Dating these days feels very unjust. But both genders say so.
Relationships are a normal desire in humans. But sometimes things are out of reach or are seemingly not even meant to be.
I am not going to repeat after Elliot Rodger or the incel members. However it will be difficult to do so without looking like one and there is no easy way of putting this here. So approach this article with a rather open mind. Thank you in advance.
I love women. I am thankful that they are on earth and that we coexist usually in peace. Many women are beautiful and kind and have a soothing voice and a soft, pleasant skin and all that and pretty much the opposite of what we men are.
Dating them however proves to be a challenge.
You could be that guy, who got rejected and rejection after rejection you wonder if there's something wrong with you. Are you ugly? Too rough? Too nice? Do your clothes smell weird? Did you say something wrong?
Or whether women even want relationships in general.
Or that suddenly they became robots.
Or that they turned lesbian.
Or anything in general, really.
On the other hand there are some ridiculous standards that quite some women have.
Who cares about personality when you can demand standards, that most men can't fit in even if they wanted to? Tall like a tree, strong like a hulk, wealthy like a businessman and even specific zodiac signs!!! Yes, you heard that right! ZODIAC SIGNS!!!
I won't settle for anything less. I deserve the best!
This is also one of the (leading?) reasons of the decline in relationships. I'm not blaming anyone but the increase in this philosophy being the decline in relationships is a fact. And facts do not care how you view, accept or decline them.
The knight in shining armor may very well not exist at all. They were for the most parts filmed in scripted movies. This is no different from certain men taking porn as an example of what their expectations in sex will be.
Make no mistake as it is not a secret. Rich men get the honeybees with little effort while we - the others - hardly get anything at maximum effort. It can be observed over and over again. Is that really the most reliable way to do it?
Finding matches on POF, Badoo, HotOrNot has not yielded results for me or my pals.
I do wonder how successful dating for homosexuals actually is on the contrary of traditional heterosexual couples.
If I was gay I could go and try grindr so I could see it for myself. But I also don't want to set up a show either because... well I'm simply not gay! I also do not know anyone, who is either gay or bisexual.
I would really love to believe in that and finding love but it became somewhat similar to believing in Santa Claus.
It seems too good to be true. A loving woman always being by my side and exchanging affections with me within my arms reach!
The lonely nights
We can't be the only ones dealing with the lonely nights. Or can we?
The bed and the pillows are the only soft things I come into physical contact with when going to sleep. And if daydreams of being romantic and intimate with a nice lady won't drive me to insomnia due to the lack of such experiences, then the recurring depressions will.
Again, women are beautiful and nice and all that and I would really look forward of having one by my side. I'd treat her like a queen because I want to be treated like a king.
But at times like these I do wish almost dearly this feeling to fade away and to become gay instead. Then at least I wouldn't deal with the missing part of my love life and can continue living happy - much like children not missing a boyfriend or a girlfriend when they are in elementary school. I can physically feel the expiration at the expense of my own health.
Thanks for reading!
Note: I do not know why GAG forces this topic into Sexuality when it's clearly about Dating.