CHEATERS NEVER PROSPER: The saying is recorded from the early 19th century, but a related idea with an ironic twist is found in John Harington's Epigrams of the early 17th century, 'Treason dothnever prosper, what's the reason? For if it prosper, none dare call it treason.' (In the US, the form is often cheaters never prosper.)
Could you be dating a cheater? How would you know? Here are 3 areas of that person's life to really pay attention too.
Their moral compass is in question. Do they cross the line on small things in other areas of their life? Do they defend the behavior of cheaters, liars, and thieves? People who have a broken compass usually blame others for everything bad in their lives. They may treat their mother or other family members with disrespect... hence treating you with disrespect down the road.
Cheaters are likely to get paranoid because they will presume you might have the same urges they do. They want to make sure that even though they are cheating that you don't cheat on them. They believe they love you and are scared themselves in losing you. They may be scratching an itch, or a fetish, or an addiction but internally will need to mask that betrayal which usually appears in jealousy and neediness.
They flirt when you are not around to feed that insecurity and internal validation. It gets so bad they forget you are around but still flirt in your presence. They probably didn't do this in the beginning but all of sudden you see this outgoing, flirtatious personality come out. Always craving ego boosts, never happy no matter what you say or give to them....always wanting more and more that they start seeking validation from everyone. They have a temporary state of mind and never thinks about long term on your relationship or future. Changes the subject when serious relationship conversation is discussed.
Changes in behavior are the biggest clue that you might be dating a cheater. Receiving presents or nice gestures may be signs of guilt if suddenly introduced into the relationship. If your intimacy with the person has lessened but all of a sudden explodes with seduction than you might be dating a cheater. Having intimate relations with others stimulates the overall passion for the act and you now become attractive again where before they barely engaged. Knowing the clues and having some self awareness is key. Ignoring or making excuses why the relationship is the way it is usually puts you into denial for time to come.
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