6 Reasons Why I'm Giving Up On These So-Called "Men" (For a While)

6 Reasons Why I'm Giving Up On These So-Called "Men" (For a While)

I'm not dumb enough to say I'm swearing off guys entirely. I'm sure I'll want to be with someone again at some point in my life. But for now, let's just say I'm sick and tired of the whole thing.

I see a lot of myTakes on here from guys who are bitching and whining about how women treat them (and in fact, all men), which has resulted in a whole lot of pro-MGTOW posts and "it's the woman's fault that she won't go out with me." What a steaming load of self-loathing, defeatist, pathetic bullshit.

THIS right here is one of the big reasons why I'm giving up on guys. Maybe when they start acting like real men again, I can give it another try. Anyway, let's start here-

6. I've learned how to be content by myself

6 Reasons Why I'm Giving Up On These So-Called "Men" (For a While)

There was a time when I couldn't do it at all. If I wasn't with a boyfriend, my girl friends, or family, I'd be a basket-case. I was one of those people who'd have the TV on during the day if I was home alone and I wasn't going to be seeing anyone that day. I'd call people just so say "hi" so I could hear someone else's voice. I had difficulty entertaining myself and felt anxious and depressed when I was alone.

But I'm past that. I've developed a few hobbies - yeah, more of you should try that - and I've found that having some "me time" is incredibly healthy and therapeutic. I now love my "me time."

5. I think guys might be even more narrow-minded than they were when I was younger...

6 Reasons Why I'm Giving Up On These So-Called "Men" (For a While)

Is that even possible? I mean, sure, there's the eternal stereotype that guys only care about one thing, but I never really started to believe it until this year. I just think men are so hell-bent on the sexual relationship and how a woman looks that they can't see anything else. I know guys - especially around here - accuse girls of being superficial and materialistic; i.e., they're "all about looks" but honestly, I'm seeing that in men more often. Their excuse for not wanting to date anybody who isn't drop-dead gorgeous is, "oh, I have a right to want what I want."

Yeah, well, so do I. And you guys are just getting dumber and even more obsessed with sex than you ever were before. I don't know how you managed it, but you did.

4. I'm not a FemiNazi or even a feminist so stop treating me as if I'm OPPRESSING you!

6 Reasons Why I'm Giving Up On These So-Called "Men" (For a While)

I'm especially tired of this crap. It's as if every guy today has their FemiNazi radar beeping like mad, and they're going to grill you about your allegiances before they agree to date you. The instant you say anything even remotely resembling independence or maturity (which aren't gender-specific, by the way), they're quick to fire off the labels and run away. I believe an age gap exists in certain scenarios and no, I don't believe a woman should be paid more, or should be given a job, just because she's a woman. I wouldn't vote for Clinton just because she's a woman.

Stop fucking pigeonholing me!

3. Sex isn't just about you, believe it or not

6 Reasons Why I'm Giving Up On These So-Called "Men" (For a While)

Yeah, I know, another stereotype: all men are selfish in bed. They're not, I know they're not. They just seem to be getting more selfish as time goes on and furthermore, they're starting to use sex as a relationship WMD. If you don't put out enough, you're ignoring him. If you have enough sex, he wonders if you're only doing it to appease him. He believes foreplay isn't really necessary after a certain amount of time together and frankly, he's "had a long day" so the sex should be about him. I've yet to meet a guy who was more worried about my pleasure than his own.

Selfish doesn't even begin to describe it. And really, guys...maybe take some lessons or something. The last few guys I was with were just terrible.

2. I find I hit goals faster and easier when single

6 Reasons Why I'm Giving Up On These So-Called "Men" (For a While)

Call it whatever you want but it's true. At least for me. If I set a personal or professional goal, I've found I'm far more likely to hit that goal, and more likely to hit it faster, if I'm not in a relationship. I used to think relationships would only enhance my drive and ambition and productivity and all that. But after enough experience, I've started to notice that it's backwards. Most of the time, the relationship crap just gets in the way and slows everything down. This tended to happen even in the good relationships and there never seemed to be a way around it.

