Dating Outside Your Race for the Right Reasons
I'm sure we've all heard:
"I don't date people within my own race."
This often stems from various issues whether it be self hate or fetishes. Either way, when choosing a partner, it should be for the right reasons. If you do ever decide to date outside of your race, here are some dos and don'ts:
Reasons Why You Should Date Outside of Your Race:
- Because you love / care about who the individual is as a person, not what color their skin is
- Because there are wonderful people inside and out of every race
- To show people love has no boundaries
- There's an honest emotional connection
Reasons Why You Shouldn't Date Outside of Your Race:
Self Hatred / Detachment:
The above is the Brazilian painting "The Redemption of Ham" by Modesto Brocos, depicting the process of "cleansing" the race in Brazil. Many people don't love themselves as they are due to constant reinforcement about everything that's wrong with them so they try to detach themselves as much as possible. Unfortunately, this won't make you feel better about yourself; it'll only feed a lie you're telling yourself and the pain within.
Don't get me started on the amount of people I've met who date people outside their race simply to make their parents mad. Just don't do it. It'll end in more pain than gain.
Mixed Baby Fetish
Yes, mixed children are absolutely beautiful, but so are non mixed children. Your child will be beautiful regardless. Kids are a responsibility, not an accessory, so we shouldn't be trying to breed a certain look, especially since mixed kids don't always look mixed.
When You Date Outside of Your Race for the Wrong Reasons:
Dating outside of your race for the wrong reasons often leads to an even larger problem than what you began with. Doing it to detach yourself from your own race won't remove the internal pain you've been hiding but feed the flame because you'll still be reminded everyday of who you are. Doing it for revenge might cost someone their life. As for babies, not all mixed babies are cute.
If you're going to date someone, do it for love! Not for something petty and/orsuperficial."
Disclaimer: This is not a take against dating outside of your race. You should be with whomever you choose to be with and feel connected to.