What I Find Attractive in a Woman

[JimRSmith]

#whatifindattractivechallenge

Having been nominated by @ChronicThinker, here is my list...

Empathy

This is personally the most critical personality trait of all, for me. I've noticed over the past year, that people who lack empathy all seem to share the same shitty identikit personalities, and there is simply no bigger turn off to me than a person who is unable to consider other people. I don't want a relationship with a person like that, and I wouldn't be friends with one, either.

Intelligence

Again, this is really key for me. I probably don't need to go into any more detail about this, but I'm going to. I don't measure this by degrees or book learning. Some of the sharpest people I know haven't been to university, and some of the biggest sheep have.

Sense of Humour

This one is frequently mentioned, but who wants to be in a relationship without laughter?

Her Own Interests

I think every girl should have her own interests, and that she should feel absolutely empowered to pursue them. Some of which I might even feel inspired by her to take onboard myself.

My interests

At the same time, I want her to be open to some of my interests, too. We don't have to share everything, by any means, but it's nice to both be able to enjoy some of the same things.

Confidence

She has to be able to hold her own in a social situation, stand up to me when I'm in the wrong, and be confident enough to dress sexily. She also has to have good self esteem, and to know and appreciate her positive qualities. There are no positives to insecurity.

I don't want to get home to some shrinking doormat. I want somebody who challenges me, both inside and outside the bedroom. No pushovers.

Beauty

She has to have a nice smile and nice eyes. I like a lot of eye contact. I like a nice healthy tan on a chick. I'm an ass man, in a big way, as those who know me will already be aware of. She should have a good posture and be into fitness - I like the woman I'm with to turn heads.

Thongs

This is my concession to superficiality in here - she gets a pass for shark week, but other than that, I want her to wear thongs. If you see that as controlling, then so be it. I don't care.

I nominate @BronzedAdonis and @VaIiant to do this. And @Astoriana, just for a giggle.

[Cosytoasty]

Very good sir. The confidence one is so hard to find in women, but every now and again they surprise you and you wife them.

[JimRSmith]

Precisely, yes.

[disgustingweebtrash]

We all know a certain someone you tagged would end up writing about "white supremacy"

[JimRSmith]

Hahahaha, indeed we do!

[VaIiant]

Obviously me.

[ericclayton]

@VaIiant Yeah they have someone else in mind.

[VaIiant]

@ericclayton as I said, obviously me

[JimRSmith]

@VaIiant Nah, it's was that @Astoriana misanthrope. Who seems to be delightfully absent from the site these days.

[VaIiant]

Jim, I know 😂

[Justacatlady]

Nicely done and I like that you put that last bit. Everyone wants something that might not be considered PC lol

[Justacatlady]

Thanks for MHO

[Malita55]

I ask for the same in guys, except for the thongs part HAHAHA

[JimRSmith]

Hahahaha, that would have been... unusual, lmao 🤣🤣🤣

[Goodwifie]

This song's for you mate 😆

https://youtu.be/Oai1V7kaFBk

[JimRSmith]

I can't bear that song, but it did do a lot of good at the time, wouldn't you agree? 😂 😂 😂 ;p ;p ;p

[Goodwifie]

I love the song but only because my Konga instructor has made an awesome routine to it.

[lizziepooh03]

I am sorry but I am already taken. lol! :p (Just kidding)

I enjoyed reading the things you find attractive in a woman. I hope you find her. :)

[JimRSmith]

Already have, I'm pleased to say :)

[lizziepooh03]

That is awesome. :)

You have always striked me as a man worth knowing. I am glad to hear someone else thinks so too. :)

I wish you the best of luck in life and love. :)

[JimRSmith]

Thank you, and likewise! :)

[VaIiant]

Nice Take, Jim.
And God damnit, why do I keep being nominated for this.

[JimRSmith]

I did have a few others under consideration, but I know they're pretty busy with other things at the moment, lol.

Have you been nominated previously? Hope @BronzedAdonis hasn't, too...

[VaIiant]

I wrote mine yesterday, I’ve been nominated like four times now.

[JimRSmith]

In that case, I'm going to delegate your nomination to... @dbmusic3...

[sugarchateau]

I'm pleasantly surprised to see that someone was observant enough to put empathy on their list!! 💙 💜💖How sweet!!

[Darknut]

Good God. This was inspiring to read until nomination came around. Please be wary.

[JimRSmith]

You mean Astoriana, lol?

[Darknut]

No no... nevermind you'll see lol

[Darknut]

Chronic.. if you must know. Otherwise good article.

[Anonymous]

Thattttt's interesting thank you for participatingg

[musicbrain5]

Good list, except the thong part.

[JimRSmith]

Except the thong part? 😂 😂 😂

[musicbrain5]

Laugh all you want. I find them very uncomfortable, but that's just me. I'd tell you that right away too. That doesn't mean I wear giant granny panties either though, I lean towards bikinis and hipsters. It's hard to believe something so small and trivial as undergarments would make or break a relationship for you, lol.

Also, I think if she switches to thongs just for you or wears them for you even if she doesn't like it, that goes against the "no pushovers" requirement.

[JimRSmith]

Hahaha, fair point about the trivial. Can't really argue with that, but as I admit, that's my one concession to superficiality. I reckon I'm allowed the one, lol.

It's been a while since I've dated a girl who wasn't wearing them for herself before I came on the scene, tbh. I can be very persuasive, though, so I'm sticking to the no pushover part... ;p

[musicbrain5]

Fair point. It's different if she's already wearing them, since then it's clear that it's for herself and not just to make a guy happy. If she wears bikinis though, and then her boyfriend starts making her wear thongs (or even granny panties if that's what he's into) then yeah, that's a bit on the controlling side to me. It seems like a slippery slope that can easily devolve into him now wanting her to wear certain shirts, certain pants, certain hairstyles, and any other controlling nonsense.

If you and I were dating, I'd be standing up to that and telling you you're wrong, haha. Again, back to your point about confidence, etc. I'm not trying to say that you're wrong to have this preference, just pointing out some irony.

[JimRSmith]

Hmm, likewise, fair point, lol!

[musicbrain5]

I'm headstrong, if you couldn't already tell. 😈

[JimRSmith]

Hahahaha, I could certainly tell! ;p

[BronzedAdonis]

lol, you and your thongs

[BronzedAdonis]

nominate weavie ;)

[JimRSmith]

Now there's a thought... Can you imagine the inarticulate, incestuous drivel that might result? 😂 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

[PrincessPie]

Nice list! 😊

[Hapinus]

"thong"
great take though!

[abundantlyrich]

That's good to know 😁

[Trollfather]

Thongs are ok but I prefer black stockings.

[ThePundertaker]

I respect your choices

[LegateLanius]

Sweet take