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that's why it bothers me a lot when people call dating, relationships, a skillset or learned behavior, because it reminds me, I like to feel its only guys who have to know or learn so many different behaviors, while women just have to be attractive, which isn't really behavior-based.
It's a mix between skills, oppertunity and matching personalities. As a female you need a skillset as well. Believe it or not, but guys ghost as well. We need skillsets to prevent ghosting, to be found attractive, to flirt, be confident etc.
If the only thing women needed was to be found attractive, no attractive woman would be single.
nobody cares about a womans confidence
Very good advice. I'd just add that in my experience on Bumble, the woman will just say hi or something similar, so a guy still often has to communicate as if he is taking the initiative.
I think most women are not used to taking the initiative and therefore just start with a hi. Personally with a low-investment message like that, you should stay low-investment, so it's not coming from your side only. If she's still then not willing to invest, she might not be worth your time.
I have actually had very good experiences with the women I met on Bumble, and initiating isn't a problem for me anyway.(these were women in their 40s). That said, you're right that a guy shouldn't get too excited just yet if she doesn't message him with much.
On Bumble only females are allowed to initiate conversation, so by just saying hi she allows the man to actually initiate if he is interested.
This is one of the reason why I stopped dating women almost 16 years ago. They're too complicated and are so easily turned off at the most ridiculous thing. Dating women these days just isn't worth the hassle. Let them rot.
Good for you?
I know :)
I've seen my fair share of woman being turn off by small things like:
He opened the door for me/he didn't open the door for me
He didn't pay for the first date.
He's not ripped enough (the dude is a monster)
He's not funny enough / i'm offended by the joke he said (same woman)
@usernamesk They really are pathetic.
All pretty solid advice.
I give you a lot of credit if you actually take the initiative to message guys on bumble, literally every single message I have ever got on that app was “Hi 🙂”
I hate receiving hi's from guys myself, so I do take a bit more effort.
Hot tips for all guys.
#1 be good looking
#2 be good looking
#3 be good looking
If you don't have that, don't even bother online dating.
It's easy to blame your problems on external things.
Men are men and women aren't men.
What you perceive as mistakes , we use as filters.
You obviously dont understand men. And your still trying to change us.
Failed !!
I believe we're not that different. In fact, from a neuroscience perspective we really aren't. I'm not trying to change anyone, you can also not read this post.
It's just like all your interest are similar to mine. Except mine interest are fulfilled through the Bible with as living GOD. You can also not read the Bible.
True I'm not religious. Good your interests are fulfilled.
I'm not religious either... only personal relationship with the lord and God.
Religion is pegan and idolitric.
I don't believe in god
Well to bad , he's still there whether or not you you belive it or not.
My god your profile is so catfish lmao. A pretty blonde hair, blue eye girl that's into
Neuroscience , video games and manga... LMAO!!!
Except it's not. Why would I have so many pictures of a random girl 😅. Thanks for calling me pretty though
Most dating sites Guys have to pay just to contact someone and i have asked before if its worth buying a subscription to a dating site and most people said 'No', So im not gonna pay for something that most people say is not worth paying for.
tinder, bumble, happn etc is all free, so there's not really an excuse?
I do not know about the other sites but guys have to pay to see people who like us on Tinder which is $73.00aud (i just looked).
Why would you do that then? I don't need to see who likes me?
I haven't done it myself all i can do on Tinder is look at girls profiles, To chat or anything else we have to pay.
So whats the point.
Ah I really didn't know that! As a girl you can swipe, chat and have limited superlikes. Maybe try bumble instead. I'm pretty sure that's free for guys as well.
In short: mind games, play the mind games and definitely play the mind games. Oh and don't forget to play the mind games.
I wouldn't know why you call them mind games. There's a difference in being honest and authentic and being too honest. I don't put on profile that I take a shit every morning either.
In other words, find a useless human that wants you to cater to her every need. No thanks. It's 2019 learn to reciprocate
That's not what I said at all? You have to put in effort to receive effort. If she doesn't put effort in it, then move on? However I do think it's wise to make that step first.
No matter how you slice it, you're recommending the guy to do all the work. Why don't women go 50/50 from the start?
Except I'm not. Did you read anything? If a woman doesn't reprociate the effort then maybe she's not that into you and I wouldn't continue. Someone has to start and it's wise to be you.
"someone has to start, it's wise to be you" You literally just proved what I said. You're fucking dense woman
You're dense for not understanding the whole post. I'm not saying women shouldn't start the conversation. I even encourage them, however, I don't recommend for men to stay indecisive if they do initiate. Often men think it's courteous to let the woman decide what to do, but it just looks insecure.
The amount of times you contradict yourself and back track is astonishing. I'm just going to dismiss it as you're mentally deficient
3. Is a great point! Most guys can easily overpower any girl, by now it's just an instinct that you are creepy/a danger if you try to meet too fast.
here's some better tips. if your looking for. dating/ relationship that works. If not use hook up sites or lie to these females tell them what they wanna hear and don't be weird.
Older females and baby mamas are easy lays
Maybe you should write your own MyTake if you know better tips
So, basically the only way you can get laid is to lie to women?
If that's the case, maybe you shouldn't be advising others
I don't like dating apps to many romance scammers Male and female romance scammers if you want to get meet someone go to party or library or even social gathering even the malls
I encourage people always to meet people in real life, however, I do know that that is not always easy. For me I study fulltime and my study is about 75% females and I study at the other side of the country now, so if I would meet someone, it would later be long-distance. Also I have to go home every weekend for work and take care of my ill sister. Therefore I have very little time to do things that include meeting new people. Also, as social media has gotten a more dominant position in our lives, a lot of people are scared to approach someone and rather do it through chat.
I agree that dating apps are not ideal, but for some it's necessary.
Okay
You're not "cis" no one is, that's a made up Marxist term, there are only men and women, the rest are mental illnesses and birth defects.
What about long walks on the beach... aren't women supposed to love that shit?
Not on the first date
It's alright if you live next to the beach or something? But don't see it as more meaningful than a walk in the park or walk through a city.
Online dating apps made my hate girls and stop trying
It's hard to flirt when most women are feminists. You can't joke about having sex with women without triggering a feminist rage lol
Flirting is out lol
Lmao so many butthurt boys in the opinion section. Like she tries to help men but in return she gets hate and then wonder why feminazis exist
That's GaG for ya
Sad o let me get this straight if I’m a huge wrestling fan and I took a picture with a female wrestler it wouldn’t be ok to post it cause it would be misconstrued
Kind of a childish response. You knwo very well I didn't mean it like that. If you make it clear you're doing that sport it doesn't apply ofcourse. Use some common sense
I’m not doing that sport I’m a huge fan but occasionally I take pictures with the female wrestlers and yes they are really attractive
I wouldn't recommend that. Kinda looks like you objectify women
Well I take pictures with all the superstars at least I try to get pictures with as many as possible it’s cool
There's a time and place for those photos. Dating apps ain't it. I don't put my ugly meme selfies I send to my best friend either on my profile.
Men need to get off dating apps
True but also not true. I feel like it's a vicious circle of going where the females are and the females going where the males are. It starts ofcourse with people not approaching eachother enough in real life, but human nature will always choose the easiest way, which is in this case the comfort of dating apps.