To Men: Please Don't do These Things if You Want to Attract a Woman (Page 2)

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure why you felt the need to direct this specifically to men, especially considering it is women who are more guilty of most of these things. But regardless, it is mostly good advice.

I will, however, point out in regards to #1 and #3 that there are a LOT of women who are actually quite attracted to men who do those things. So there is that.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you! The only reason I wrote to men is because this was based off MY dating experience on a specific person, I agree that many of this is applicable to both yes. I do believe i mentioned this in my article too :) People are different yes, some may like it, others won't but I really don't see how any logical woman would like those traits! Just my 2 cents.

Thanks for the comment :)

[Belgie]

Wow I remember being that insecure and over eager in my early 20s... I had people tell me it was wrong but it was very hard to over ride my instincts and so I tried WAY too hard.

I only lost two or three girls before I learned my lessons. .

[myTake Owner]

Well at least you did! Good for you :P Thanks for reading and for the comment :)

[rjroy3]

If this take is about what not to do if you want to attract a girl. Isn't 1, 2 and 7 irrelevant? They're all post rejection and the first point was DON'T be persistent in that instance lol

[myTake Owner]

They are all general points of things that are annoying and can put someone off. That's it :)

[rjroy3]

Yes annoying, but still post rejection lol. That's my point. If the dude is rejected either way it really doesn't matter as far as attraction. The girl's not gonna be like, "Oh my god! He's so not needy! I change my mind. I was wrong about him. He's getting a second chance with me!".
Just seems pointless to say don't do xyz, when the outcome remains the same if the actual point of this is to be advice for attracting women to guys. Like sure. It's better for a guy not to do these things, but not because it'll help as far as attraction. It's just better for his soul not to be the guy that does those things. It's not about the girl.

[myTake Owner]

I think you may have misunderstood me. This guy did these things and it put me OFF. I was quite positive about him, but then this behavior started very soon which affected my image of him so it wasn't exactly "post rejection"> He still had a fair chance.

[rjroy3]

I guess what was confusing were points in the take like this one:

"Number 7: If she is honest with you, don't throw a tantrum and get all upset
Rejection hurts and sucks yes."
You clearly stated rejection here. And alluded to either outright rejection or polite soft rejection.

[myTake Owner]

Yes that was one point out of many.

[ATuairiscean]

Are you sure you are not a guy (LoL) - Only I saw pink heading and name, I would swear a guy wrote it - That said sensible list applies to both genders

[myTake Owner]

Thank you :P Yes it does apply to both genders. No I'm pretty sure I'm not good a guy hehe ;)

[Anonymous]

I agree, I'd just like to make one comment on the texting, and this may not be the case, but often I as a guy experience this when talking with new women online, we question your interest because when you do reply, they are often short and sweet and you say little, then we don't hear from you again for a day or two and we question your interest. That's just were we're coming from on it :)

[frozenhorizon]

I get that guys do this shit but this is not helpful at all. It's only helpful to make people who are completely socially dysfunctional slightly better, but it's still a "what not to do", it doesn't help you be attractive to women.

[frozenhorizon]

It sounds like you go on dates with really shitty guys by the way.

[ThisDudeHere]

There was no way to know this guy was like that other than to go on a date with him and find out.

[frozenhorizon]

@ThisDudeHere Really? I think you can probably tell by their overall maturity level before the date

[myTake Owner]

You'd be surprised how many men make these mistakes! This guy is a intelligent man who still did all those things. I wouldn't call him "shitty". He's still a decent person. He just did off putting things which will deter his future success hence why I wrote this article :)

[frozenhorizon]

Well it sounds like he behaves like a 12 year old.

[Anonymous]

I have had situations when a girl really gave me the cold shoulder and laid down all kinds of rules and regulations. When I would just walk away, they would start acting weird, asking why I'm walking away. Chicks are NOTORIOUS for playing mind games and giving mixed signals...

[myTake Owner]

Yeah, immature childish "girls" do things like that so if you want to attract that type of woman then by all means go for it but any level headed, mature woman is not going to be play ridiculous games..