A guy can support me and cheer me on, which I appreciate. But inevitably, my personal goals take a back seat at times. If I want to really get stuff done, it just helps if I'm alone.

1. Guys have just become man-babies

6 Reasons Why I'm Giving Up On These So-Called "Men" (For a While)

This is what I was leading up to in the intro. Seriously, many of the guys I've encountered recently have just been the biggest bunch of whining losers I've ever met. They whine about everything! They whine about how they can't get girls and when they do get girls, they whine about how much sex they have or just how the girl acts in general. They whine about girls putting too much emphasis on work and then whine when girls work less and expect the guy to pay more. They can find a way to whine about absolutely anything, I swear.

What happened to MEN? Where the hell did they go?! You know what, until they come back, I'm good on my own.

6 Reasons Why I'm Giving Up On These So-Called "Men" (For a While)
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  • Relentless_Hippie
    Like seriously what is even up with people? Life is not that hard, being in a healthy happy loving relationship isn't either. Where do you even meet these guys? Because I've never seen these types of people anywhere else other than gag. I feel like it's a self fulfilling prophecy, you go into the world with a certain mindset about others and subconsciously work your way into meeting them just prove your bias is right. Nobody in my life acts lie that, and men have been some of the most amazing, intelligent, and truest of friends I've ever encountered. People are just weird, I'd rather live a life full of love then turning bitter and hating people. The generalizations people use to describe all or most men or women, is the same thing racists do when discussing people they hate. They all are just so, so very stupid.
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    Is this still revelant?
    • SmokemJay

      Thank you... While I agree with her on SOME men blaming everyone else... Isn't she doing the same?

    • @SmokemJay She is yeah. Within the first paragraph she contradicted herself. I don't really see her as being much different than the MGTOW guys.

    • SmokemJay

      I agree. She's obviously doing something wrong like those MGTOW fags and instead of addressing it she's just turning in a WGTOW... just saying lol...

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  • 1derweye
    I'm sorry for your loss of respect of my entire gender, pretty.
    Sincerely, I understand the cumulative damage a series of terrible experiences can inflict on an ideologically-optimistic mind.
    Right now, I know you'll find it very difficult to accept some of the wisdom offered to you here. Some of the responses are profoundly relevant, however I'm not here to point them out to you. I am here to plead for your own sake. Please, revisit this thread frequently, once you can honestly consider what has been contributed. Of course, distinguishing what addresses your issues will be the challenge. Your degree of self-honesty is the only gauge that will serve you. When you can grasp the reason in a remark that deeply disturbs you, only then will you feel the overwhelming weight burdening you now, evaporate into a rush of realizations and epiphanies that oddly... make sense. In spite of what you may have wanted to interpret from them.
    I am a Man that is confident in reassuring you, there are those among us that possess a much broader scope of understanding, patience, consideration... and the capacity to passionately and unconditionally Love a Woman, than you have yet to be exposed to. Just as with the loss of a close friend or relative, you're grieving for a loss in your life you had much stake in.
    If you can retain that perspective, ascending it's gradual and defined steps, as the process Grief is, the isolation you feel from your Hope abandoning you, will eventually assume a manageable state that you can finally poke your head up from.
    A brighter World awaits you.
    If you can not rise above the anger from your loss of Hope, you will make no such healing transitions, in a process that Human Nature took hundreds of thousands of years to perfect.
    Please, let it work FOR you, pretty. Don't fight to retain a bitterness, when you feel it begin to slip away.

