If you want to be a man who takes charge, then please behave in a way that shows that, it will turn on women who like that, and turn off women who do not like that, and that's perfectly okay, if you're not compatible, you're not meant to be together. And the opposite is true if you want to be a submissive man, or an equal man.
The goal is not to turn on all women on Earth, is to turn on your type of women.
On the train home from work, I keep seeing douchebags who can't be bothered to mask up out of respect for other people's health. The common denominator is they always have hot girlfriends.
Mating is an old drive. You can pretend we are too civilized for that to matter, but it is obviously bullshit when decent people keep getting overlooked and jerks that won the genetic lottery get it all.
Shots fired!! Anyway, you're right. To teach someone tricks is not only manipulative, but it's also deceitful as well. Some men are so insecure that they call themselves gurus and "Alpha" males just to look better, but it makes them look insecure indeed.
People use that hierarchy as excuses for some of their irresponsible dating decision making in the present or past.
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Each time I ask for permission to flirt the woman takes it as something weird. Good luck with that approach guys. Also the only time things work is if I let her do the moves. When I do the moves I am used like a tissue. And then I nearly have to apologize for being interested. And just shut up. Tell me what do I do wrong and what I can do better and I will try to apply it madam beanie. But use science baked advice in it if possible. Thanks in advance :)
All the 'individualism' talk is just fake. People in general all act pretty much the same, especially by gender. There's even an acro for that - AWALT - all women are like that. The someone comes along and says NAWALT - not all women are like that. LOL Well, yeah, they are.
Everyone's different so the ideal partner for everyone is different. Most often your ideal partners are those who think like you, not necessarily on all things but most things
Yes everybody is an individual no one can generalize what all women like just like no one can say what all men like. I thought this was obvious but some need to read it more to understand I guess.
So in summary your turned off by the whole concept of "gaming" because you feel it manipulative and deceptive?
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Here we go. The butthurt blues are coming in waves en route to verbally assault you as if their candy was stolen. The meaning of "where are all the good men" became quite relevant these days.
Unfortunately for you the law makes a relationship an investment so no matter how much you call yourself indaviduals you aren't going to convince us to bet on high risk ventures.
@unbeatable in tribal times, your parents would have kicked you out before age 15... so be glad we're living different times nowadays and they still pay for your food.
Dude she’s a feminist she’s part of the problem – helping the misandry Western “ system that hates men is one of the reasons why men are staying away from relationships. She’s a moron! She a feminist. While men in power in the UK give her the same reason for her to act misandry.
I always go anon by default without even thinking, don't take it personally babe. There's no reason not to be anon.
I feel like you just picked a bunch of stereotypes, made them seem worst than they are, then offered to nothing positive to replace it with. You're being naïve about all these things and then shitting on the people just trying to figure things out. I think you should leave it to the people who have positive and practical approaches to offer rather than just being negative.
That's your opinion and you're entitled to it, but all of my examples were taken directly from the material that I read on this site by authors who were either universally popular or had at least one popular take.
I think you're being a little unfair and biased by making assumptions about me that probably come from preconceived notions you came into reading this article with.
If you think I offered nothing positive by saying you don't have to trick and use hacks to get people to like you, and that you should treat every person you plan to get to know as an individual... that's on you man.
Again, you are titled to your opinion, but I come from the circle of believing criticism of any popular media comes with the possibility of growth. And I just think we can all grow up from: Be An AlPhA mAlE cUz WomEn ArE cOmPliCaTeD.
I also admit I am a little biased, obviously. But nonetheless, thanks for commenting and sharing your opinion.
It’s not like you were quoting anyone. So that’s not “taking it directly”, that’s an interpretation – and I don’t think it’s a good one.
I don’t think I’m being unfair. I’m reading your text and I see it as wrong, that’s all. e. g Literally everyone has "rules" and "hacks" and to dismiss them is nonsense. Ignorance of what you do and how you do these things doesn’t make it bad.
