I'm a nerd and trying to woo a nerd. The thing is, relationship are always about understanding and acceptance, and it hasn't changed, no matter what kind of culture he/she comes from. This article goes a bit to explaining it in slightly more detail. :)
You sound so negative that is why the girl does not want you. Most nerds have this corporate mentality but are very idealistic also. Experience empowers you boy, go get rejected 100 times and learn something
First of all, I am older than you, and people older than me typically refer to me as sir. Second, you sound pretty negative yourself, who says I would get rejected 100 times? What if the first girl I ask is down for anything? What if she ends up being the kind of girl who asks me to spank her, spit in her face, call her a dirty slut, etc? What if that girl ends up being your bitch? There are just so many possibilities in this crazy world of ours. No need to be so pessimistic. :P
Honestly I dint even bother to take the time to read what you had to say as soon as I saw the title and the images I was donee... I'm a female and I'm attracted to nerds and I've dated a "nerd" before.
I hate the word nerd. I'm at one of the top academic schools in the UK. I'm pretty smart you could say. Does that mean I can't be pretty? Does that mean I'm fat and socially awkward. No. I love to read. That doesn't make me a nerd. I like dressing up, that doesn't make me a self-absorbed bitch. You can't categorise people into nerd, jock, etc. Seriously... how old are you?
Let's take a group of men 100 men, maybe 12 are nerds. Now take girls 100 maybe 4 are nerds, now why is that? It's a damed shame it's like that. But ever seen how nerd girls are treated when playing games? If they where treated with respect then there would most likely be 12 nerd girls to. Another thing is that if fine to be a nerd I am one, but I workout every now and then, I'm not buff but healthy, I eat healthy even the snack is healthy and the energy drink are non sugar. I try and dress better but I'm no fashionista, all this helps a whole lot in the dating world. BUT when ever I hunker down with a new game or a new TV series/movie/anime it's then it gets interesting to see if my date is ok with it or not. But sometimes they join you, thats when I know she's a good pick when we are healthy together and nerdy together.
Some women like nerds for the same reason they like gay men; they are less threatening. These women feel more at ease talking to them and teasing them because they view these guys as lower on the social ladder.
Now the nerdy guy has some sort of dateable quality (good job, natural good looks, athletic) then she might feel more at ease teasing him. But there is a fine line between teasing and disrespect and teasing CAN lead to disrespect. The guy needs to know to tease back lead he becomes a doormat.
I’ve been called a nerd a few times by girls I’ve dated. Overall it was playful teasing expect for one girl who thought she was hot shit. The acid test is how much she likes me sexually.
It’s just sad that junkie/burn out “rock and roller” guys who are dead broke with little probability of a bright future are more sexy and less nerdy to women vs the guy who hits the gym and studies engineering.
@Robertcw I was using “rock n roller” guys term loosely. I’m talking about party boy gangsters who don’t give a shit. They are going nowhere in life but they get to enjoy a scenic ride with plenty of pussy in at a time when it’s the most exciting (late teens early 20s).
Smart guys, hard working “nice guys”, nerdy guys etc will eventually land a girl later in life. But they are usually getting leftovers. Or they get another nerdy girl. But that nerdy girl herself could be a late bloomer. My second to last ex was definitely a nerd by she was very pretty when she hit her mid 20s.
So who has the better life? The worthless bad boys who end up doing menial labor for the rest of their life but enjoy popularity, pussy and fun when they are young? Or the nerds who get ignored, bullied and friendzoned but stick out a good educated career and make it big financially later in life? Who would you rather be?
Most of us would want to be the bad boy. But ask these guys the same question when they are in their 60s. Some of those bad boys are likely living in trailer parks, spent time in jail or never owned anything. The nerds will own nice houses and cars. They can support families.
I am barely getting confortabke with the idea of sexuality. I feel like I could have success with teens and early 20's girls right now as I become more comfortable with myself and my inner game.
