Men and women are indeed acting like one another now and it's frustrating a lot of people...mainly men but some women too.
Women are making more, women are more focused on their careers than their relationships with men, women are more logical and less emotional, women cheat just because they're bored, women are often rude and disrespectful...remind you of anyone? These were all criticisms lodged at men and as a man who's had these criticisms lodged at me I can say it never made me care.
See, these "bad behaviors" are a naturally result of being free to express oneself live for ones self interest and not care what anyone thinks or how it makes anyone feel. You can't have freedom without it. (see handmaidens tale for a harsh but great representation of how threatening the mere thought of a womans freedom is to men.) They don't hurt probably because they aren't seen as bad things to the person doing them. In fact, they're probably seen as compliments!
The answer then isn't to try to "shame" women into acting like we want them to act. It's to accept that we are living in a time where they're just as bad as us and adjust. We don't know how long this will last if ever and the reality is there's this behavior and there's muted behavior but inside they wish they could act this way so at least this is real. So what to do?
-Lean More Heavily Into Your Careers
Women who respond to men with big careers are often not really career women themselves. In this way, they're more "traditionally feminine" by our standards but of course they have expensive tastes and they expect you the man to provide. By leaning more heavily into your career, you lean more heavily into a lifestyle where your focus is your work and during playtime you have the money to take these types of women out
-Learn Seduction Not Pickup
Pickup is a man's game--no not the frilly hat weird line kind of pick up more the walk up to a woman at a bar and chat her up kind of pick up. It's a numbers game be friendly approach women who seem to want to be approached and hopefully one wants to go to bed or at least go on a date with you. Yet, the insurgence of cheating shows that women have similar appetites to men and what was thought of as enough for a woman, a loyal man, isn't always enough. Seduction is far more complex and requires patience planning and time. Think strategically getting boxes of chocolate, sending her flowers, sometimes being available to her and sometimes not, appearing vulnerable and then appearing hard to read having amazingly intimate sex and then turning cold. These things EXCITE a woman though excitement doesn't always make someone happy. Pickup is when you objectify women, but now with women objectifying us just as much as we do them, it's time to play a more sophisticated chess match.
-Wait Longer To Get Serious
The modern woman doesn't need a title so quickly anymore. she's find just being cool and this can even extend to sex (though i wouldn't rush it if she's not really into it yet) the point is only get exclusive when you truly want to be something serious. otherwise, allow yourself and her to see other people, you probably won't, but today's modern woman is afraid of commitment just like you are. Don't feel hurt by this, embrace it! You now have the chance to date multiple women and only after a very decent amount of time has passed choose who you would like to be exclusive with