It's sad to me that hookup culture and friends with benefits is so common with young people my age.
It's even more sad that women actually think this is empowering.
There's nothing empowering about "friends with benefits".
SAY NO TO FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
Women. Get some damn self respect.
You are worth more than being used to satisfy his sexual cravings.
He doesn't respect you. He sees you as loose and as public property.
He will use you for sex until he finds a girlfriend whom he actually cares about.
He doesn't give a shit about you.
You're just a piece of ass to him.
We are women. For us, sex is a beautiful meaningful experience.
Stop lying to yourselves that you can have sex without feelings just like guys.
No quality man will ever take you seriously afterwards, much less marry you.
The thing is, guys don't have this problem. Women would willingly marry him but men won't marry you if you have friends with benefits.
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Sigh... This is just disappointing to read. I thought this would be an interesting look at the dynamics for men and women, and not just someone calling women stupid whores and men insensitive sex fiends.
Sex is not some beautiful meaningful experience, it's awkward at times, weird at first, a hot and sweaty exercise, but most importantly it should be fun. Sex should be enjoyable for the people involved in it, it's not some perfect movie scene with dim lights and a love song playing in the background as two people finally become one connected force under the moonlight. It's just another form of intimacy two people decide to share with one another. That's not to say sex is never meaningful, it just means that sex doesn't always have to be meaningful. It's not a default setting that automatically comes with the activity.
Women's vaginas are not some beautiful prize to be earned nor is it a tool that we hold over men to 'get them to marry us'. That mindset IS what regulates us to just being a tool and just being a piece of ass, like you so eloquently put it. Our vaginas are just an organ on our body that has a purpose just like our breast, just like our eyes, just like our hands. It is not some holy relic to be given or taken by anyone.
Do not look down on women who just want to have sex because they felt horny and wanted to be satisfied by a man. Don't look down on men who want the same thing, don't just decide he's an emotionless piece shit who is only using women. You can't just throw out one blanket statement over everyone and expect it to be true. That's not fair.
If two consenting adults decide they want to use each other to satisfy their needs casually but habitually, then who the hell are we to judge them and say that they are wrong or just assume that it's not meaningful to them.
If someone wants to wait until marriage, that's great it's not our place to assume or judge them either.
If someone has only had sex with people they were dating, then that's great it's still not our place to judge or assume.
If someone wants to never have sex, or another person could never be a friend with benefits, or someone else has a polyamorous relationship, it's not our place to insert our opinions.
Stop trying to police what people do in their bedrooms and with who they do it with, it's none of your business unless you're personally there or affected by it.
Just continue to go do you and don't worry about others. Find someone to have meaningful sex with and just be happy and content with that. Don't try to force others to follow your own personal ideology, by shaming them into compliance.
But hey, what would I know, I can't speak on the behalf of anyone else; but that's just what I think.
This!!! I don’t don’t friends with benefits because right now I’m looking for something serious, however I don’t judge anyone that wants to have casual sex. Live and let other people live.
Would you mind sharing your opinion on a take I wrote about this same topic?
Friends With Bennies: The Ins And Outs Of A Successful FBW Relationship ☺️ ↗