I just have one thing to say and that's about number 1. If we are trying to attract the girl then why would she work for our attention? Surely if she's not interested or is the one being chased then she's not going to be bothered about working for the guy's affections.
Its somewhat playing hard to get but not so much that she thinks you're not interested in her. Good rule to follow is show you like her as much as she shows she likes you. Keep your feelings for her parallel with hers for you.
this is the best way to show a guy how to date a girl
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So you're saying girls want guys who play games with them instead of being upfront about things. Or if not want, that's the type of guy they go for.
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"Stop acting desperate and be the prize in our eyes. The harder we have to work for that prize the better it will seem once we get it. So save it and make us work for your affection."
This is bad advice for most men, only a minority of men are good looking enough to have girls chasing them. The majority need to do the approaching and make the first move and so on with a girl, so there's no denying his interest in her.
yep men shouldn't give a shit how he is in a womans eyes, only how he is in his own. a woman will believe whatever she wants to, a real man knows he can't change that, but he can choose whether or not to waste his time on such a girl
For a desperate guy who tends to lay down and let a woman walk all over him while trying to be everything (he thinks) she wants him to be... YEAH! Definitely!! 'D No seriously people, MODERATION is always the key when applying such behavior. And for the guy I described above (I know its not you!) he should absolutely! I pretty much did this for him! ;) Also when you really think about it, attraction is somewhat of a game or dance of seduction rather. Even still, Im in no way suggesting these tactics be drawn out to the extent they be played as a game! For some, its just a helpful way to portray yourself as more attractive. Not saying every guys gonna come out with an Oscar upon playing this out but just study the script a little bit and you should be all right!
No, a woman wrote it (me) but it more geared towards the younger generation of those who are just starting to date. Just some things I've noticed in the way they act as well as some of my own experience. The main thing is pacing it properly. Not to show any more (or less) interest than the other person and maintaining that even keel in interest for each other. You're age is between 30-35 and definitely well passed this kind of 'game-playing' when it comes to forming relationships. Yet think back to high school and how some guys would act if you showed too much interest - its when they usually lost theirs. And I can speak from my own experience that if a guy became prematurely affectionate to me - made him a goner as for boyfriend potential as I would just lose interest in him.
Good advice, but you overlooked one thing. A MAJORITY of women will stop talking to a guy, once a guy stops initiating contact first. I have talked to plenty of women, and a majority of them do this.
Oh absolutely!! I don't think I said to do that though. So no, don't do that! By all means call and text her... just not everyday, all day! Play it like tennis! ;)
pfff lol at the make her jealous part i made a girl who was in love with me once jealous she stopped talking to me please fellow male gagers don't do that
"A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself
A woman basically is a greedy materialistic prostitute. Although that sounds vulgar, it's true. She trades her physical self to buy into the success a man has created for himself.
@Roostah That viewpoint is too crude, poorly constructed, and limited in scope and viewpoint. It's completely isolated, and outside it's own structure when applied to the real world completely shatters and crumbles. Further, it's debasing and at best pessimistic and misanthropic.
It takes no account of transgender people or lesbian couples. It fails to be inclusive towards humanity, and limits the natural scope of human emotion, diversity, and drive. It accounts for a very limited amount of social statuses that exist. The author would do well to seek knowledge outside his limited subculture.
Thanks LittleSally! I needed a girl on my side to help back this up! ;) This really didn't even dawn on me myself until I just got so fed up with seeing men make such a fool out of themselves drooling over women like... it disgusting!! Theyre like this www.nbc.com/.../n11228
Yes it does... more so than just being yourself!! 'D lol (just kidding about that last part). If who you are is confident... BONUS!! You're already a bad ass bitch-magnet!! lol
What, that you're a "bad-ass bitch magnet"? I meant that in a good way... u know, a bad ass (like Bruce Lee) and that you're a bitch magnet meaning you have ability to attract the ladies. Sorry if that's hurtful to you but I meant it as a compliment actually.
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this is good, although a little general, but i can see ur intentions, so good effort.
Stop giving fks to other people and all people (not just gf but everyone) will start giving fks to you.
Golden rule of thumb!
Eww, I like that!! And I KNEW you were my future ex right when I read it!!! Hi hows it goin?
Everything is going smoothly!
I just have one thing to say and that's about number 1. If we are trying to attract the girl then why would she work for our attention? Surely if she's not interested or is the one being chased then she's not going to be bothered about working for the guy's affections.
Its somewhat playing hard to get but not so much that she thinks you're not interested in her. Good rule to follow is show you like her as much as she shows she likes you. Keep your feelings for her parallel with hers for you.
TL;DR - Do your best to ditch whatever emotional baggage you've got before you try and get in a relationship.
