Dating As A Black Man, and Why it Remains Difficult (Page 3)
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Well, I am mixed with white and black. My mom is white, and my dad is black. So I get the best of both worlds. I don't really have a specific race that I would want to date. I just want someone who will treat me like I should be treated. I don't care if you are white, black, mixed, Asian, Latino, Middle Eastern. I just want someone who loves me for me
Im the same way, but i tend to lean more towards white or Hispanic men..
@MeganKiLLs Of course. Most women do.
yeah lmao its pretty dumb. I had to get super jacked and really improve my looks to get any attention. At least they want a black guys whos like half white and I've heard dumb stuff like "im not racist i just specifically dont like black guys"
and im just here like "uhh ok".
I have to do the same thing. I cannot be a regular looking black guy to get attention. For example... I cannot just wear a t-shirt, pants, shoes.
I have to wear blazers, fitted jeans, boots... just to get some attention from the ladies.
Also... the women that I do meet that like black guys... they prefer the light skinned black guys. Lol. So, if you are a light skinned guy, you will do better with women.
YOOOOOOOOOOOO YOU CAN RELATE LMAOOOOOOO
I know exactly what you are talking about and I try to ride the fine line between the two stereotypes but ultimately, i tend not to let it get to me.
If I lock on to a target, all her stereotypes can kiss my ass...
You are aware that white female black male relationships are a lot more common than the reverse right.
Well you don't need to cry because you are not alone. According to Okcupid, Asian men are the ones having the 2nd least respond compare to everyone else. However, Asian men earn more than anyone else including white men.
black guys are actually my type. i have only been with black guys. One i was out with once was a nerdy black guy, he was a wimp but i did like him. And another one i like acts kinda like a thug but he is going to college far away now.
I assume you're a white girl, right?
nope mixed
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yeah lol
I haven't seen this at all. All I see when I go out is black guys being with either white or Latina girls. And I see black women with white guys too. No one cares.
nah... white girls love black guys, maybe more so than they do white guys. and it is just a preference.
I would never write "no blacks" on my online dating profile though. that's just a crude and insensitive way of putting it.
That;s a major crock of shit. You either know a bunch of nasty ass whiteys or you're projecting your own love of the crusty purple dong.
@Supersonic_Sex_Ninja
I don't know what you're talking about. For one thing I'm straight, for another thing I prefer white girls. I just happen to see a lot of white girls that are totally infatuated with black guys... and more power to them.
ill rather date a Hispanic or white guy but i dont mind being friends with blacks
Oh... I understand. Everyone likes what they like. Now... I want you to imagine being told that "you are not good enough to date because of your skin color" basically everyday and by black women as well. Everyone prefers the white boy first and then the hispanic guy, because they are similar to white guys, but slightly more tan.
I think its more of the soft facial features..
The cute catty eyes/eyebrows, nose, soft lips and the hair plays a big part..
I love Latinos <3
Hollywood brainwashing of white men as prince charming heroes and black men as stereotypical players.
See- Will Smith constant character portrayal in romantic comedies for example.
I prefer Black and dark Hispanic men, actually, I love tattoo's, and I don't think one "thug" is all the black men in the Black race.
@Vivaldi
@Vivaldi Even if it was the case... so what?
@Giacomanzo
It sure is the case.
@Vivaldi then again, so what?
@Giacomanzo
You must be very content with the case.
@Vivaldi Everyone gets to decide what they like or what they like not. If most women like muscular men, as you say, then become one, instead of blaming them. I've being going to the gym since January, and I'm trying to achieve some results starting from a far worse point than you, so you can do the same.
@Giacomanzo
@Giacomanzo
They also prefer tall muscular guys. I am short.
If you are as short as 172 cm, dont bother going to gym. It doesn't make you any better. You already lose your chance with your height.
@Vivaldi You are just ranting.
@Giacomanzo
I am 172 cm. I am short.
@Vivaldi One of my friend is probably under 170. Yet he has been with his current girlfriend since the 3rd year of high school, and before that he has been with lots of different girls.
@Giacomanzo
He must be too handsome then.
It's certainly harder but the options are still plentiful. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Online dating in general isn't really that great for men, so I tend to avoid it
For a second, I thought you were the one wrote this take lol
@BuchitaBuchys hell's naw xD
Do you feel it's hard for you?
It's harder than it would be if I were white, no question. I'd actually consider online dating if I were white. I'm way better than most guys at not coming across as generic on dating sites/apps, but you get written off quickly if you're black. It's very common (as mentioned in the take) to come across profiles that outright say not to contact them if you're black. With all that being said though... I'm a tactician at heart, and so I don't really allow these hurdles to stop me from getting what I want at the end of the day :)
just came back to this and i noticed i forgot to tag ya so you could see my reply lol
@BuchitaBuchys
Hey I feel you bro but don't give up there are still girls, (like me but
I dont know you like that) who are African American who love African American men. I too have nothing against interracial dating, but people like me find that it is much easier to date other African Americans because there is that Empathic Connection that people who are not African American cannot truly grasp. "I know your pain because I feel it everyday and we need someone to say I know and that It will get better" so yeah man don't give up perhaps you should try different types of women or different places because there are many sisters that are still and forever will be down for our black men.
Oh and P. S. want to escape the stereotypes and hatred? African Americans are trying a new tactic which is COME OVER TO THE WEST INDIES! WE LOVE YA AND HEY GUESS WHAT, WE'RE BLACK TOO! I myself am half west indian (St. Kitts and Nevis) It is literally an island in a chain of 20 islands that are filled with educated, kind black women and our population on the islands are dwindling. Please come here, you get more for your money, you can escape this society of ridicule and hatred and its a place that loves people like yourself come home!
well I'm Middle eastern girl who is white (white skinned) and I think Black guys and girls are really beautiful <3 <3 I'm sorry about the bad experiences you went through.
oh :/ don't take online dating seriously..
i hope you'll find yourself a nice girl soon!
Exactly online dating just show the nutjobs, pervs and assholes of the internet.
And those woman are just saving you time!! You'll find someone that is worth you and on your level. You may have to wait but once you find the one it'll be worth the wait!
Where did you live before Texas? Just curious as to how you compare the places you've lived in regards to the subject matter.
I lived in Vermont. It's extremely white. Like, I was literally the only black kid in my school when I lived there. Only dated white women then, which was easier, because that's all Vermont had to offer.
I guess that would be a drastic change. Here in California it seems everyone dates everyone.
I can't speak from personal experience, being white, but at the companies I've worked at I've noticed most of my black male co-workers are not in a relationship. They are generally educated, well-dressed, and not particularly shy (for engineers, anyway). The only two who were married were married to a white woman and an Asian woman.
Not all black women just like thugs and white guys.
Good luck with your dating.
I wrote a Featured myTake about this very topic. Granted, it focused more on women of color instead of men of color.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a28231-why-you-should-embrace-your-own-skin-color
It could just be that they just aren't physically attracted to black guys. Its not like they can help it. Plus, why aren't you whining about the SAME THING for when girls say "No White Guys" on their post? its not just 1 race.