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  • Sinister
    First and foremost, I can get the amount of lame guys out there, I think it's just the time and period of how things are changing and for whatever reason you are right there's alotta man babies out there. Second, the simple fact you used ALL men in the parenthese is just half wrong. Wrong because you have not dated ALL men to come into that conclusion, BUT from ALL the men you have dated then yeah you are right. There is a huge problem with a lot of guys not all that don't have a higher level of emotional intelligence to put someone instead of themselves first. They still want to put themselves as number ones but when you are in a r/s there has to be a equal level and a communication between both guy and girl that BOTH are going to put the other first. That way you have someone looking out for your best interest as you are doing the same for them. I may seem like I am on a high horse, but I am not. I am just saying that there are a lot of circumstantials that go into play here. The level and ease of having access to instant gratification with techonology, girls being more open to express their sexuality, wanting more equality, there's too many double standards on both genders, media only construing and spewing out more bullcrap and people not being smart enough with common sense to know what's real and what's not... there's sooo many more subjects to hit. Trust me it's not just you! There's a huge gap as far as education as well, like girls getting education done at a faster rate than girls and moving into career positions where some guys are not going to higher education, focusing on other things that they deem more important. Lastly, taking time for yourself I applause you that is a positive thing but it can become a negative if you let it. Too much of a good thing is actually a bad thing... I feel I am going off topic so I will stop now.
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  • AleDeEurope
    You're 31, in a couple years your vagina would be more dry than a barbie's vagina, so you better stop acting like those men you're complaining about.
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    • zagor

      Barbie's have vagina's? They must have changed since I was a 5 year old looking under the skirts of my sisters Barbies.

    • A lot of older women say their sex drives went through the roof after 30. How, I have no idea since lots of people have health conditions and severe hormonal issues by then but...

    • rjroy3

      @SovereignessofVamps I honestly think that's a fantasy. They're might be an emotional rush to get pregnant while they still can. Or psychological factors like wanting to feel attractive again after being mom and raising kids for years. But the idea women become raging sex addicts in older age, from what I can tell is largely false.

      It makes more sense that older single women who hope their looks hold out long enough to get a man are more loose, because they're trying to lock in a guy vs actually being hornier than when they were younger. I know a lot of dads that will tell you their sex life did not increase with age.

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  • karahiri
    Clearly the men of GaG are hurt by your words. :p

    Anyways- taking a break sounds like a good idea.
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  • castratedwhiteguy
    You say your not a feminist but everything you've said here parrots the feminist line that men have had shoved down their throats since the late 1960's. Almost 50 years of feminist social engeneering has made it almost impossible for men and women to form lasting long term marrage committments. As Pat Benetar said back in the early 1980's, "No promises, no demands". In one sentance, Pat Benetar spelled out the new rules quite clearly to a clueless generation of baby boomers. It's taken 35 years, but now these young guys have finally gotten the memo. At this point, our moral compass has fallen so low that right now it really is just all about the sex, so deal with it.

    If your job is that great and so important to you then don't evpect some knight in shining armor to ride in and sweep you off of your feet because a real man doesn't give a damn about your job and he sure as hell doesn't need your money. If you can't be a good mother for his kids and committ to that end 100% then a real man has no use for you. If you choose this lifestyle then expect "No promises, no demands".
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  • LittleSally
    HAHAHAHA Good Lawd! If I could crown you the queen of mytakes for the month JUST FOR THIS, (and I had that say) I definitely would!

    Can't agree more on every syllable in here... Unconsciously, I've done the same. For now.