No doubt!! My therapist was on vacation... sorry! :\
this is the best way to show a guy how to date a girl
So you're saying girls want guys who play games with them instead of being upfront about things. Or if not want, that's the type of guy they go for.
"Stop acting desperate and be the prize in our eyes. The harder we have to work for that prize the better it will seem once we get it. So save it and make us work for your affection."
This is bad advice for most men, only a minority of men are good looking enough to have girls chasing them. The majority need to do the approaching and make the first move and so on with a girl, so there's no denying his interest in her.
yep men shouldn't give a shit how he is in a womans eyes, only how he is in his own. a woman will believe whatever she wants to, a real man knows he can't change that, but he can choose whether or not to waste his time on such a girl
For a desperate guy who tends to lay down and let a woman walk all over him while trying to be everything (he thinks) she wants him to be... YEAH! Definitely!! 'D No seriously people, MODERATION is always the key when applying such behavior. And for the guy I described above (I know its not you!) he should absolutely! I pretty much did this for him! ;) Also when you really think about it, attraction is somewhat of a game or dance of seduction rather. Even still, Im in no way suggesting these tactics be drawn out to the extent they be played as a game! For some, its just a helpful way to portray yourself as more attractive. Not saying every guys gonna come out with an Oscar upon playing this out but just study the script a little bit and you should be all right!
Seriously!
I'm not even sure a girl wrote that. I think an isolated guy made it all up in his head.
It doesn't even start to make sense.
That sorta sounded sexist. Maybe i read it wrong... how was it supposed to sound?
No, a woman wrote it (me) but it more geared towards the younger generation of those who are just starting to date. Just some things I've noticed in the way they act as well as some of my own experience. The main thing is pacing it properly. Not to show any more (or less) interest than the other person and maintaining that even keel in interest for each other. You're age is between 30-35 and definitely well passed this kind of 'game-playing' when it comes to forming relationships. Yet think back to high school and how some guys would act if you showed too much interest - its when they usually lost theirs. And I can speak from my own experience that if a guy became prematurely affectionate to me - made him a goner as for boyfriend potential as I would just lose interest in him.
Good advice, but you overlooked one thing. A MAJORITY of women will stop talking to a guy, once a guy stops initiating contact first. I have talked to plenty of women, and a majority of them do this.
Oh absolutely!! I don't think I said to do that though. So no, don't do that! By all means call and text her... just not everyday, all day! Play it like tennis! ;)
pfff lol at the make her jealous part i made a girl who was in love with me once jealous she stopped talking to me please fellow male gagers don't do that
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1402143-women-s-attraction-to-men-is-not-based-on-love
"A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself
A woman basically is a greedy materialistic prostitute. Although that sounds vulgar, it's true. She trades her physical self to buy into the success a man has created for himself.
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@Roostah
That viewpoint is too crude, poorly constructed, and limited in scope and viewpoint. It's completely isolated, and outside it's own structure when applied to the real world completely shatters and crumbles.
Further, it's debasing and at best pessimistic and misanthropic.
It takes no account of transgender people or lesbian couples. It fails to be inclusive towards humanity, and limits the natural scope of human emotion, diversity, and drive. It accounts for a very limited amount of social statuses that exist.
The author would do well to seek knowledge outside his limited subculture.
Roostah, that is partly true.
All valid points - very true. =)
Thanks LittleSally! I needed a girl on my side to help back this up! ;) This really didn't even dawn on me myself until I just got so fed up with seeing men make such a fool out of themselves drooling over women like... it disgusting!! Theyre like this www.nbc.com/.../n11228
Good points but some of them are not new... but a good take!
Not new? you're 15!!! How long have you been doing this? 'D lol
well actually the thing is that i dont have is a crush or a girlfrnd. So this is actually how i live, and i always know when i get attentions!
Sounds like things you do for a girl. Thankfully, my girlfriend is a woman.
Yes absolutely!! This was done for the youngsters.
I don't think that there is any universal rule that works with all women. They're all different.
I actually found that being confident but not too confident works on most girls.
Yes it does... more so than just being yourself!! 'D lol (just kidding about that last part). If who you are is confident... BONUS!! You're already a bad ass bitch-magnet!! lol
... well, that was hurtful. So, REPORT.
What was hurtful? I was complimenting you.
The last comment of you opinion comment.
What, that you're a "bad-ass bitch magnet"? I meant that in a good way... u know, a bad ass (like Bruce Lee) and that you're a bitch magnet meaning you have ability to attract the ladies. Sorry if that's hurtful to you but I meant it as a compliment actually.
Oh. Okay then.
be yourself and be different in a positive way
You just described the beta male. lol
lollllll
Hmmm, REAAALLLLY? sO where can I find one? KNow where they hang out? lol
Basically treat her like a human being.
Playful teasing gets her laughing
Thank you :)
Yeah somewhat