In fact, the only girl I've been with claimed she was 18, but there's a strong probability thinking back that she lied about being 17, and probably exaggerated her prior secual experience because she said some things that no experienced person would ever think made any sense.
Tbh, I get looks from girls in their prine right now -- judt not in nightclubs because I am not a part of that culture. And don't like that music.
But at shopoing malls, movie theaters, beaches abd resteraunts? oh yeah. I feel good and am a huuge flirt.
@Robertcw sounds like you are doing alright. Also be fucking careful about that supposed 18 yr old. Some states the age of consent is 16 or 17 but still.
But don’t dwell on it.
I lost my virginity young at 16 to a 15 yr old. But I sucked at relationships. I had tons of hook ups and flings but I struggled finding something solid. The first time I had a girl say I love you and mean it seriously (not because I gave her an orgasm) I was 32. Fucking 32. But better later than never.
Well, that was two years ago and she was the one who initiated. So I think it’s fine.
On the first date she literally asked when we were going back to my appartment and I was like I hadn’t planned anything beyond the ice cream.
She looked disappointed, lol.
We ended up going back and playing video games.
However, I waited until the second date. But then I ghosted her and got overwhelmed with what would go on to be a hard ass class, easily the most difficult in all my college career. It was all pretty much a clusterfuck.
Trying to get close to a nerd takes time, we arn't used to people giving us attention so either we are very fickle or we have major trust issues (from all the bully we inevitably got at school for being a nerd)
But there is no point hiding or feeling ashamed for who you are, i freely admit i'm a geek and a nerd and although i've still not had a girlfriend, i've got friendly with a couple of girls, time is the key factor here
You're calling all nerds childish, socially awkward, unattractive and self-absorbed in their own interests... Universally undesirable traits. Why should someone just "come to terms" with this rather than the rejected person put in the work to be a better partner?
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by the way, I disagree with your belief. Nerds, like everyone else, come in all types.
That's basically the point I am trying to make, these chicks who have never picked up a controller or read a comic book go and try to date us nerds because they watched an episode of the Big Bang Theory, and they are just so vapid and hard to talk to it's infuriating.
Don't sell all nerds so short though. A dreary, sloppy, self centered guy like you describe isn't necessarily a good example of what a decent bf (esoecially to a nerd girl) who happens to be a nerd.
You assuming he is a bad boyfriend based on such superficial qualities is rather shallow in my opinion. The advice in this article would also apply to a girl if she was dating a hot nerd guy. He's not going to want to date her if she treats his nerd buddies like shit just because they are fat or ugly. Or if she can't keep a conversation going with him because she doesn't know shit about his interests or even have interests of her own that are, well, interesting. Unrealistic expectations and shallowness are only two of six points on this list.
lol but nerds/geeks ARE self-absorbed in their own interests. They are more passionate about games/comics/maths/movies than music, partying, exercising or even socializing. As a result they often are socially awkward, immature and not perfectly fit. So wanting a nerd/geek to be a social beast and be extremely physically fit or ripped is not understanding what a true nerd actually is in the first place. xD
Choosing that lifestyle and expecting to appeal to "mainstream" girls who should accomodate you and serve you is unrealistic. I have a full on female cousin who does the conventions and fan-fic and costumes... And has barely dated because she's overweight, dowdy and awkward. The dorky guys she crushes on ignore her...
Many of these points go both ways, such as having unrealistic expectations. While it's true that many girls can be pretty shallow, men are just as bad. A lot of guys say they want a gamer girl or a nerdy girlfriend, but then they go turn down any girl who isn't at least an 8/10, even if they're a 4/10 themselves.
Sometimes the struggling person needs to make a little more effort. There's not much excuse for never exercising, for example. You've just gotta make it yours... I'm a huge bookworm, so I listen to audiobooks while I jog. Some of those guys who do LARP train for it. Etc.
I like technology as much as the next person, but am by no means a nerd. I think a lot of people take nerds for granted. Enjoy your iPhone? Thank a nerd! Nerds contribute a lot to the world. Nerds invented the atom bomb, the computer, YouTube, and many of the creature comforts we enjoy today.