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  • NexAngelus
    umm does this article PROVE that she is the problem? she won't lift a FINGER to solve her own issues... im going to use my favorite word here i reserve for my favorite people. someone get this cunt out of here. people like here are why this world is fucked up. she is oppressed and men are more narrow minded? i dont see her in a fucking kitchen bitch. where the hell is this oppression she speaks of. im sick of these dumb ass bitches who seem to think that gods green earth *not religious* was designed for them and that all the oceans shall part for their mostly ugly asses. we have to read these bull shit articles about body shaming because they are too dam lazy to go exercise, yet have to read all these articles about how men are getting lazy and should pick up the slack. so men MUST be in shape to find a mate, but women just need a hole and tits and good to go ship them to the glue factory... im not even going to finish this, my blood pressure went up just thinking about all the dumb bitches and their shopping lists/create a bear lists and other bull shit they pull. the world is designed for them and they still complain complain complain about how something is not fair. what isn't fair? i know life isn't fair... we dont have tits and can't flash them around and get away with everything but do u see us crying about it? holy fuck. im guessing some of these guys she talks about are chick "frames" 98 pounds when wet. look just like girls but lacking the parts. thats not a tranny joke thats a joke about them being little boys not grown ass men.
  • ThunderButt83
    actually the real way of asking this is.
    "where are all the REAL WOMEN?''
    it seems your all dumb bitches who dont have compassion and dont see how cruel you dumb fucks are.
    so go ahead stay single no one will ever love you. anyways.
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  • FemaleAssassin
    Men on GAG are appearantly the most emotional whiners out there lol, if men are like that in real life then we should all go homo!! 😃
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  • roamer
    Your go-girl-power-men-are-babies mind set is fleeting. With age comes maturity and earned perspective so this too shall pass. Society has programmed us against our natural instincts and everyone is suffering. All vent it differently; e. g. this my-take/article and possibly the “men’s whining” my-takes/articles you mention. Unfortunately, this trend of social degradation will continue until some worldwide life-changing event occurs. Hang on and hope for the best when it happens.
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  • AdamThomas
    I don't blame you, most of these MGTOW types and men in general are complete pussies.
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    • How are you not a pussy? Please explain.

    • AdamThomas


      I don't blame women or anybody else for my personal failures. I was dealt a bad hand in life, but rather than wallowing in self-pity and complaining about society, women, my parents and my upbringing, I worked on my issues and improved myself and my situation. I don't act like the world owes me. something, I work for it. These MGTOW guys criticise feminists and blame them and women in general for all of their problems, and claim that there are no good women left, but there are. You just have to be worthy of one in the first place. MGTOWs, just like fat feminists, think that the idea that you should have to become more attractive to the opposite sex, because they think they just "deserve" a decent partner. That's not how the world works, so then when they don't get what they want they give up and just complain.

    • Do you have a girlfriend?

      I see a lot of, especially young, females with a very inflated opinion of themselves. But maybe I just focus on them too much and ignore the good ones.

      I think a lot of the MGTOW theories make sense and I am not a basement dwelling virgin.

      The unrealistic hypergamy standard makes a lot of sense, but just so happens that I might fit it due to financial resources by sheer luck (rich dad who could invest in my business). I have had periods in my past where many women liked me, so it is not all out of resentment, either.

      I feel bad for guys who fell in "love" and ended up with their lives ruined by divorce courts by the "love of their life," because she decided to change personalities one day.

      My dad gives $4,000,000/year to an ex-wife who cheated on him constantly.

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  • Curmudgeon
    An epic Criagslist post must be repeated here.

    "What happened to the Nice Guy? YOU did..."


    Another one paraphrased:

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  • ManaX
    You haven't given up on men, you've given up on boys. From the above it seems as though you haven't had the pleasure of dating a man to be honest.
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  • Telekinetic-Potato
    Maybe the problem is that you only find yourself attracted to losers. Maybe there are real men and the one who's scared of commitment is you.
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  • Unit1
    "1. Guys have just become man-babies"

    *looks at the guys comments section*

    YIKES! You are so right!

    Oh well.

    It's perfectly fine, that you decided to give up on males for as long as you see fit. I don't see a problem with it at all. Do whatever feels right for you.

    And gee, with what kind of men have you been. It's sad.
    Good luck for your future!
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  • SovereignessofVamps
    I've noticed a lot of this too!! But... you can just tell him what you want and need... like if he's a baby, show him how not to be. At least in bed lol

