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I had a similar situation with my ex-girlfriend where I had to make my own sandwich. It was horrible. The relationship was never the same after that.
LMAO!
I'll admit that I didn't read the whole thing, but I think I got the gist of it. I still think it's rude of him to do that. I'll never ask a woman out and then pull a stunt like that. However, if I get asked out, I expect her to offer to pay, that doesn't mean I'll let her.
I think it's just a sign of more bad things to come... it's never a good thing when a man doesn't pay for a 1st date... i could see it if you were on 20 dates in but the 1st one it's just a red flag for so many things.
What if the guy thinks the same way about a girl not paying on the first date?
@themartian then he shouldn't be asking out girls i wouldn't go out with a guy who says i'm paying on the 1st date
You're sexist.
@Kirah i guess so plus there's a lot of things i'll do for my boyfriends that most girls don't do so it's up to you... i'm not at all a woman who feels we're equal to men i love being treated like a lady i like doors held for me my seat held for me i love favors from men i'm by no means a feminist.
@chrissykerdock You sound like a lady that still has class. I'd totally hold doors open and always pay for you.
@roman_ce thank you seem like the kind of man i would love to go out with
The way I was raised, the guy pays for the dates and show proper manners towards a lady.
@Lewis47 that's what i feel too it's not so much the money but the idea that i'm not special especially when it comes to a 1st date and these girls are on board with it... i guess i'm not the feminist they are
exactly, you're a true lady. :)
I don't know why, but when I like someone I willingly give them money and buy them food. I've probably spent fifty dollars on this guy I like and he's spent money for me too. I don't know, its just what I do personally.
Nothing wrong with asking your crush out on a first date and spending 50 dollars on him if that's what you want. The problem is when people think being paid for is normal and having to pay for your own stuff should be an exception.
@themartian exactly, my point is I'm a girl and I don't expect that. I don't expect to be paid for. Sure, id love to be paid for. But if he doesn't pay, it doesn't make the date any worse. I like giving, I don't mind paying for him even
So you'd pay for him on a first date and like it? :O
@roman_ce Im happy to treat someone I like ❤
I really don't understand some people.
To me, it seems like you were only okay with paying your share, because he put in extra effort. Why do you assume the guy has to pay by default?
Anyway, regarding payment. You discuss that before you go out and not when its finished. I don't mind paying my share, but I don't mind either being payed or having to pay for both of us. They all have their charm if its clear from the beginning
You act like this is some sort of traumatic experience. I wish some women would just grow up and pay their bill.
You act like you didn't read it because had you done so, you'd know that I didn't care that I paid lol
I did read it all. You said you still think men should though.
@Elarra you clearly pointed out that you were only okay contributing under abnormal circumstances, which means that her exclamation that women should grow up and pay the bill still applies to you.
You shouldn't beg someone to pay for your meal, he will pay for you if he is generous enough to be a friend or boyfriend. You should take your role and treat him sometimes too. It cannot always be one person constantly paying for.
He tried you. Thats what that was. . .
Lol jk, considering the rain and everything maybe, but my first thoughts would be the above lol good for you though, well done.
ARE U OKAY DO U NEED A DOCTOR
WHAT IS YOUR BLOOD PRESSURE
DOES YOUR HAND HURTS FROM GIVING MONEY
ABSWER ME DAMN IT
i need to know hhhh
:p :p :p :>
I had to cut off my hand. Unfortunately, all the blood vessels in it died once I realized I wasn't a Princess :P
do u need cpr hhhh
I don't see why women pretend to want this pseudo "equality" when in fact they only want the good stuff, and leave the dirty work for men to do. That's bulls**t
In what kind of expensive brothel do you date lol
Usually on my dates we get a couple beers or something else with fish n' chips and the bill is never more than 15eu.
Different places have different costs of living, a couple beers in new york is like $15 by itself
if you have an on again off again you're not single until they are out of your life and you both have no way to contact the other.
so basically you are complaining because he made you pay and based on that you won't go out with him... i wonder how women in this chat will say some dumb stuff and you are been shallow...
It seems your date is a very stingy guy... but that's the problem - girls always want "bad boys".
Men ALWAYS paid for me. If he didn't pay I would have tossed my drink in his face, walked away and left him with the bill.
How are you enjoying your life as the crazy cat lady so far?
I paid for every one of my dates. I think it's my responsibility and it looks really bad for anyone who doesn't. Deadbeats...
Well here's the only reason men are butthurt. Feminists are basically fighting for female supremacy at this point. They wanna grow their arm pit hair and invent sexist terms like mansplaining and manspreading, but won't pay like 15 dollars for a meal? It's not fair. It really isn't and it goes to show that women don't really want equality, just free shit.
Honestly the whole mansplaining thing irritates me. Iwhy fight for equality with hate? It should be with love. You dont get equality if you keep hurting the other side to get even.
@Falling4UTC exactly. there's a bigger picture as to why the mainstream media is trying to divide us
@Mr-Kabuki I guess this is okay if you want to date a feminist.
the more you talk about your boyfriend the more I think he's using you
What do you mean? This Take was about someone else.
Before he and I got back together.
ah okay, I missed that part
Id be so turned off, for me the first date is a must he pays but on others I'm cool with paying...
At which point is it acceptable to let the lady pay in your opinion?
Whenever but not on the first date... other than the first date id be fine to pay for myself or even for the guy but depending on how nice he really is...
Would you also be okay with the guy always paying? I've been on 7 dates with this girl and I've gladly paid for all of our dates but I'm not sure if in this day and age it's still acceptable for the guy to always pay.
You're sexist. Don't you have an income or something? There is no excuse to be sexist.
tbrh this site and it's fixation on who is paying for what and when is worse than cancer, sometimes...