[Anonymous]

I don't do any of those things or have Facebook, that's common sense not to do those things , I wouldn't let her have the power and know that I'm interested, I let her do those things instead and then I know she is interested so I'm the one calling the shots not her, I can be just as busy but still make time if I'm interested, my time is just as valuable

[myTake Owner]

That's a good point of view :) Thanks for reading :)

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks and you're welcome

[cth96190]

Sounds fair.
A simple rule is that at the first sign of lack of interest the male should walk away.
To do anything else risks an allegation of sexual harassment, even though the truth is usually that the male is simply socially inept.

[TheOtakuMaid]

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[Browneye57]

Now do one on what you bring to a relationship that would be deemed high-value. Why are you a 'catch'? [shrug]

[myTake Owner]

Writing a MyTake saying what a "catch" I am will surely be very very strange.

[Browneye57]

And a very good exercise for you. I find most are clueless, that they think they simply need to show up. :)
A high-value guy will expect it.

[AleDeEurope]

Despite how common sense all this is, it's amazing how many guys still do it :/

Don't shoot yourself in the foot, guys. Think.

Nice Take

[myTake Owner]

Thank you very much for the compliment ! <3 Much appreciated!

[RolandCuthbert]

8. And also, if you want to be successful with women, don't take any advice from a woman.

[myTake Owner]

Right, because the man who did these things are now single and chases away all the women he encounters? Riiiight

[RolandCuthbert]

Nope, I don't have a problem attracting women or keeping them. But I don't listen to women, when it comes to advice about dating. Most have no idea of what they want or are attracted to. The best advice givers are men who are good at dating women. They know what works and what doesn't. Most women who lay out all these rules, end up being attracted to guys who do not fit any of their criteria.

But if I ever become gay and need help attracting men, I will look you up.

[Vasco423]

Knowing your opinion about sending gifts after the second date I would get some huge rose boquet with a card saying "obnoxiously big flowers" delivered at your work place would you still complain? X)

[Answerdude]

Those seem like some pretty easy, common sense guidelines. But nowadays "common sense" isn't so common.

[myTake Owner]

Yup so true! Thanks for reading and commenting :)

[Dme500]

Guess whose getting followed. (< only a good thing on gag).

That was some pretty sound advice and i gotta admit im guilty of the texting one. I've gotten better though and it has resulted in much more responses.

[myTake Owner]

Don't worry I was also like that! At least we have gotten wiser :P Thanks for reading and for the comment:) Much apprecited

[Dme500]

Anytime. You keep posting good shit and ill be here to read it.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks man ;) Will try my best to impress ;)

[Anonymous]

If you're really into the guy, 6 is not an issue. #JUSTSAYING

[myTake Owner]

For some maybe but for me, even if I liked a guy, it seems too much and I would feel pressured to already be receiving gifts that soon. I don't want a guy to feel like he has to send me flashy gifts to get me to like him. It's just not my style :)

[Opinion Owner]

If a guy did it out of good will, I don't think it makes him feel like as though he has to buy me flashy gifts. Its just a nice gesture.

[myTake Owner]

Each to their own :) I'm just not a materialistic person I don't want a guy to buy me things on date 2 otherwise I feel bad.

[Phoenix98]

Except that the vast majority of men don't do any of those things lol.

[myTake Owner]

You'd be surprised! Thanks for reading :)

[Phoenix98]

Possibly but I know quite a few men of all ages and have yet to really meet any like this.

[metalsucks2]

Welcome to GirlsAskGuys where men get vilified and generalised.

[myTake Owner]

Where did I say in my MyTake that all men do this or act like this? This was general tips, take it or leave it :)

[metalsucks2]

Now imagine the outrage if some guy posted a my take "To Men please don't do these things..."?

[metalsucks2]

*Women*

[myTake Owner]

The only people who get outraged by things like this, are people who have their panties in a knot. I'm sorry but any person can see I didn't once claim ALL men act like this. This is written for men who DO act like this. Hence my example.

[metalsucks2]

Im not outraged.

[John_Doesnt]

This is so wrong. I do all these things and I have a girlfriend right now.

[myTake Owner]

Hehehe good for you! Wish this guy could say the same who did all these things :P