I think the "nerd lifestyle" as you described it puts a lot of girls off. But at the end of the day, there is a lid for every jar, even for nerds.
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I'm friends with all types of people no matter who they are. It doesn't matter if they are nerds, black, white, jocks, ghetto, arrogant, hot/ugly af, annoying, Jewish. In my school we do have our own cliques, but everybody can hold a conversation with each other with the exception of a few. We have had some really hot or just average looking girls date nerds, but the reason why nerds don't get girls is because some of them can be really big assholes.
Well just because you are a nerd does not mean you are ugly. All people are different. There are different types of nerds though. There are the really weird ones who don't even talk to other nerds or should I say crazy pychos who just keep to themselves and look like they will shoot up a school or there are the nerds who socialize with other nerds.
And since you continue to make this a matter of attractiveness you can't be ugly and an asshole. They won't like you for your personality or your looks. Since you say all nerds are ugly and unattractive how about trying to be more nice and less of an asshole, it may work for you.
This list is actually quite true however its not talking about all girls (though it likes to think it is). I dont even have the desire to date the girls that this list hits to begin with so it isn't really a problem. And has any girl ever said they liked nerds? I mean sure some might be able to bear with it but there are quite literally millions of men that every girl on the planet would pick over me.
There are some pretty interesting opinions on this take. I think though no matter what your 'social type' is, people are not going to respect anyone who tries to gain respect by whining and blaming others for their lifestyle choices that lead to personal frustrations.
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being a nerd has nothing to do with why you get rejected. it's probably your personality and lack of confidence that turns females off.
"hot" is more personality than anything else. it's the vibe you give off.
I like nerdy guys, always have. while intellectually, I'm nerdy, no one ever looks at me and thinks "nerd" or "geek". your personalities and low self worth is what gets you rejected.
I also have a male friend that looks "nerdy" and gets more than any "hot" guy I know from ALL types of females. because of his personality and confidence.
from a man's perspective, i suppose you only see the physical, you are after all more visual than women, but for women, who are more auditory, the way you express your self worth has so much more value. so in this case, @thewanderingme is absolutely correct.
I actually do been waiting. I am not a hypocrite. I like know I am no exactly''hot'' so it is kind of stupid for me to go after hot chicks and the point is that many women like to pretend they don't reject guys for looks. Like thewandringme is refusing to admit that many nerds get rejected because they aren't good looking.
@manuelmarquez to almost everyone looks matter. It doesn't make someone a bad person. But even cute guys get rejected if they're weird or off putting ahem eliot roger
When did I say it makes someone a bad person if looks matter to them? I am just saying many women are chicken to admit it. Yes good looking guys get rejected if they are weird or jerks but if they are a geek or nerd most likely they won't be rejected just for that purpose.
I love how some people have this circular reasoning that seems to bend the laws of time. Men become bitter because they are rejected, then you blame them for being rejected, because they are bitter? That's like saying you are bleeding because someone stabbed you, but it's your fault they stabbed you because you are bleeding. Take your cruel, sadistic ways, out of these comments. I posted this to help people. Not as a soap box for bullies such as yourself to stand on.
@takeowner how am I bullying. HE attacked me. I said I like nerdy guys and he called me a lier. he is being bitter and taking it out on the wrong person.
@been_waiting Several other users have already pointed out that you misquoted me. Now I'm issuing a challenge to you, quote where I "called them all fat ugly awkward guys" and I shall concede the argument. If you cannot point out where I specifically said all nerds are fat, ugly, awkward guys, then maybe you should just be mature enough to admit that you misinterpreted what I said.
Your generalizing so much that it hurts too look at this, Not all women are the same plus their are cute "nerdy" guys out there I dated one and talked to many
I love dating nerds and non nerds, my current love interest is a bit of a nerd. I love computer games and comic books, and Anime, several 'nerdy' things, lots of girls like nerds.
