Reasons Why Playing Hard To Get Is The Dumbest Thing You Could Do (Page 5)

[Yesnomaybe85]

Hmmm maybe I’ll take a look at the back

[CorruptedDocument]

I have yet to meet a woman who doesn't play games

[Anonymous]

yay for common sense. thank you :)

[Anonymous]

Good job

[Emma_240302]

Nice take I loved it

[Anonymous]

Agree. It is childish.

[bubble_tea]

Great take!

[omgjassy]

It’s true

[Sataya]

Great post!

[Brazy]

As if I care...

[BronzedAdonis]

disagree

[myTake Owner]

Feel free to elaborate.

[BronzedAdonis]

in my personal experience being direct and transparent with me interest in women ha gotten me absolutely nowhere.

women lose interest if you're too accessible, they need a challenge to keep them on their toes and for you to be perceived as a valuable guy

whenever I've been aloof and played hard to get, its always bolstered their attraction/interest in me and made the courtship so much easier

[myTake Owner]

Then you're trying to attract the wrong kind of girls, the type I talked about in point 3. They'll most likely become bored of you the second you loosen up and stop playing hard to get. And playing hard to get for the rest of your life, even when you're married, sounds exhausting af.

[BronzedAdonis]

fair point

[BronzedAdonis]

but that doesn't mean playing heard to get doesn't work

[myTake Owner]

Sure, in some rare cases it might work, but that's not how you create a good foundation for a sustainable and honest relationship. I find that people who play hard to get often play games in general, and will keep playing games even when in a relationship because they just don't know when to stop or how to just relax. They'll keep thinking too hard about when it's ok to text, to not text too much, to ignore their partner for a certain amount of time to appear busy and important, to over-analyze and calculate their partner's every move, yadda yadda. So in the long run I don't see how behaving that way will work.

[BronzedAdonis]

disagree, you need that spice in a relationship, being fully transparent will make you boring

[BronzedAdonis]

especially with young girls who have a short attention span

[myTake Owner]

I didn't say you have to be fully transparent. I'm just saying that playing games even when you're in a relationship is exhausting and will get you nowhere. There are things you can do to spice things up that don't revolve around ignoring your partner and having them tip-toe around you because you're unpredictable.
I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now, and that relationship has been about openness, communication and honesty since day one. What do you have to show from playing hard to get?

[BronzedAdonis]

you're a woman, its completely different

[myTake Owner]

It actually kind of isn't. Had I played hard to get, or played games in my relationship, I'm 100% sure that we wouldn't have lasted for nearly 2 years. More like 2 months. And I do have experience with overthinking things, overanalyzing things, keeping myself from texting someone immediately just to appear busy/important, etc. It got me nowhere. Or actually it did get me somewhere, and that place was very anxious and depressing. For a serious, long-term relationship that's successful and happy, you don't have to play any games.
You say it's different for me because I'm a girl, yet I see girls play hard to get all the time even if they wouldn't have to. Which is why I created this take in the first place.

[BronzedAdonis]

you're a woman which means your the chooser and the prize. its easy for you to sit there smugly on your throne when the game is rigged in your favour

you will never understand what its like from a guys perspective, on the other side of the fence.

[myTake Owner]

Aww that's cute. I was single for 21 years before I met my boyfriend. Before that, I barely had any guys show interest in me. Only a couple have actually ever asked me out directly, but unfortunately I wasn't interested in them back. I've also later heard that I was crushing on a guy who was crushing on me at the same time, but nothing came out of it because neither of us did anything about it.
And then we have a guy who really encouraged me to over-analyze everything, we were never official and what we had was seriously unstable. We played games with each other, hard, and it led to me being pretty much at the lowest point in my life. Once I got rid of him and started understanding how damaging it is to treat human relationships like pawns on a chess table, and regained some confidence, boom. First long-term, happy relationship. And I've worked my ass off to get to this point, nothing was rigged for me.

[BronzedAdonis]

"Only a couple have actually ever asked me out directly, but unfortunately I wasn't interested in them back"

^^^^^^
and rejecting guys who reach out to you isn't sitting on your throne? If that isn't in your favour then I don't know what is.

you have no idea or appreciation on how brutal it can be being a single guy in the dating game

[myTake Owner]

So what was I supposed to do? I can't force feelings. Should I have gone out with them out of pity and dumped them when I got bored of faking interest? I've also been rejected by guys I liked - actually by all of the guys I've ever liked, up until I met my current boyfriend.

[BronzedAdonis]

I never said it was wrong to reject them but you're denying that things aren't rigged in your favour

[myTake Owner]

Just because I had like two guys ask me out? Whereas I’ve asked out guys maybe five times? Sure, it’s TOTALLY rigged in my favor lmao

[BronzedAdonis]

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[Anonymous]

Agree

[Krumpir]

Good mytake, bravo

[CoffeeWC]

I agree completely

[Nice222]

Great take.

[Revolver_]

Good reasons