Virginity is very, very important to me. So important, that I will only lose my virginity to another virgin with no exceptions (except if she was raped forcefully against her will).
They say you always remember the first person you sleep with most vividly. A girl can sleep with a 100 men (hope not), but she can always recall her first, good or bad. That says something about the significance.
A study was conducted by Kahn and London in 1991 along many others that correlates premarital sex with high divorce rates. Divorce rates are over 50 percent here in the US, but we are also liberal enough to condone and encourage premarital sex, often with multiple partners.
And think about this for example, let's say you had your first kiss, your first serious relationship, and lost your virginity, what else will you provide your spouse that you have not already shared with someone else?
I highly encourage you to wait. Unfortunately, although it is ideal, it is not always practical. But if you wait, I applaud you.
Absolutely, I support your decision all the way!! Personally, my Girlfriend and I decided to wait until marriage because we feel that it gives more depth to our relationship. I'm glad to know that there are other people that still think with the same mentality as us. Im In full support of waiting for the right person.
lol most guys on here won't wait two weeks for sex so youd never find out if thy would be wiling to wait for marriage.
i can see a guy saying he loves you enough you wait ONCE he realizes how much he cares about you.. what i dont get is if you're dealing wth a person who is accustomed to sex in a relationship... how do you get from point A of not knowing each other to point B of him wanting to marry you without having sex first. people want sex pretty quickly relative to how long it takes to get to know someone.
hed have to now from the start he wanted to marry you and is therefore willing to wait. but who knows that from the start.. unless he's waiting anyhow.
Don't let anyone tell you to do differently. For some people, sex is a very important part of a relationship. For others.. it's not. For me, I don't care about the quality of sex, because sex isn't something recreational to me. It's a way for me to express my love on a deeper level with the man i love the most. I don't care if he's bad at sex. It's just a good reason for us to "practice" more. ;)
Anyway.. most guys won't wait unfortunately. I came to this sad reality as I became older and was very upset. Still am a bit upset. But... I'm holding onto hope and staying with my convictions.
I'm doing the same don't let anyone make you change your decision : ) Be proud of yourself
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Before you buy a car... you go and test drive it right? Or anything you're interested in. You play with it to see if you like it right?
Well anyone who cares about being truly happy would be better off knowing if they're even going to enjoy having sex with you if they want to continue the relationship. Because if they don't enjoy it and you do. Well you're going to be unhappy and will probably wind up cheating or he will as a result of thing ultimately ruining your relationship.
You aren't even an adult yet. You shouldn't even be thinking about such things anyways. You need to establish a career and do you until you're ready to become a woman that can support her daughter/son if your bf decides to be a bitch and cut and run. Because that seems to be a common thing today. So it's better to be safe then sorry.
That's my two cents.
but a woman's virginity is not a car? you can't just "test it out"? So if it doesn't " feel good" you leave the girl? that's exactly why I'm saving myself for marriage lol. marriage is a huge commitment and my first time will be a lot more special knowing its someone I truly care about and am spending the rest of my life with. Plus sex is not the only thing in relationships.
Marriage is a piece of paper hun, love is what keeps you together. Not some dumb ass paper that says you're married. You're already in a relationship and if you two respect each other then what does a piece of paper have anything to do with you guys not cheating on one another?
Virginity seriously is as dumb as someone posting first on a YouTube video. Big woop that person was the first person to have sex with you. wouldn't you rather have sex with someone who knows what they're doing? And vice versa?
The whole car metaphor is a bunch of bull shit.
I can flip it on you:
Most prefer a new car than a used one.
And to add, marriage is not just a piece of paper. It signifies a commitment and a lifelong partnership. It ties the knot officially.
Sure people can divorce, but it is much more difficult to leave a marriage more so than just a simple boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Without a marriage, someone can just walk out on you with no repercussions and with no questions asked. With marriage, however, there is a more extensive procedure that serves more as a deterrent factor. This often will influence a couple to work things out.
Hahahahhahaha...
This metaphor can be flipped back in your face too dick.
Most people don't want to spend top dollar for that said car when they can get one that has been upgraded with aftermarket parts for a cheaper price. In layman terms amazing sex performance.
Anyone here who has slept with a virgin will agree that it's not attractive to watch your gf moan in pain or push you off and bleed everywhere (depending on the girl). I refuse to sleep with virgins no matter how hot they are anymore.
Wow.. you really are delusional if you believe that marriage keeps people from cheating or ruins relationships.
I think you need to stop having a close mind and open your eyes to the world and start observing the world around you before you go on preaching to me about the sanctity of marriage. Because you have a lot to learn if you honestly believe that it's supposed to deter these actions humans are known to do when deprived of what their accustomed to.