Liking nerdy things yourself helps a lot. I've dated non-nerd girls, and to be honest after a certain point we just don't have anything to talk about anymore. It's better to found a relationship on mutual interest than it is to found it on mutual attraction in my opinion.
Exactly, so it's not that girls don't like dating nerds. It's that some people just don't like other people. It's like saying 'why don't smart gamer guys like dating dumb blonde cheerleaders' it literally all depends on the girl, the interests and her personality. Personally, i like all kinda of guys, nerds, gamers, jocks, athletes, artists, I don't think there are boundaries as to what i like, but it's because i have interests in all of the things that those types do, also, if he's a really hot jock but with a personality i don't get along with, it just won't work. So i'm pretty much back to square one with all of this. It's all about interests and personality.
I think us men tend to specialize more and try to find a niche whereas women try to cover multiple bases so they are better at multi-tasking. That's just my opinion, though.
Most girls don't like nerdy guys because they don't take of their appearance (no one said you have to be over 6ft or look like a model) but anyone can eat healthy and exercise. They also dress like slobs (no one said you have to do the preppy thing but some people have no style) and are socially awkward and not try at all to fix their awkwardness They also don't do any outdoor activities For me, that's the problem not the movies they watch or music they like
I have seen plenty of socially awkward people get together. I have seen plenty of socially awkward people get accepted and people are endeared by their quirks. Just depends on who you associate with.
I agree with the self-improvement though. Guys need to stop making excuses for their bad behaviors and get out of their comfort zone a little. That doesn't mean they need to completely change themselves, that just means they need to never stop working on being a better version of themselves. If you are introvert who doesn't really warm up to strangers that easy, that is fine. Just smile and be friendly, be awkward, be whoever you are, and own it. There is another awkward nerdy chick that would be perfect for you. And just because she is awkward doesn't mean she isn't a freak in the sheets either, so stop comparing yourself to other guys, stop comparing women to other women, and just do you.
I'm not a nerd - per se, yet I do understand them and accept them for who they are. I don't have high expectations of them. I know what they look like - generally speaking - and I'm okay with it. I'd love to date a nerd. ^-^
Not having ridiculously high expectations really helps, whether you're a guy or a girl. I feel like a lot of people nowadays won't accept anything less than a 10/10 and even then they're going to dump them if they don't put out on the first date and answer every text message within two minutes.
I love their passion, their commitment, their positive attitude (even when things aren't all that great, they always have something to smile about)... ^-^
Yes, ridiculously high expectations are just that - ridiculous. No one is perfect.
Well some nerds can be pretty negative, I'm guilty of this myself. I consider myself a problem solver though, and you don't solve problems by ignoring them.
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I'm a nerd and trying to woo a nerd. The thing is, relationship are always about understanding and acceptance, and it hasn't changed, no matter what kind of culture he/she comes from. This article goes a bit to explaining it in slightly more detail. :)
Indeed, if you can't understand and accept your partner, it's just not going to work out because you will continue to build up resentment.
You sound so negative that is why the girl does not want you. Most nerds have this corporate mentality but are very idealistic also. Experience empowers you boy, go get rejected 100 times and learn something
First of all, I am older than you, and people older than me typically refer to me as sir. Second, you sound pretty negative yourself, who says I would get rejected 100 times? What if the first girl I ask is down for anything? What if she ends up being the kind of girl who asks me to spank her, spit in her face, call her a dirty slut, etc? What if that girl ends up being your bitch? There are just so many possibilities in this crazy world of ours. No need to be so pessimistic. :P
Really? you sound like a boy whining about not being given anything. Hyperbole even offends you
Honestly I dint even bother to take the time to read what you had to say as soon as I saw the title and the images I was donee... I'm a female and I'm attracted to nerds and I've dated a "nerd" before.
Great, thanks for posting.
I hate the word nerd. I'm at one of the top academic schools in the UK. I'm pretty smart you could say. Does that mean I can't be pretty? Does that mean I'm fat and socially awkward. No. I love to read. That doesn't make me a nerd. I like dressing up, that doesn't make me a self-absorbed bitch. You can't categorise people into nerd, jock, etc. Seriously... how old are you?