    Srsly, you can just show people how to get what you want from them, both in and out of bed.
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  • joeb73
    As someone who is older than most of those that have replied, so here are my thoughts on what you wrote.
    First and foremost I feel your more mature than those around you. The next and biggest thing is ladies like you who are stang and independent are harder to take advantage of so , a lot of guys don't think that. personally I give you a big thumbs up for saying what you feel and think. If someone doesn't like you for the person you are , they don't deserve to know you at all.
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  • Bananaman177
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  • Djaaaaaay
    I totally agree on your take... I know I'll get all those down votes , but I know your right. Great question !!
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  • Jubejube
    I agree. Yes there are women who also do this, but there is a lot more men that complain about a lot smaller things then women complain about. I do think there is a higher percentage of women hating men on this site then men hating women.
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  • Saoirse_Nua
    Enjoyable take - It seems you have had a bad run of late - Okay I don't know if they are a minority or a majority but they certainly are vocal - I believe there is a good proportion of decent guys out there - I hope you get things sorted out whether single or not and meet a good guy who makes you rethink some of the points above - Best of luck
  • Blueheartt
    Its cool to see my world coming to their senses. The truth is people need to know themsevles first!!! Our society is in the endge of a revolution! Dont engage until your heart dreams come true or fuck me u know wtv but me I myself after my wonderful girlfriend I have I will stay single and honestly fool around and enjoy my fucking self! I know of what I am capable of and wtv, girlfriends, friends, family, people just fuck with your mind!
  • FatherJack
    Nothing wrong with being single , neither gender needs the other anyway. Being a woman , you already will have close female friends & other support networks , women prefer their own gender for company in general.
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  • RicochetLove
    Seems fair to be honest. I don't really have the highest opinions of others in general, and from what I've seen others in high school and college, I can't really say I'm impressed.
    So, uh, you do you I guess.
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  • RegularTK421
    It happens, I mean don't feel bad. I married a foreign girl who ultimately wanted a sugar daddy and a green card, but wasn't upfront about it. We all go through being deceived or burned at one point in life, it's what makes us wiser and stronger in the end.
  • cth96190
    You presented a reasoned argument.
    As a MGTOW, I respect your decision.
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  • alphadoggystyle
    This is the most ironic mytake on this website I've ever seen. Everything you complained about with men, women do a hundred times worse. you're obviously bitter and lonely since you are whining so much, modern western women are the most entitled, spoiled, irresponsible and pathetic bunch of babies in human history. So its no wonder you can't find any man, because most of us are just interested in banging you without commitment. Until you all start acting like grown ups again most men are not going to be interested in dating you seriously and you can completely forget about marriage.
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  • NC2016
    Become a lesbian. You'll find out than women are even worse.
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  • Jager66
    This reminds me of the Lilly Allen song 22

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  • Blobb
    I imagine it goes bothways... its good to take a break when your world view is clouded over.
    Best to know what you do want and go for that, than go for trying to avoid what you dont want
  • peachblossomluck
    I have to agree with #2. I have my ambitions and I don't want to get distracted. The wrong kinds of men will try to sabotage whatever you want to do if it doesn't revolve around them:(
  • SarahsSummer
    Good take. I hope men actually read and think instead of writing some of the labels they love to toss around. if their feelings get hurt suddenly we're feminazi's 😞
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  • burlen
    Take responsibility for making bad decisions about the guys you date instead of whining like a fiver-year-old girl on a school playground.

    How different is your post from those you are taking aim at? A typical example of a frying pan telling the pot your bottom is black.

    I hope writing this post has helped release the hurtful steam you sustained from your serial breakups.

    Don't forget that the same guys you are griping about are equally being hailed and praised by other women right now. Afterall, another woman's loss is another woman's gain.
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  • Jackblue
    You are probably right. Men just are not taking women's needs into consideration. Women need emotional support, a guy to take the time to try to make her orgasm as well, and of course a guy that will try to help with the housework some.
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  • Kirah
    I can already see you in 4 years. You'll be whining "where have all the good men gone?".
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    • cth96190

      I see that a lot in both my professional and personal life.