@PT911 I was raised by a United States Marine. So don't come at me with the defamation of my morals or standards.
From my perspective it seems you are encoutageing her to have casual sex, which is a lack of morals in my book. You may have been raised right in all other aspects, but on this matter i think you are wrong. I don't believe in saving myself before marriage, but I don't believe in casual sex either
Whoa whoa whoa there. I never said go sleep around to be a pro. So don't go putting words in my mouth and assuming you know my intentions. You can date someone for years and only be sleeping with that one person and that not work and wind up meeting the next person and getting married if that's what you two are into. And in that previous relationship gained the experience needed to have amazing sex.
Hooking up with randoms is a high risk factor for catching STD's. Which are becoming more and more spread with the rate at which people are sleeping around randomly.
I would not, because of my sexual drive. I see sex as a real connection of two people, taking both the physical and metaphysical clothing off to truly view your partner as who they are. If we dated and after lets say 4 months, I would begin to feel this gap of nature between us. I would not drop you like a rock, but I would tell you this is who I am. I also do not believe in Marriage, I believe it is a sham of what it once was. I also believe true love does not need items like a ring or a wedding but two people who intimately understand the concept of love.
My christian side wants to say yes, but my secular side says no. My dick says who gives a fuck. My brain says just watch out for STDs and pregnancies, so I'm kinda like at crossroads. But yes, for the right woman, I could muster up the effort to keep it in my pants until we marry.
I'm not a guy and I haven't saved myself. I probably wouldn't wait, because I feel as though sex is a big part of a romantic relationship and I have a really high sex drive. Nor do I want to get married, so if I saved myself or was seeing a man who wanted that I would be waiting for a looong time. That all being said, there are guys out there who want the same thing you do, they might be a minority, but you're better off getting together with someone who shares you beliefs.
Yes, ur faith and commitment for me is clear that u only gonna let the luv of ur life eat u out. It'll be an HONOR to be ur hubs for life and there would be no trust issues cuz the fact that ur saving urself for marriage says it all. U have ma RESPECT if ur willingly not going back on ur words.
Yes , I don't believe in sex before marriage and I'm age 46 i got
some religious views and I see things this way i don't want girl
to use me for herself than dump me without loving me no way
do i go there
They won't know if ages the one they are marrying so how can they becwukkjngvto wait from the Beth beginning?
It's presupposing they already know they are getting married s soon as they start dating... No one knows that.
I think a lot if guys just don't want a sexless relationship and seeng ad they dj if you're getting married it's not the issue that you're waiting for marriage but that you are not having sex with them.
If a guy is planning on waiting anyways that's your best bet.
@They won't know if they are the one you are marrying, so how can they be willing-or not willing to wait, from the beginning?
It's presupposing you already know they are getting married as soon as they start dating... No one knows that.
I think a lot if guys just don't want a sexless relationship and seeing as they dk if you're getting married it's not the issue that you're waiting for marriage, but that you are not having sex with them.
Depends on how long we're supposed to be dating. I'd certainly face 2 years. 3 tops, but after that we're both ready for marriage or Im leaving. I dont suppose anyone should wait too long unless they have a financial reason.
I guess I'm just gonna sit here and watch then because I'm on the same boat as you girl :)
another person who agrees! thanks girl :)
Your welcome :)
Nope.
That never would have been an option for me. I'm not legally binding myself to someone when I don't even know if we're sexually compatible.
Best of luck with your search, hopefully the guy you marry isn't one of those "I have no idea how to please a woman, and think sex is over as soon as I blow my load" types - of which there are many.
Not sure on this, but, I wouldn't want my desire to have sex with a women I love to be used to tie me into a early marriage.
I would date a girl who wanted to wait until marriage.
I prefer girls like you. Your kind is rare. And I believe girls like you who are saving themselves until marriage can be trusted more than all the others.
Wonderful, I'm not saving myself for marriage, but I don't believe in casual sex either. I just want my first time to be meaningful
Depends on the girl and her reasons.. and if it's the right girl for the right reasons... then sure..
A man who is looking for marriage probably will but young guys probably not.
nope it is a deal breaker for me. No sex after three or four dates = no relationship.
wow lol
I know a few guys that are waiting for marriage so don't worry they are out there:)
Nope. It's like me saying that I'm waiting until I'm married to do nice, loving things for her.
Sex and romantic gestures are two different things.
That's just prudishly silly. Ya most men would drop ya.
what kinda virgin? Many types of virgins. A virgin that only does anal, oral, or hand jobs. OR A REAL ONE. Many women say it but don't mean it.
yes... for the right girl... yes
Im sure the right guy will :)
That is a very risky move!