Let's take a group of men 100 men, maybe 12 are nerds. Now take girls 100 maybe 4 are nerds, now why is that? It's a damed shame it's like that. But ever seen how nerd girls are treated when playing games? If they where treated with respect then there would most likely be 12 nerd girls to. Another thing is that if fine to be a nerd I am one, but I workout every now and then, I'm not buff but healthy, I eat healthy even the snack is healthy and the energy drink are non sugar. I try and dress better but I'm no fashionista, all this helps a whole lot in the dating world. BUT when ever I hunker down with a new game or a new TV series/movie/anime it's then it gets interesting to see if my date is ok with it or not. But sometimes they join you, thats when I know she's a good pick when we are healthy together and nerdy together.
Some women like nerds for the same reason they like gay men; they are less threatening. These women feel more at ease talking to them and teasing them because they view these guys as lower on the social ladder.
Now the nerdy guy has some sort of dateable quality (good job, natural good looks, athletic) then she might feel more at ease teasing him. But there is a fine line between teasing and disrespect and teasing CAN lead to disrespect. The guy needs to know to tease back lead he becomes a doormat.
I’ve been called a nerd a few times by girls I’ve dated. Overall it was playful teasing expect for one girl who thought she was hot shit. The acid test is how much she likes me sexually.
It’s just sad that junkie/burn out “rock and roller” guys who are dead broke with little probability of a bright future are more sexy and less nerdy to women vs the guy who hits the gym and studies engineering.
I don’t think that’s true. In my area girls hate rock and roll guys. Here they go for gangster guys who like hip hop.
@Robertcw I was using “rock n roller” guys term loosely. I’m talking about party boy gangsters who don’t give a shit. They are going nowhere in life but they get to enjoy a scenic ride with plenty of pussy in at a time when it’s the most exciting (late teens early 20s).
Smart guys, hard working “nice guys”, nerdy guys etc will eventually land a girl later in life. But they are usually getting leftovers. Or they get another nerdy girl. But that nerdy girl herself could be a late bloomer. My second to last ex was definitely a nerd by she was very pretty when she hit her mid 20s.
So who has the better life? The worthless bad boys who end up doing menial labor for the rest of their life but enjoy popularity, pussy and fun when they are young? Or the nerds who get ignored, bullied and friendzoned but stick out a good educated career and make it big financially later in life? Who would you rather be?
Most of us would want to be the bad boy. But ask these guys the same question when they are in their 60s. Some of those bad boys are likely living in trailer parks, spent time in jail or never owned anything. The nerds will own nice houses and cars. They can support families.
I don't know. I consider myself a late bloomer.
I am barely getting confortabke with the idea of sexuality. I feel like I could have success with teens and early 20's girls right now as I become more comfortable with myself and my inner game.
In fact, the only girl I've been with claimed she was 18, but there's a strong probability thinking back that she lied about being 17, and probably exaggerated her prior secual experience because she said some things that no experienced person would ever think made any sense.
Tbh, I get looks from girls in their prine right now -- judt not in nightclubs because I am not a part of that culture. And don't like that music.
But at shopoing malls, movie theaters, beaches abd resteraunts? oh yeah. I feel good and am a huuge flirt.
@Robertcw sounds like you are doing alright. Also be fucking careful about that supposed 18 yr old. Some states the age of consent is 16 or 17 but still.
But don’t dwell on it.
I lost my virginity young at 16 to a 15 yr old. But I sucked at relationships. I had tons of hook ups and flings but I struggled finding something solid. The first time I had a girl say I love you and mean it seriously (not because I gave her an orgasm) I was 32. Fucking 32. But better later than never.
Well, that was two years ago and she was the one who initiated. So I think it’s fine.
On the first date she literally asked when we were going back to my appartment and I was like I hadn’t planned anything beyond the ice cream.
She looked disappointed, lol.
