If I get rejected, I just assume I am not good enough for her... No need for fancy explanations like she being a lesbian just to protect my self-esteem.
1. they are liars and won't just tell the truth which would be much more respectable. I don't see why they couldn't just say not her type, in a relationship, interested in someone else already, or whatever. The name being the same as a parent's name is a completely understandable reason too, so are some others. I don't see why people aren't more honest.
Rejection is fine, guys/girls shouldn't get annoyed at the person about it. I'd think girls are more upset by rejection because they wouldn't be used to it.
Unless the person rejecting them is a total ass about it, then I could understand them calling that person a bitch.
1. I'm a lesbian 2. I'm not attracted to men 3. I have a girlfriend 4. I would like to marry said girlfriend 5. I've had enough guys ask me out to the point that I don't care anymore.
I've was once asked by an older women if i was a lesbian just because i didn't have a boyfriend -_- people need to stop with that crap. This is a great take
I've been called a bitch and told that I think too high of myself :/ I simply said no (repeatedly) and I wasn't rude or anything it's not my fault if the guy is frustrated or had a bad night, if I answer respectfully there's no reason to insult me
Often women just reject initially as an opening test. Sometimes you can get past it if you take it playfully, turn it on her, and progress on the subject/change the subject. Any man that insults a woman that rejects him is both out of line and out of touch. There are other ways less brash ways to save face if you have to do so.
"Often women just reject initially as an opening test. Sometimes you can get past it if you take it playfully, turn it on her, and progress on the subject/change the subject." That is the stupidest, most manipulative thing I have ever heard.
@TooskilledforU It's true. Go to a club and women will throw out the 'I'm a lesbian/have a boyfriend line' so unconfident guys will walk away but confident guys will be unaffected, hold their ground and continue to talk to her as they believe they are worth her attention. She's screening for quality guys given she'll get approached every 5-10 mins in that environment.
That's a nice thesis, but what if she claims to hate people yet she is always talking it up and laughing with people. All her friends are guys, my thesis on this is either she's a whore, or her father never showed her any love and she's looking for some male attention to make up for it. Don't think she's a who're because every guy they asks her to hang out she always says she will but then she never does.
I really don't get the point of why we even need to explain to boys why we reject them? Why should I accept someone I don't want to be in a relationship with? The world is pretty effd up, with boys still believing that women are meant to be up for their pleasure all the time.
Great post, though! I myself am a social person yet maintain some distance with men because I'm religious, some good are like "but talking to me does no harm" I didn't say it does. But it's out of my comfort zone.
3,7, and 10 are SOME of the reasons I rejected some of the guys that have pursued me. Other reasons are I just didn't find them to be attractive, and they were too needy. Neither of them put any pride into their appearences, and had paunches which I don't find to be attractive.
The problem is that women today are just too fussy and have insane, unrealistic standards. Women today are just not worth the hassle. Let the muslims have them.
My life philosophy: men are stupid, but women are crazy. But not all of us are high-maintenance. And sometimes, you just gotta give us some time to grow up, too. Don't generalize based on your bad experiences.
@Thatonegirl_99 I've heard it all before. Women are both stupid and crazy. They have destroyed marriage and family and it's much better for men to go their own way and let women rot.
Do you want men to initiate or do you step up to the guys you like and ask them out. No, I am not saying that being that foul is warranted by anyone. But I am genuinely curious if you expect men to come to you or if you are the initiator too.
@Savreth I've been the initiator several times, pretty common for me to be the first to ask for their number too (if I'm interested in him obviously). Or I'll ask a friend of mine to introduce them to me if they already know the guy. No expectations to have him come up to me even if I prefer it.
That's fair. I had to ask because there are quite a few women who expect to be woo'd off their feet and then get offended when the rejection that men face constantly, gets them annoyed.
Very informative mytake, seems to be true with a lot of guys since it does take some boldness to do a cold approach, I never do that anyway I just meet through someone or even the Internet
I've been told many, many times to be "funny and sweet but not able to physically attract them" by many, many women; most of the ones I've asked out, actually. So yes. There is such thing as being "ugly". And it's not a bad thing either. There is no shame in not being attracted by someone.
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This is a great myTake! Rejection is hard but if a man responds by insulting you, then clearly you made the right decision.
I fully agree!!!
If I get rejected, I just assume I am not good enough for her...
No need for fancy explanations like she being a lesbian just to protect my self-esteem.
1. they are liars and won't just tell the truth which would be much more respectable.
I don't see why they couldn't just say not her type, in a relationship, interested in someone else already, or whatever. The name being the same as a parent's name is a completely understandable reason too, so are some others. I don't see why people aren't more honest.
Whatever a girl's reason is for rejection, can all be summarized into just not interested. No reason to investigate why.
I'm more concerned of a girl leads me on. That's when it's a problem.
