I launched “Online Dating Profile Critiques” on Anterose.com earlier this year and since then I have learned a lot about what bothers men and women in dating profiles. While guys are way more likely than girls to not care about grammar and focus more on the pictures, they still definitely have common themes in what bothers them in profiles, and this can indicate the most common issues in women’s profiles.
While women tend to be concerned about men being “arrogant”, men tend to phrase it more as “snobby.” Just like in a guy’s profile, it’s best for a woman to come across as confident but still a bit humble, so that they don’t get into that danger zone of arrogance or snobbiness. Appearing snobby in a profile can be a quick buzzkill for a lot of guys.
Not giving much effort to look nice in photos
Perhaps men are more superficial, but we do see more critiques of photos in which the guys apparently are disappointed that the women don't seem to put forth any effort to look nice in the photos. Some guys suggest getting professional photos or simply getting a little spruced up with makeup and jewelry. Shallow or not, it's seemingly pretty important.
No full body photos
Again, men are perhaps more visual in their analysis of a woman on a dating site, but they definitely want to see the “whole package,” including at least one photo where you can see the woman’s figure, not just her face.
Looking unhappy in photos
Profiles in which the woman looks like she is having a bad time in most or all of her pictures are quick to get the suggestion of looking happier. Share a smile and have a variety of photos to display your interests and personality.
Only very close up or only far away pictures
Profiles in which the pictures are all close up shots of the face only are as quick to get critiqued as profiles in which all the pictures are shots from a distance. Men are visual and want a variety of photos.
Men that review profiles are quick to point out when the women are self-deprecating or overall negative. Be positive, be happy, be optimistic, and you’ll come across as a more enjoyable person to spend time with.
When surveyed, guys' biggest fear in online dating is often getting duped by a woman who is being dishonest about herself. Accordingly, if a guy thinks you may not be presenting yourself honestly in your profile, he’s less likely to approach you or respond to messages. “Catfishing,” or deceiving people online into believing you are someone that you're not, is common and as scary to men as it is to women.
Written by Stuart Brent
Founder of Anterose.com Online Dating Profile Critiques. Have 10 men or women in the age range you want to date give custom and private feedback on your profile to find what’s holding you back from online dating success.