  • saltedcaramel
    THANK YOU!!! PREACH!!! Real men have just all gone. The most fucking annoying thing that they do, at least with me, is when they assume I hate them all of a sudden. They have the need to "assume" things so much. And then whine about why I won't talk to them anymore. Have a good guess, no it's not because you like a different ice cream flavor than me. Like whaaaat? There doesn't always have to be something wrong, sometimes people just don't connect! Why you gotta blame me for everything? Grow up, it's 2016!
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    • Dude, you're 17, you're not even a woman yet XD

  • Scrambledagain
    "Whining babies"

    Curious. if a man doesn't get loved by somebody, what does he have? What is anything without love? May as well fuck a robot.

    Sex is only a symptom of a deeper realisation.
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  • Prof_Don
    Most women seem to have to pick between bad boys, and genuinely nice guys who aren't very masculine (if at all).

    The masculine, non-bad-boy guy is what most women REALLY want! ;-)
  • Loveherbut
    God why men here acting rude and like asshole and babies the woman doesn't want a man now its not like she is the only woman on earth and u r screwed grow up people both gender and let people whine and cry a little its human nature for gods sake
  • Botchie
    Good on you. Do what makes you happy. I think this whole upcoming of people needs to mature, men and women. It's rare to find someone mature like you (I hope you are mature like I assume you are :p )
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  • Sephora_Addict
    Lmao I agree! But I won't give up men at all. The man babies is very true. They're either gay or complaining why they're still single. Look at the way you dress, act, present yourself to others.
  • bobbyxx
    Yes and I have had enough of womanbabies like your self whining about men. www.google.co.uk/imgres
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  • Mrwoo99
    Am fine with that, as a mgtow also I'm happy sleeping around with high end call girls.
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    • That's so pathetic

    • Mrwoo99

      @frozenhorizon ohh here we go! Someone's come to shame me as a mgtow because am breaking the rules and choose not to spend money on dating.

    • It's the spending money on high end call girls part, not the mgtow part. You want women as sex objects but not as human beings and that is pathetic.

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  • MasterofPlebs
    I'm right here. Sorry that I don't represent my sex very well, most of them are just dumb apes.
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  • frozenhorizon
    That seems totally reasonable and I agree with basically everything, those are all great reasons to not be interested in guys. Maybe you're spending too much time reading about dating on the internet though? I NEVER meet guys like what you're describing in real life, the only places I encounter them are on this site and on youtube! lol.

    I've noticed #2 is true for me too, I've accomplished so much in the last year while being single the whole time. Nobody is bothering me for attention or asking me to help them with something when I'm trying to study or get someting done at work.
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    • I love how many salty guys are commenting too hahaha

  • Raymond_Reddington
    Yeah yeah blah blah women bitching about how bad men are, men bitching about how bad women are. Thats like 65% of what goes on on gag.
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    • wolfie12

      30% turks asking about turkey and 5% interesting questiona

  • inceptin951
    No one cares that you're leaving the dating pool. I agree that MGTOW types are miserable but you're the female version of MGTOW. MGTOW is mainly an online movement of guys who are bitter about being rejected and it sounds like you ironically are a lot like those bitter guys because of your bad experience with guys.

    At the end of the day, there is no purpose in life if you don't share it with someone. You can hit all the "goals" you want but for what purpose? What you don't understand is that you are young and when you get older, all of the good guys will be taken. So if you swear off men in your 20s, you will either die a lonely woman in a nursing home surrounded by strangers or you will end up with the very losers you say you hate because those are the only ones left by the time you decide to re-engage men. So do what you want. No one will be hurt by your decision but yourself.
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  • AlwaysBelieving
    So it's half about you and half about the guys. Got it.

    Am I the only one that thinks a person should be "in a good place" with themselves before dating?
  • cross98
    wow by the responses of guys, it looks like they don't like when its switched on them. its damning how inconsiderate they are when they make the same mytakes on us; making shit about why they don't like marriage and how women changes, bitching about how their "going their own way", we have to sit there and read the shit and are expected to understand when their talking bad about us. then they shut us down when we try and tell them all our perspectives, they tell us we're wrong afterward. they should eat this shit up just like we have to without it coming back up their fucking whining ass windpipes!
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