“If you think I offered nothing positive by saying you don't have to trick and use hacks to get people to like you, and that you should treat every person you plan to get to know as an individual...” Yes it’s profoundly unhelpful. It’s all “don’t do this, don’t do that”. Something positive would be “do this” – something useful/practical that works and carries you in the right direction. Everyone already understands that everyone is different. What is practical is trying to understand the ways in which people are similar in order to appeal to others broadly, then fine tuning to narrow in on the more obscure traits that you share or appreciate to find compatible people.
It’s a similar technology to politeness. Politeness is practical. Treating everyone like a totally unique animal is not.
“Be An AlPhA mAlE cUz WomEn ArE cOmPliCaTeD.” Okay, obviously an exaggerated stereotype. An honest representation is that it’s offering something positive, something you can use to try to be active and steer yourself toward your desired outcomes. By contrast, “everyone is unique and it’s a mess out there, good luck” doesn’t help people. It cements a state of confusion and anxiety.
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To the op, you can claim women don't want alpha makes all you want but the statistics say you aren't just wrong you're 180 degrees from right.
Women want men who are wealthy, good looking, and take charge. Anyone who says otherwise is full of shit or trying to scam you.
This all comes to down to:"Just be yourself".
If you want to be a man who takes charge, then please behave in a way that shows that, it will turn on women who like that, and turn off women who do not like that, and that's perfectly okay, if you're not compatible, you're not meant to be together. And the opposite is true if you want to be a submissive man, or an equal man.
The goal is not to turn on all women on Earth, is to turn on your type of women.
On the train home from work, I keep seeing douchebags who can't be bothered to mask up out of respect for other people's health. The common denominator is they always have hot girlfriends.
Mating is an old drive. You can pretend we are too civilized for that to matter, but it is obviously bullshit when decent people keep getting overlooked and jerks that won the genetic lottery get it all.
Shots fired!! Anyway, you're right. To teach someone tricks is not only manipulative, but it's also deceitful as well. Some men are so insecure that they call themselves gurus and "Alpha" males just to look better, but it makes them look insecure indeed.
People use that hierarchy as excuses for some of their irresponsible dating decision making in the present or past.
Each time I ask for permission to flirt the woman takes it as something weird. Good luck with that approach guys.
Also the only time things work is if I let her do the moves. When I do the moves I am used like a tissue. And then I nearly have to apologize for being interested. And just shut up. Tell me what do I do wrong and what I can do better and I will try to apply it madam beanie.
But use science baked advice in it if possible.
Thanks in advance :)
So much absolute bullshit here. Clueless. Did you actually make this shit up? Or is simply regurgitated from the internet?
Cute how you used the same verbiage as me. At least that confirms you read it.
All the 'individualism' talk is just fake. People in general all act pretty much the same, especially by gender. There's even an acro for that - AWALT - all women are like that. The someone comes along and says NAWALT - not all women are like that. LOL Well, yeah, they are.
Everyone's different so the ideal partner for everyone is different. Most often your ideal partners are those who think like you, not necessarily on all things but most things
If you’re a feminist? you shouldn’t be in the UK why don’t you move to North Korea or Iran or Pakistan tons of work for you there!
toxin feminism!!
how to get a girl...
... who fucking cares there is no solution.
Yes everybody is an individual no one can generalize what all women like just like no one can say what all men like. I thought this was obvious but some need to read it more to understand I guess.
I don't hate you and I'm bisexual too. I'm your friend if you need one.
I will dumb it down for all of you:
Women are humans.
Yet prone to the madness of crowds. E. g. how many millions of women do you think want to sleep with a BTS member? Compared to the average guy?
@Goatmeal If there is still good women, those are which I care about.
So in summary your turned off by the whole concept of "gaming" because you feel it manipulative and deceptive?
Here we go. The butthurt blues are coming in waves en route to verbally assault you as if their candy was stolen.
The meaning of "where are all the good men" became quite relevant these days.
Unfortunately for you the law makes a relationship an investment so no matter how much you call yourself indaviduals you aren't going to convince us to bet on high risk ventures.
Because it is much simpler to push hackneyed cliches than to try and figure out individual complexities.
Why do i care that you're unnatural in every regard
I don't know, why do you?
Because in tribal times i would be a chief and have you banished
Well, we're not in tribal times baby boy.