Why?
If I loved the girl, I wouldn't care.
Few months would be my limit.
If I loved the girl, I'd be ok with it.
fuck yeah. why not.
no. god no.
Why not?
Reason 1: no woman can offer me anything i dont already have besides sex.
Reason 2: If you're doing it because you're christian, thats stupid, there is nothing in the bible about that. and i don't date stupid people. as for other reasons, well i just haven't heard any good ones yet. Most of it is pseudoreligious garbage.
Reason 3: I am a man and i have needs. Not wants, needs. As in, if you don't feed the beast, i will find someone who can, otherwise he will starve.
Reason 4: I prefer women who are liberated, mentally, emotionally, sexually, and socially. And prudes are none of those things.
Reason 5: I like a lot of people. Girls, guys, animals. I like some of them a lot. You want to know the only difference between those people and girls who are relationship material? The sex. Tell me one thing thats different between friendship and a relationship besides sex. Go ahead. Can you think of anything that isn't a pain in the ass?
Reason 1- Your justification has flaws in it already. If you weren't a self centered person you would realize that women in relationships are worth way more than sex and can offer a lot more than that. Girls can offer you a love like no other because it's from your soulmate, girls can turn a house into a home, she can offer you a family, and romantic gestures. But hey if you'd rather get all these from a family member that's up to you buddy.
Reason 2- Obviously you've never read the bible then because otherwise you would know that the bible is very clear that sex is intended for marriage. Hebrews 13:4 , Acts 15:20, 1 Corinthians 6:18 and so much more. There's no getting around it. Yes I am a Christian and I choose to follow God's word.
Reason 3- Since when is sex a need? Sex is a DESIRE, also known as a want not a need. Man does not need sex to survive. Example: If a man goes without sex for a week, he'll live. If a man goes without air for a week, he'd be dead-
- within the first hour. Therefore you can not tell me that you NEED sex, because you do not need. You WANT it.
Reason 4- Girls like myself, not "prudes", are liberated in every way as well except sexually which benefits us. Since you so badly desire a sexually liberated woman so bad, have fun with the STD's, and possibly unwanted pregnancies.
Reason 5- You can not differentiate a relationship and a friendship with sex because in today's society there are many people who are friends who also have sex. Also there are many things that differentiate a friendship from a relationship. Let's say a relative who you're close with and call a friend such as your mom and your girlfriend for example. You love your mom but you're not IN LOVE with your mom. (Whereas you can love your girlfriend and also be in love with her.) Also you can't be sexually, or romantically attracted to your mother can you? If you are that's okay with me buddy but I'm pretty sure most guys-
-would rather have a girlfriend.
Overall, I truly feel sad and sorry for you. However I'm not here to try and change your beliefs or anything because it sounds like you're not changing his mind, you seem set. However the way you see women as only useful for sex is really disgusting. You don't honour or value women which is disrespectful to both women and God. Anyways good luck with your life. God bless.
Ok rule number one of not being a total cunt. Dont ask me why i believe something and then tell me what to believe. Its fucking stupid. Especially when you're dead wrong.
The bible defines marriage as the only surefire solution to the temptations sexual impurity. Nowhere does it say it is the requirement, or that sex should be avoided until marriage. Its just a preventative measure. Sexual impurity itself is defined as adultery, sodomy, and homosexuality. the bible even says any man who lays with another man should be stoned? Are you going to go out and stone some gay people now? No? Ok bitch, don't be picky and choosy with the old testament and read into shit that isn't there. Its ancient news and its contradictory to the teachings of christ.
And OH WOW. A woman makes a house a home. I'm sorry but i already consider this place a home and i don't really find myself in search of someone to sway my arbitrary definitions. i dont fucking believe in soulmates.
Aside from all the twilight guzzling romance novel bullshit you've gobbled up, which once again, HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH CHRISTIANITY... You're spouting off this bullshit puritanical shit from the 1800s that has long since been resolved. STDs and unwanted pregnancies? Birth control, bitch! Whats the difference between a relationship and friends with benefits? Monogamy, bitch! Why would that be in my best interest unless i was SURE a single woman could satisfy all my needs?
AND YES, NEEDS. Sexual tension doesn't go away. Its not something that just dissipates into the ether when you deny it long enough. If it doesn't come out through sex or masturbation, it comes out through the kinds of fucked up sexual frustration you're so elegantly projecting on me right now. Criticizing my life choices because judging people is the only thing that gets your pathetic ass off. You're going to be alone, a virgin, for the rest of your life, not just because of your abstinence, because you're a cunt
Do yourself a favor. Next time someone says No, god no. Just leave it at that. Crazy bitch.
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