We ended up going back and playing video games.
However, I waited until the second date. But then I ghosted her and got overwhelmed with what would go on to be a hard ass class, easily the most difficult in all my college career. It was all pretty much a clusterfuck.
Trying to get close to a nerd takes time, we arn't used to people giving us attention so either we are very fickle or we have major trust issues (from all the bully we inevitably got at school for being a nerd)
But there is no point hiding or feeling ashamed for who you are, i freely admit i'm a geek and a nerd and although i've still not had a girlfriend, i've got friendly with a couple of girls, time is the key factor here
Very true. Thanks for posting.
You're calling all nerds childish, socially awkward, unattractive and self-absorbed in their own interests... Universally undesirable traits. Why should someone just "come to terms" with this rather than the rejected person put in the work to be a better partner?
by the way, I disagree with your belief. Nerds, like everyone else, come in all types.
He said MOST nerds are not good looking not all. And that if a woman doesn't like the way a nerdy or geeky is why is she even with him?
Exactly! More or less, people shouldn't date people who have no common interests and values and mutual attraction and respect.
That's basically the point I am trying to make, these chicks who have never picked up a controller or read a comic book go and try to date us nerds because they watched an episode of the Big Bang Theory, and they are just so vapid and hard to talk to it's infuriating.
Don't sell all nerds so short though. A dreary, sloppy, self centered guy like you describe isn't necessarily a good example of what a decent bf (esoecially to a nerd girl) who happens to be a nerd.
You assuming he is a bad boyfriend based on such superficial qualities is rather shallow in my opinion. The advice in this article would also apply to a girl if she was dating a hot nerd guy. He's not going to want to date her if she treats his nerd buddies like shit just because they are fat or ugly. Or if she can't keep a conversation going with him because she doesn't know shit about his interests or even have interests of her own that are, well, interesting. Unrealistic expectations and shallowness are only two of six points on this list.
It's all gotta go both ways.
lol but nerds/geeks ARE self-absorbed in their own interests. They are more passionate about games/comics/maths/movies than music, partying, exercising or even socializing. As a result they often are socially awkward, immature and not perfectly fit. So wanting a nerd/geek to be a social beast and be extremely physically fit or ripped is not understanding what a true nerd actually is in the first place. xD
Choosing that lifestyle and expecting to appeal to "mainstream" girls who should accomodate you and serve you is unrealistic. I have a full on female cousin who does the conventions and fan-fic and costumes... And has barely dated because she's overweight, dowdy and awkward. The dorky guys she crushes on ignore her...
*full on nerd.
Many of these points go both ways, such as having unrealistic expectations. While it's true that many girls can be pretty shallow, men are just as bad. A lot of guys say they want a gamer girl or a nerdy girlfriend, but then they go turn down any girl who isn't at least an 8/10, even if they're a 4/10 themselves.
Sometimes the struggling person needs to make a little more effort. There's not much excuse for never exercising, for example. You've just gotta make it yours... I'm a huge bookworm, so I listen to audiobooks while I jog. Some of those guys who do LARP train for it. Etc.
Men tend not to mind if a woman's "awkward". Your cousin has my sympathy however.
This is an interesting piece, thanks for posting.
I like technology as much as the next person, but am by no means a nerd. I think a lot of people take nerds for granted. Enjoy your iPhone? Thank a nerd!
Nerds contribute a lot to the world. Nerds invented the atom bomb, the computer, YouTube, and many of the creature comforts we enjoy today.
I think the "nerd lifestyle" as you described it puts a lot of girls off. But at the end of the day, there is a lid for every jar, even for nerds.
I'm friends with all types of people no matter who they are. It doesn't matter if they are nerds, black, white, jocks, ghetto, arrogant, hot/ugly af, annoying, Jewish. In my school we do have our own cliques, but everybody can hold a conversation with each other with the exception of a few. We have had some really hot or just average looking girls date nerds, but the reason why nerds don't get girls is because some of them can be really big assholes.