You're still just as replaceable
Everyone is. Most of the world wouldn't care if you died. Why should I be upset by that?
This is just a bizarre interaction lol.
By the by, is it because I'm a feminist or bisexual that you have internalized issues with me?
Im irreplaceable, I am the capstone of my ancestors, destined for greatness
Its the mental illness
I sincerely doubt, but, nothing wrong with being confident. Good luck with becoming a tribal chief.
Confidence is fraudulent, its what anxious people use to seem loving. Love is everything. Even demons know this, and y'all use confidence to mimic it.
Uh huh.
@unbeatable in tribal times, your parents would have kicked you out before age 15... so be glad we're living different times nowadays and they still pay for your food.
@NathanDavis Spoken like a true fat ass
@unbeatable don't show your fragile ego so quick, chief...
@NathanDavis Since when is being fragile and expensive a bad thing. But of course you didn't touch it. Blocked
@unbeatable awwww
@unbeatable now I feel bad
money, gift, marriage divorce with settlement, child support $$$
Dude she’s a feminist she’s part of the problem – helping the misandry Western “ system that hates men is one of the reasons why men are staying away from relationships. She’s a moron! She a feminist. While men in power in the UK give her the same reason for her to act misandry.
You’re kind of oblivious. Go back to listening to what people have to some more.
Listen to... what people have? Like am I supposed to put my ear to the door and listen to them sit on their couches or something? You lost me mate.
*have to say
Oooohhhhh. Okay. Now I get what you're saying.
I did hear what the man had to say. I just disagree. But I will keep an open mind in the future. Thanks anonymous male.
I always go anon by default without even thinking, don't take it personally babe. There's no reason not to be anon.
I feel like you just picked a bunch of stereotypes, made them seem worst than they are, then offered to nothing positive to replace it with. You're being naïve about all these things and then shitting on the people just trying to figure things out. I think you should leave it to the people who have positive and practical approaches to offer rather than just being negative.
That's your opinion and you're entitled to it, but all of my examples were taken directly from the material that I read on this site by authors who were either universally popular or had at least one popular take.
I think you're being a little unfair and biased by making assumptions about me that probably come from preconceived notions you came into reading this article with.
If you think I offered nothing positive by saying you don't have to trick and use hacks to get people to like you, and that you should treat every person you plan to get to know as an individual... that's on you man.
Again, you are titled to your opinion, but I come from the circle of believing criticism of any popular media comes with the possibility of growth. And I just think we can all grow up from: Be An AlPhA mAlE cUz WomEn ArE cOmPliCaTeD.
I also admit I am a little biased, obviously. But nonetheless, thanks for commenting and sharing your opinion.
It’s not like you were quoting anyone.
So that’s not “taking it directly”, that’s an interpretation – and I don’t think it’s a good one.
I don’t think I’m being unfair. I’m reading your text and I see it as wrong, that’s all.
e. g Literally everyone has "rules" and "hacks" and to dismiss them is nonsense.
Ignorance of what you do and how you do these things doesn’t make it bad.
“If you think I offered nothing positive by saying you don't have to trick and use hacks to get people to like you, and that you should treat every person you plan to get to know as an individual...”
Yes it’s profoundly unhelpful. It’s all “don’t do this, don’t do that”. Something positive would be “do this” – something useful/practical that works and carries you in the right direction. Everyone already understands that everyone is different. What is practical is trying to understand the ways in which people are similar in order to appeal to others broadly, then fine tuning to narrow in on the more obscure traits that you share or appreciate to find compatible people.
It’s a similar technology to politeness.
Politeness is practical. Treating everyone like a totally unique animal is not.
“Be An AlPhA mAlE cUz WomEn ArE cOmPliCaTeD.”
Okay, obviously an exaggerated stereotype. An honest representation is that it’s offering something positive, something you can use to try to be active and steer yourself toward your desired outcomes.
By contrast, “everyone is unique and it’s a mess out there, good luck” doesn’t help people. It cements a state of confusion and anxiety.
True, hearing the bisexual feminist... the rest seemed just jibber-jabber