I've used Tinder a lot although I'm a quite picky person. After reading another fellow GAG'ers myTake about which tinder users she swipes left on I was inspired to write my own list. I would like to hear your opinions and preferences too. Maybe you're agree or disagree in some of these.
By the way, I've different preferences in men and women. This myTake would explain it too.
1. Wrong age
I prefer to date someone who's as close to my own age because of then there may be a greater chance we relates to each others more, are on the same stage in life and maturity level. Although I'm fully aware of there's always some exceptions I don't think age is just a number and I'm even more picky on age on tinder than in real life, since I can get to know a person quicker when I meets them in person giving me a different impression of them. It's an instant deal breaker if they're under aged for obviously reasons. Relationships are between consenting adults and too young people are too immature to me.
When dating men I prefer someone who's either at my age or a couple of years older. Preferable older. From my experience men older than me are more frequently at the same page as me than these ones at my age and the younger ones aren't datable since most of them hasn't a mature enough appearance. Women can be a year older than me, but I prefer someone who's at my age. I'm open to date women a little bit younger than me though.
When I gets older, I would be more open for bigger age gaps than what I'm now. When I turns 25, I would most likely be open to date men in their early 30s. I could probably date women who's 20 - 26 then, but I wouldn't like to date a woman who's 30. Then I would feel too young. For a weird reason I associates older women with family members, but same thing doesn't apply to men. Most of my family members I looked up to were women older than me.
2. Too young looking
I likes a mature appearance. It's especially important in men. I likes when a man is tall, can grow a properly beard, has some body hair and masculine facial features. Then he looks like an adult and not like a little boy anymore. To me an 18 years old woman looks usually mature enough to me, but most 18 years old guys looks like they could still be in middle school. Most of them can barely grow a beard and still have small features. If a guy could be my little brother, he would be swiped to left.
3. Pets Owners
I've dog and snake phobia. I had a bad experience with an aggressive dog when I was ca. five years old. Thankfully the owner stopped it so it couldn't hurt me. I've never had any bad experiences with snakes, but their disgusting slimy appearance and venom are frightening. As a high sensitive person I don't like too loud sounds or too strong smell either, so animals is a big no. It's as much of a deal breaker as having children.
4. None serious profiles
That's profiles with pictures of celebrities, stolen pictures, memes, sexual jokes etc. I can tell it's a joke if the only picture the user has is a picture of spongebob.
5. No pictures
I can't tell if I'm into you or not if you've no pictures of yourself.
6. No interests in common
If we've absolutely nothing in common I would be easily bored of you and we can't do much together. I'm first of all a very extrovert and talkative person, so if someone doesn't talk or participate in the conversation much it would be too one sided. If we don't have some of the same hobbies or interests it can easily be difficult to find something to talk about. I likes drawing, taking pictures, making food, look at art and history. I don't like sport, going to the gym, hiking or any of the classical physical activities. I enjoys discussing a lot like politics, philosophy, aesthetics, life etc. We don't have to like all of the same things though. It's however important we've the same life choices like no pets, no kids, marriage isn't necessarily necessary, LGBT-friendly and somewhat secular. I'm fine with dating religious people, but they've to respect my choice and not force their religion or lifestyle on me.
7. Unattractive looks
To me it's a deal breaker if a person has a fashion style I don't like, isn't fit or haven't taken care of themselves. Some people; especially men tends to not shave or get a haircut often, wear clothes that match and wears too much graphic t-shirts, baggy clothing etc. As a highly visual person looks is very important. Some people may think I'm shallow although I also cares about personality, personal hygiene, values and so on, but I can't help it not being attracted to everyone. I'm especially picky in men. I likes defined facial features with good proportions where the features aren't too big or small with too wide or small distances. I've a weakness for tall dark looking men with a middle-eastern, south-European, Asian or South-American appearance, although I dates people with looks from the whole globe. It's just preferences. In men I also looks for a model like appearance and so far I've refused to date average plain looking men.
In women I finds femininity, a healthy appearance and cuteness important. I loves a slender figure, long hair and when they're not much taller than me. An average woman may stand a chance if she has a likeable personality that's compatible, but I can't imagine me doing the same to an average man.
8. Catfish suspected
It's pretty much self-explanatory. If I suspect someone to trick me I may find it a turn off. It has happen a few times I actually swiped right on users I was suspicious to because of being too unsure and rather wanting to try to confront them through a video chat. But usually I don't want to waste my time on fake profiles. To me people who looks perfect and model like on all of the pictures is a red flag in my book. These pictures are often retouched in Photoshop.
9. In the military
This one is because of number 6. Again, I'm not interested in exercising, sports etc. It doesn't sound fun to have a partner that I can't meet often because of them living far away in a military base and I don't see the fun in the military either.
10. Smokers
In addition to being unhealthy it also smells bad.
11. Shirtless pictures
It looks too try hard and I can tell if you've a good body or not by looking at your face and clothed body. I interpret these pictures with a message telling me they don't trust me in that I can tell if they looks nice or not and therefor they've to make it as obviously as possible.
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