I'm somewhat of an asshole myself, but I don't have that much trouble. I think it has more to do with attractiveness.
Well just because you are a nerd does not mean you are ugly. All people are different. There are different types of nerds though. There are the really weird ones who don't even talk to other nerds or should I say crazy pychos who just keep to themselves and look like they will shoot up a school or there are the nerds who socialize with other nerds.
And since you continue to make this a matter of attractiveness you can't be ugly and an asshole. They won't like you for your personality or your looks. Since you say all nerds are ugly and unattractive how about trying to be more nice and less of an asshole, it may work for you.
This list is actually quite true however its not talking about all girls (though it likes to think it is). I dont even have the desire to date the girls that this list hits to begin with so it isn't really a problem. And has any girl ever said they liked nerds? I mean sure some might be able to bear with it but there are quite literally millions of men that every girl on the planet would pick over me.
There are some pretty interesting opinions on this take. I think though no matter what your 'social type' is, people are not going to respect anyone who tries to gain respect by whining and blaming others for their lifestyle choices that lead to personal frustrations.
being a nerd has nothing to do with why you get rejected. it's probably your personality and lack of confidence that turns females off.
That is bull. A lot of nerdy guys get rejected because they aren't ''hot''
@ManuelMarquez agreed.
Bullcrap
"hot" is more personality than anything else. it's the vibe you give off.
I like nerdy guys, always have. while intellectually, I'm nerdy, no one ever looks at me and thinks "nerd" or "geek". your personalities and low self worth is what gets you rejected.
I also have a male friend that looks "nerdy" and gets more than any "hot" guy I know from ALL types of females. because of his personality and confidence.
Let me clarify. A lot of nerdy guys get rejected because they aren't physically attracitve
from a man's perspective, i suppose you only see the physical, you are after all more visual than women, but for women, who are more auditory, the way you express your self worth has so much more value. so in this case, @thewanderingme is absolutely correct.
@ManuelMarquez as if you go for ugly fat girls.
thank you @dreawolf my attraction to a guy has always come after liking his personality/interests, never from how he looks.
I actually do been waiting. I am not a hypocrite. I like know I am no exactly''hot'' so it is kind of stupid for me to go after hot chicks and the point is that many women like to pretend they don't reject guys for looks. Like thewandringme is refusing to admit that many nerds get rejected because they aren't good looking.
I am refusing to lie.
@manuelmarquez to almost everyone looks matter. It doesn't make someone a bad person.
But even cute guys get rejected if they're weird or off putting ahem eliot roger
When did I say it makes someone a bad person if looks matter to them? I am just saying many women are chicken to admit it. Yes good looking guys get rejected if they are weird or jerks but if they are a geek or nerd most likely they won't be rejected just for that purpose.
@manuelmarquez get over yourself. maybe if you stop being so bitter women will stop rejecting you.
I love how some people have this circular reasoning that seems to bend the laws of time. Men become bitter because they are rejected, then you blame them for being rejected, because they are bitter? That's like saying you are bleeding because someone stabbed you, but it's your fault they stabbed you because you are bleeding. Take your cruel, sadistic ways, out of these comments. I posted this to help people. Not as a soap box for bullies such as yourself to stand on.
@takeowner how am I bullying. HE attacked me. I said I like nerdy guys and he called me a lier. he is being bitter and taking it out on the wrong person.
Your original post was an assault on the integrity of all nerd-kind, miss. If you was attacked it was certainly done in retaliation.
@takeowner really? what part of this?
"being a nerd has nothing to do with why you get rejected. it's probably your personality and lack of confidence that turns females off."
and I'm apart of "nerd kind " being a nerd has to do with enjoying learning and being really intelligent.
I think what you actually mean is GEEK-KIND, which is solely based on looks.
Nope, not what I mean at all. Sorry you failed to get it.
it is what you mean. you're just in denial.
anyway, stop commenting on this. you're boring (probably another reason you keep getting rejected).
Refer to my previous post that rebutted that exact same remark just a few minutes ago.
