In the United States, 1 out of every 5 boys are sexually abused by the time they reach adulthood. This amounts to 20% of men in American society have been sexually victimized. If you estimate that 48% of Americans are men, that means out of 300 million Americans, 144 million are men. If we estimate that 144 million Americans are men and that 20% of them are abused, that means that roughly 28 million American men have been sexually abused.
This may be a conservative number to to the lack of reporting that many men may have.
We live in a society where women expect men to take the lead in romantic relationships. Men who have been traumatized by sexual abuse are faced to relive their trauma by being the initiators of sexual requests and consent. Women posts on GAG asking how to manipulate men to ask them out or kiss them or have sex with them. All of these things foster an unfair stereotype of men being sexual aggressors. It forces victimized men to play the role of sexual initiator or sexual aggressor to fulfill some boneheaded concept that initiating a date or a kiss or sexual interaction is exclusively the job of men.
I celebrate the confident women out there who view the dating world as an equal playing field. I cherish the women out there who are comfortable in their sexuality and have the courage to say, "I really like you. Do you want to go on a date sometime?" or "This has been fun do you want to come to my place?" or just simply has the guts to hold the shy nerdy guy's hand and kiss him.
I am a survivor. I wish I had that experience when I was a young man. I would have felt a sense of acceptance in those first years and experiences of sexuality. My memories of sex would have been or acceptance or love or even just fun. Not anxiety attacks and fear stemming from childhood abuse.
More women are sexually abused than men. But the stereotype of dominance placed on men puts an unfair pressure on them. Can we agree to equalize
who leads in romantic dating?