The Irony of The Classic Idea MEN Should Pay For A Woman's Meal On A Date Always.

[Anonymous]

Feminists make such a huge hoopla about indepence and that women should be this that and the other thing. But its just amazing how many then also claim entitlement that guys HAVE to pay for their meal. Its like what happened to that whole speech about "women being independent? NOW you're suddenly entitled to a mans wallet. I thought you wanted men NOT to objectify you.

Why not pay your own way. Especially if its the first date. A man has not reason to foot your bill when they probably don't even know you.

At least maybe say how about I pay my half and let the guy have the chivalrous feeling of being the prince charming. Do stuff in the relationship that makes you an equal rather than assume just cause your his potential wife that suddenly equals your the new real owner of the potential husbands wallet. If you want to be treated equally then take equal responsibility of the realtionship.

[Julietchicago]

men paying for dates was around since before feminism. I don't think feminists even have a view on who pays for dates bc it's too frivolous an issue.
I guess you're just mad that feminists gave equal rights to women, so now you want to punish us for it. You sound like a whiney little hipster
A real man isn't offended that women have the same rights. A real man will pay for dates because it is part of his masculinity.
By telling men they should go dutch, you are emasculating men. In fact, the men I've been out with who went dutch on our first date were total pussies. No thanks

[OutdoorsForLife]

Exactly, the man pays for the date

[myTake Owner]

I think it just shows how little women are finacially stable and it also shows how little they actually care about the relationship. IT takes two to tango. If you aren't willing to be an equal. Now you're talking about leaning on the other. Which is about as unstable as one can get. Cause what happens if the one who's making all the money and paying for everything is gone, you are screwed cold feet. Sure short term you have a giant wad of cash but thats not forever.

[OutdoorsForLife]

@Pyrofox it’s $50... if you as a guy can afford to pay $50 to treat a lady to dinner then why date? It’s not about being equal, it’s about planning a nice date and the opportunity to set the tone in dating her going forward. If you are too cheap to not buy that meal, that’s a red flag on your ability to provide in the future.

[Julietchicago]

@OutdoorsForLife thank you! I was going to say something like that. And @Pyrofox, it's not about being equal. If I wanted an equal partner, I'd date a chick

[OutdoorsForLife]

@Julietchicogo you are welcome. Truth be told I had to learn that lesson because it wasn’t obvious and certainly it’s not taught to young boys. Now I embrace the first date as a clear opportunity to show a lady a preview of how I intend to provide for for going forward and demonstrate I have a plan. Guys who whine about equality don’t understand the symbolism of the first date and setting the time in the relationship.

[OutdoorsForLife]

Lol @Julietchicago

[Julietchicago]

@OutdoorsForLife no and they don't understand it's not about money

[OutdoorsForLife]

What’s it about. I agree it’s not about money.

[scarlett774]

I don’t think it’s a feminist thing, I’m pretty sure it was around long before when they had very tradition gender roles.

[SpiritBear]

It's called culture. Tradition. Old idea. Men were the ones with the money before. Now they're not, but the stigma retains. But it's fine if you don't want to pay for someone elses meal if they can pay for themself, and you didn't lead them to assume you would pay.

[Tom204]

It depends on whether or not you truly love her

[_piotr]

It depends on whether she truly loves you

[Guy13]

Of course women want to be objectified as do you. But yeah, practice what you preach is not on the top of the Feminist list. It seems as though they are more out to destroy rather than grow into one flesh. Maybe, I am a romantic...