Successful Friend with Benefits

[Anonymous]

So a friends with benefits is a touchy subject. there's the stereotype of someone always catching feelings and ruining it. This has lead to many unsuccessful attempts at having a friends with benefits.

I've had a successful friends with benefits dynamic though and some points are key.

First and foremost is being honest from the get go. Each and every relationship you get in requires a basis to start. If you start talking to someone and are honest that your intention is not to date or be together but really just to have sex occasionally then make that absolutely clear.

Second, keep the appropriate type of relationship. If you literally just want sex then only communicate when they is the goal. Dont really get all personal in those conversations.

Third, communicate. If you're no longer wanting to be friends with benefits then say that. If you are starting to catch feelings say that. You dont have to spill your guts to the other person but letting them know where you're at is important.

Any other tips please post below but these are the ones that I've found work best.

[_Whatever]

Lovers aren't friends. Lovers are lovers, and friends are friends. I disagree with the "perfect match" part of this diagram up there.

Anyway, yeah honesty and communication are important for sure.

[myTake Owner]

The diagram is saying that a relationship should have love, sex and a level of friendship to be able to work

[_Whatever]

I know but what I'm saying is true friendship is platonic, meaning that lovers aren't friends, not really.

[john0372]

@_Whatever That's just simply wrong.

[bulletbob555]

I had one and we would say I'm seeing someone now and once it was over start calling again. That worked for us.

[Alivegirlll]

Is this a scientific diagram?

[myTake Owner]

No. This isn't a scientific subject.

[Alivegirlll]

This subject is related to psychology and sexual selection

[myTake Owner]

It was an image off of google. I'm not trying to make a scientific point. Only share what I have seen that works.

[Guy13]

YOur model is fluid and sometimes we hit your perfect but given there are two entities we are much more inclined to feel parts of your model at different times. And it is mostly likely that we are never in full cohesion ans what a woman thinks is perfect IS VERY DIFFERENT than what a man thinks. I like it though as it is fun theoretically but definitely not reliable practically.

[b5fan]

I am confused. If you only talk when you want sex. How is that a good friendship? I don't mean to pry, but that seems hard to do.

[Anonymous]

Not gonna lie that's a pretty funny Venn diagram.

[myTake Owner]

Yo I literally just googled an image and use one of the first ones that I found.

[Wewladdy]

No such thing as successful sluts.
Next.

[myTake Owner]

Damn you are angry dude

[Wewladdy]

Why are you anonymous if there's no shame in opening your legs for anyone who is nice to you? Just wondering.

Also, used to be angry about societal decay. Now I just laugh about it. Most people truly do not have a semblance of intelligence anymore.

[myTake Owner]

I'm sorry when did I say that I've opened my legs to anybody that was nice to me? And hate to break it to you but you're taking your anger out on the wrong post.

[Unatcomail]

I think so