Okay, so here's another myTake.
If you don't like it, it's okay, I understand and I have no problem with that, after all we all think differently 🧠. Anyway, so if you're a girl/boy/alien or whatever and after reading this you're angry, you disagree with what I said or feel offended, that's your problem... After all if the shoe fits, wear it, mi ciela! If you try to insult me through the comments at least have the huevotes to do it showing your username and not anonymously :)
Should guys always pay?
That's it. That's the answer. Guys should not always pay and before you give me some of your mala vibra keep reading, please.
I used to be one of those girls, I admit it. I used to think that guys should always pay because:
1. They are guys
2. Guys must be the providers
3. This is one is horrible and quite stupid: the guy who always pays is a gentleman, whereas if he doesn't pay he's an idiot, a douche, an imbecile, etc.
Yeah, I know it's pathetic to think that way, but I've changed my mind and I understand if many girls still thinking that way, but guys, that's not our fault, remember we live in a society where everything is girl's stuff and the other side is guy's stuff. I can't speak for other cultures/countries but at least in mine, we, girls, were taught (and still are) to always be there for men, respect them, to serve them, and basically be submissive, while they are taught to make money and be the macho. Now, in other countries it might have changed.
Girls, do you find it sweet when a guy offers to pay? I bet you feel like he cares about you, you feel like you mean a lot to him. Well, he would feel exactly the same if you offer to split the bill. Some girls (some, I'm not saying all girls and I'm not saying your name, so please stop making me de pedo for this, thanks) think «Why should I offer to split the bill if he will say no? I've tried many times and he always says no», I understand, but hey, even if they don't let you pay, they do appreciate that gesture and it's something they won't forget. But also if they accept the girl's offer, she will get angry and think «Are you serious? Stop me now and say you'll pay for both of us. I'm a woman, how dare you to expect such a thing like this? I know I offered to split the bill but that doesn't mean you have to accept it!» and let's be honest, maaaany girls have ended a relationship just because guys accepted to split the bill. The fact that you offer to split the bill means a lot to them, or even if you offer to give some money, not even the half of the bill but at least something! That means a lot to them.
If you expect guys to always pay this is what they will think:
1. I feel used.
2. She only wants me because I pay for her
3. Am I paying for her company? Do I have to pay if I want to spend some time with her?
And you will think, if he doesn't pay for me every time means I'm not important to him, he doesn't like me, he doesn't love me, he's an idiot and he doesn't deserve me. That's wrong, money has NOTHING to do with that.
However, there's a situation where only one of you must pay for everything (and it doesn't matter if you're a girl or a guy): when you ask them to go on a date with you. If she asks you to go on a date, she should pay, she's the one who's inviting you. If he asks you to go on a date, he should pay for everything. But hey, both should always offer to split or help with part of the bill, that doesn't make you less woman/man. Guys nor girls are cash machines, we should take care of each other's pockets and treat each other from time to time.
It's not fair to make and expect guys to pay all the time. Just enjoy each other's company and offer some help even if he says «No worries, I'll pay». And it's not bad if at some point you pay for the complete bill, that's sweet as well. And this is not only when going on a date, it's in general. If you go to a shop, to the cinema, etc, always offer to help and they will appreciate it ☺️❤️.
Thanks for reading,
All the love 💛.