Take owner. What YOU said is an insult to nerds. You called them all fat ugly awkward guys
@been_waiting Show me in quotation marks the exact sentence where I said that, please.
Reread your own question my dear.
@been_waiting Several other users have already pointed out that you misquoted me. Now I'm issuing a challenge to you, quote where I "called them all fat ugly awkward guys" and I shall concede the argument. If you cannot point out where I specifically said all nerds are fat, ugly, awkward guys, then maybe you should just be mature enough to admit that you misinterpreted what I said.
Read your memes. One says "ew fat ugly guys" or something. Implying nerds are fat and ugly
Your generalizing so much that it hurts too look at this, Not all women are the same plus their are cute "nerdy" guys out there I dated one and talked to many
You but he had to be cute for you to date him, unattractive nerds don't get dates for obvious reasons.
You definition of nerd is false, that is you real problem regarding this Take.
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I love dating nerds and non nerds, my current love interest is a bit of a nerd. I love computer games and comic books, and Anime, several 'nerdy' things, lots of girls like nerds.
Liking nerdy things yourself helps a lot. I've dated non-nerd girls, and to be honest after a certain point we just don't have anything to talk about anymore. It's better to found a relationship on mutual interest than it is to found it on mutual attraction in my opinion.
Exactly, so it's not that girls don't like dating nerds. It's that some people just don't like other people. It's like saying 'why don't smart gamer guys like dating dumb blonde cheerleaders' it literally all depends on the girl, the interests and her personality. Personally, i like all kinda of guys, nerds, gamers, jocks, athletes, artists, I don't think there are boundaries as to what i like, but it's because i have interests in all of the things that those types do, also, if he's a really hot jock but with a personality i don't get along with, it just won't work. So i'm pretty much back to square one with all of this. It's all about interests and personality.
I think us men tend to specialize more and try to find a niche whereas women try to cover multiple bases so they are better at multi-tasking. That's just my opinion, though.
Most girls don't like nerdy guys because they don't take of their appearance (no one said you have to be over 6ft or look like a model) but anyone can eat healthy and exercise. They also dress like slobs (no one said you have to do the preppy thing but some people have no style) and are socially awkward and not try at all to fix their awkwardness
They also don't do any outdoor activities
For me, that's the problem not the movies they watch or music they like
I have seen plenty of socially awkward people get together. I have seen plenty of socially awkward people get accepted and people are endeared by their quirks. Just depends on who you associate with.
I agree with the self-improvement though. Guys need to stop making excuses for their bad behaviors and get out of their comfort zone a little. That doesn't mean they need to completely change themselves, that just means they need to never stop working on being a better version of themselves. If you are introvert who doesn't really warm up to strangers that easy, that is fine. Just smile and be friendly, be awkward, be whoever you are, and own it. There is another awkward nerdy chick that would be perfect for you. And just because she is awkward doesn't mean she isn't a freak in the sheets either, so stop comparing yourself to other guys, stop comparing women to other women, and just do you.
I'm not a nerd - per se, yet I do understand them and accept them for who they are.
I don't have high expectations of them. I know what they look like - generally speaking - and I'm okay with it.
I'd love to date a nerd. ^-^
what do you love about nerds?
Not having ridiculously high expectations really helps, whether you're a guy or a girl. I feel like a lot of people nowadays won't accept anything less than a 10/10 and even then they're going to dump them if they don't put out on the first date and answer every text message within two minutes.
I love their passion, their commitment, their positive attitude (even when things aren't all that great, they always have something to smile about)...
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Yes, ridiculously high expectations are just that - ridiculous. No one is perfect.
Well some nerds can be pretty negative, I'm guilty of this myself. I consider myself a problem solver though, and you don't solve problems by ignoring them.
I'm pretty negative... so this is why I need the other person in the relationship to be positive...
Yeah, I understand what you mean. I am far too cynical and my outlook on life can be pretty bleak.
That's too bad... But that's part of you.
I'm sarcastic most of the time... xD