bad because you want to argue that point to make yourself look more deemable look at me I'm right and he's wrong is that getting you anywhere even if I was getting with you I would care for your damn attitude and I'd tell you now I'd tell you to fucking kick rocks get your ass down the road
@CancerianMan81 Good for you, hun.
@ShaeNielson For someone who pretends to hate generalizations you sure do have a lot of them:
"No woman hates a man who treats her with respect and thoughtfullness." Multiple personal examples of that generalization being untrue, not to mention what others say.
"You blame all women..." I don't. I blame women who constantly tell other women that nice guys are frauds, are doormats etc., is it any surprise that when these women encounter men who are thoughtful and respectful they are immediately suspicious and assume we are lying? No, because certain women make a hobby out of demonizing men who act like that.
@genuinlysensitive So well said.
Being confident and nice are not mutually exclusive.
What you are describing is simply lack of maturity.
maturity comes with being confident cause age plays a role
you don't get weaker as time goes on
I still haven't witnessed this phenomenon where the bad boys get girls and nice guys are all loners.
I think pretty much any guy with some attractive qualities gets girls. The only ones who dont , are probably pushovers or guys afraid to make a move.
Or maybe its the place i live in. only girls in the us, i have heard of having a "bad boy fever".
Pretty much everywhere else , masculinity is associated with good guys. Bad boy traits = douchebaggery
but that's where this MyTake comes in cause the women's thinking is ass backwards cause their thinking that us nice guys are bad guys hence why they say self proclaimed "nice guy"
their putting up a front
Hehehehe... good thing i switched over to the dark side when i was younger huh. Sadly, im still called bitter, apparently the definition of bitter to women now is pretty much anything they want it to be.
Nice guys--bitter because of non-realized feminine stupidity
Guys like me- bitter because we happen to speak our mind and they don't like it
Jerks--bitter because some girl broke their heart/mommy issues...
sigh...
U r telling that nice guys r being rejected but most of the time we girls are not able to figure out who actually the nice guy is... The problem is nice guys usually gives up on girls n bad guys who pretend to be nice keep trying so the problem to this solution is nice guys should Hv little confident on themselves at least they should start loving themselves then only a girl will able to love her...
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and that's our problem why that you can't figure out who actually is a nice guy do you want to know why we give up on you well I'll tell you why go around asking out girls then they turn you down cause they only want to be friends when in fact that the girls just degraded themselves for turning down the nice guys same goes for the next girl then the next girl then the next girl then after awhile you just get sick of it then you pick yourself up and try to do it all over again and this is while that the nice guy is going for the girl because the girls want the men to do the work and try to get with them then we do so for awhile all the while the anger is building to the point to where you're bitter and you don't know how to feel cause the girls don't give you a straight answer why what your doing wrong that's largely why we give up and say fuck it it ain't worth all the headaches to put in the effort when women's attitude is when they want you to do all the work into getting the women
@CancerianMan81 dude its too long... feeling sleepy after reading this
but did you read it all
@CancerianMan81 no I didn't...
@CancerianMan81 can u write the conclusion of this para
the conclusion of it is I have to deal with all the time
so you didn't is the problem
One of the reasons women say they "love bad boys" is that "they need to be fixed." So do a lot of nice guys. Most of us have poorly developed social skills. We need to be helped, just like the "bad boys." that women get so wet over.
the other misjudgement is that nice guys are unattractive. otherwise, good take - not so dissimilar in it's meaning to one I wrote recently:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a28782-7-reasons-why-nice-girls-will-always-finish-last-satirical-response
You know, it's pretty simple:
If what you're doing isn't getting you the results you want, find out what DOES work and do that.
This applies to anything. Dating, sports, fitness, business, whatever.
But I guess it's easier for some people to whine and expect the world to change to suit their expectations. 'Nice' guys are a lot like feminists in that regard.
I actually go through 4, but I don't hate men for it. I've never been in a relationship because I am not pretty, but I don't get bitter towards guys at all. The hatred is directed at myself instead and my looks. I am going to be 30 soon, but I've never been in a relationship.
Online dating? Try long distance too
Excellent take. If I could just expand on #1. Why is it women have so much hate for nice guys? If a man lies about being single, and she finds out, women typically don't go on rants and bash all married men. They bash lairs! And rightfully so! But when guys lie about being nice, for some stupid reason, the don't bash liars, they bash nice guys! WTF ladies?
My boyfriend is nice and not bitter, a woman hater, or a wolf on sheep's clothing. I really can't believe this (the nice guy lament) is a thing. Nice sweet guys, I love them 😚😘😍
But you're not a nice guy so I don't know why you'd be upset.
Maybe of you want to convince the world you're a nice guy, don't write a bitter take about how horrible women are and how much of an innocent victim you are. You're proving their point.
Free world... I guess its ok to say guys are all assholes, guys only want to use girls, guys only think about 1 thing, talk about gender equality in world that is getting under strong feminist influence and demonizing everything that is male. Guess writing something like this and sharing honest and open opinion about something like this just make you bad person and not just bad person make you misoginist, hateful cry baby woos who is worse than Hitler and devil combined.
@SinisterS Don't assume Im a hypocrite unless you have something to base it on.
Not really women are proving his points dince every week i see a mytake from women about nice guys. Do you know how many women have walked up too me and told me i seem like a true gentmen or how many guys have told me i seem like a nice person? I all ready have a girlfriend as of 4 days ago so am not bitching about women rejecting me. But even this girl at first rejected me then quckly fall in love with me with in 8 months... she says she doesn't know wtf i did to earn her truest so fast unlike manny man before me. I don't know what i ddi eather to earn her truest besides be myself but no matter what i do even if its sexual she will look me in the eye and say i truest you. Now as for the victim mentality i can understand how so many have that when so many girls not women can't make up their fucking mind and will lead a guy on. Lets just say i been aroud the block heard some storys and been througg some shit myself.. had 1 girl cheated on me after saying she loves me everyday
And been through a forced break up by my ex parents she end up with a dick. Wanna know how i know he was Dick? Becuase she told me from her own mouth he was a dick and she feels like nothing but a peace of ass too him yet still with him. So the sad truth is some women like man that treat them like a objected or like shit not all women but some do. So am sorry some guys are bitter but so many women are dumb i can name a few right now. I got 1 friend who back with her ex boyfriend who lefted her with 2 dead babys. Explan that? Another girl back with a cheated explan that as will? another girl back with a guy who made a porn tape and posted on his facebook. Explan that? Some women are just dumb and sadly many guys dont see good women anymore its the sad truth
@skykidx1 You hit the nail on the head. It's women's stupidity that is the most frustrating, constantly going for men who treat them badly. Idiots.
Yea it does suck but they will realize it when it too late... am with a new. Girl and why its not like what i had with my ex girlfriend.. she makes me happpy and i truly love her. And even better shebloves me for who i am as a person and truest me so much it makes me afarid
There ist a certain amount of truth to this, however all nice guys (myself included) go through what i call the 'doormat' phase, once they work out that you don't get the girl you're after by being a doormat, nice guys actually turn out to be fairly successful with women (at least i am anyway)
"Nice guys are victims" Victims of what? Not getting sex when they are "entitled" to it. The first thing that any man needs to realize in this world is that women have the right to date whom they wish.
Sure, but rejecting good guys and breeding with assholes has resulted in a toxic society.
Our society is not that bad. Crime rates are declining.
this is all wrong because it depends on the person. as if every nice guy lacks confidence while there is so many different personalities out there. every girl has their own preference and type of guy.