Rejection is fine, guys/girls shouldn't get annoyed at the person about it.
I'd think girls are more upset by rejection because they wouldn't be used to it.
Unless the person rejecting them is a total ass about it, then I could understand them calling that person a bitch.
Here are my 5 reasons for turning down a guy:
1. I'm a lesbian
2. I'm not attracted to men
3. I have a girlfriend
4. I would like to marry said girlfriend
5. I've had enough guys ask me out to the point that I don't care anymore.
6. You are only 16 aka a child.
@metalsucks2 I mean people in my class. besides, I've got a girlfriend
I've was once asked by an older women if i was a lesbian just because i didn't have a boyfriend -_- people need to stop with that crap.
This is a great take
I've been called a bitch and told that I think too high of myself :/ I simply said no (repeatedly) and I wasn't rude or anything
it's not my fault if the guy is frustrated or had a bad night, if I answer respectfully there's no reason to insult me
Often women just reject initially as an opening test. Sometimes you can get past it if you take it playfully, turn it on her, and progress on the subject/change the subject. Any man that insults a woman that rejects him is both out of line and out of touch. There are other ways less brash ways to save face if you have to do so.
"Often women just reject initially as an opening test. Sometimes you can get past it if you take it playfully, turn it on her, and progress on the subject/change the subject." That is the stupidest, most manipulative thing I have ever heard.
@TooskilledforU It's true. Go to a club and women will throw out the 'I'm a lesbian/have a boyfriend line' so unconfident guys will walk away but confident guys will be unaffected, hold their ground and continue to talk to her as they believe they are worth her attention. She's screening for quality guys given she'll get approached every 5-10 mins in that environment.
@MusicMayhem I have no doubt that it is true, I just think it is ridiculous.
That's a nice thesis, but what if she claims to hate people yet she is always talking it up and laughing with people. All her friends are guys, my thesis on this is either she's a whore, or her father never showed her any love and she's looking for some male attention to make up for it. Don't think she's a who're because every guy they asks her to hang out she always says she will but then she never does.
I really don't get the point of why we even need to explain to boys why we reject them? Why should I accept someone I don't want to be in a relationship with? The world is pretty effd up, with boys still believing that women are meant to be up for their pleasure all the time.
Great post, though! I myself am a social person yet maintain some distance with men because I'm religious, some good are like "but talking to me does no harm" I didn't say it does. But it's out of my comfort zone.
3,7, and 10 are SOME of the reasons I rejected some of the guys that have pursued me. Other reasons are I just didn't find them to be attractive, and they were too needy. Neither of them put any pride into their appearences, and had paunches which I don't find to be attractive.
I've met guys who are perfectly nice people just not for me
Yesss!!! This is what men need to understand!!
@Dimples345 exactly! It's nothing personal but everyone is not for everyone else
The problem is that women today are just too fussy and have insane, unrealistic standards. Women today are just not worth the hassle. Let the muslims have them.
My life philosophy: men are stupid, but women are crazy. But not all of us are high-maintenance. And sometimes, you just gotta give us some time to grow up, too. Don't generalize based on your bad experiences.
@Thatonegirl_99 I've heard it all before. Women are both stupid and crazy. They have destroyed marriage and family and it's much better for men to go their own way and let women rot.
Women need not have high standards to reject egomaniacs.
Men that get their little feelings hurt because a woman has rejected them need their butts kick.
She it hurts the ego, but for goodness sake you're not 10 years old anymore.
Move on and just find another chick.
The amount of times I've heard the "oh, are you a lesbian maybe?" thing, lost count honestly.
The arrogance is unreal.
Do you want men to initiate or do you step up to the guys you like and ask them out.
No, I am not saying that being that foul is warranted by anyone. But I am genuinely curious if you expect men to come to you or if you are the initiator too.
@Savreth I've been the initiator several times, pretty common for me to be the first to ask for their number too (if I'm interested in him obviously). Or I'll ask a friend of mine to introduce them to me if they already know the guy. No expectations to have him come up to me even if I prefer it.
That's fair.
I had to ask because there are quite a few women who expect to be woo'd off their feet and then get offended when the rejection that men face constantly, gets them annoyed.
Or it could simply be that we aren't looking for a relationship at the time. There's no excuse needed.
My advice for guys is stop overthinking it. She likes you or she doesn't. If she doesn't, screw it she is totally replaceable.
If she doesn't, screw it she's probably a bitch and a lesbian who thinks you're ugly!
@AdamThomas It doesn't even matter
Very informative mytake, seems to be true with a lot of guys since it does take some boldness to do a cold approach, I never do that anyway I just meet through someone or even the Internet
I've been told many, many times to be "funny and sweet but not able to physically attract them" by many, many women; most of the ones I've asked out, actually. So yes.
There is such thing as being "ugly". And it's not a bad thing either. There is no shame in not being attracted by someone.