Is it a bad idea to have 2 boyfriends?

[Anonymous]

I am a an 18 years old and I have a situation. Guy 1 asked me out and I said yes and we talked from there. He called me cutie and nice names and we flirted but we didn't meet in person. Then all of the sudden, I met guy 2 at the beach who is more attractive and I like him more and we exchanged numbers and told me I was very pretty and we agreed to hang out one day. I agreed to both of them to hang out. I don't want to say no to guy 1 so is it ok to go out with both of them at the same time without them knowing? Will it ruin my reputation if I date both of them because I want to be nice and not dump them because they both seem like very sweet guys. What should I do?

[lumos]

As long as you haven't decided with either of them that you're exclusive, I don't think there's anything wrong with dating the both of them at the same time. However, you have to make a decision at some point, especially when establishing a committed relationship comes up as a topic. You can't have 2 boyfriends. That defeats the purpose of having one in the first place, which is to be monogamous. Also, would you like it if you were in a relationship with a guy (ONE guy), and then it turned out that he had been in a relationship with another girl too at the same time? I kind of doubt that it would feel nice. So, you need to decide who you want to keep dating, and who you want to dump. Maybe not immediately, but I would say sooner rather than later.

[90sKids]

You shouldn't play with guys feelings. They might end p hurting you physically. You're playing with peoples emotions.
Plus it's not respectable to date two guys at once. Especially if you're having sex with both of them
You should confess to them what you did.

[Hidden_P]

You already know it is. Otherwise everyone would have multiple partners.

You should choose one. Simples.

[HipsterJoshua]

For as far as I can tell, you don't have a relationship with them yet. Meeting both guys and even dating them is fine. Evolving to a real relationship with both guys would be a very bad idea. Get to know them and make your pick. Be honest with the person you're going to turn down, he'll be disappointed, but there's no way to avoid that. If you take 2 boyfriends, all 3 might end up disappointed. Love is a game where you can end up hurt, everyone has to accept that.

[hippyocrit]

fig out witch iz betta in bed thn b honest n say i dont want u

[MadeInAmerica]

Technically they are not your boyfriends so I don't see no problem dating both of them and figuring out which one you like better. However you should tell them at your dates that your not exclusive and will be dating others. Your reasoning doesn't really make sense for dating both as eventually when your feelings get stronger for one of them you'll have to dump one of them anyway and it could be more hurtful doing it later than after a date or two.

[BCRanger10]

You seem to already know that yes, it is a bad idea. Why? Because you ask if you can date both at the same time "without them knowing". See, either way, one of them is going to feel hurt. Whether you reject one or they find out that you're dating both at once, someone's going to feel hurt.

[BertMacklinFBI]

d00d you can't have 2 boyfriends unless those 2 guys are cool with sharing you, highly doubt it though. you can date both but have both as boyfriends? no. just go with the guy you like the most, get to know both of them, go on dates with them and see how things turn up.

[daniiel112]

As long as your not steady dating both of them it's fine to play the field a little. It sounds to me though that you have already settled on dating the second guy due to him being more attractive physically so don't string the first guy along. That is just cruel.

[Prilee1992]

It isn't, let yourself telling either one of them to be in exclusive once you're very comfortable with one of them. Dating is about attraction and choice. Just play around and see how the men behave

[rUinSAYAN]

if you don't get phisically with both of them or one its ok. when you start being physical with one you need to dump the other to not make him feel like being cheated on. you can get to know both but you can't be kissing both or more.

[chuckyegg]

In my opinion it's not bad, but if you end up kissing/sleeping with one guy, then do it with the other, then that is pretty bad.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

As long as you've not committed to either one as a monogamous relationship... no problem dating who you want.

[Soren]

well u already dump them if u go out with both !
So choose one before losing both !
Good luck :)

[decemberxblue]

Of course, you already know it is. Just do the right thing

[Byakko77]

Its your life do what you want If you wana date two guys at the same time do it, But just kno its gonna come back at you and ruin your reputation

[Anonymous]

it's fine. just beware the jealous girls that'll put you down for it ;-)

[Anonymous]

You've never met this guy that wants to date you? Then how did he ask you out?

[Anonymous]

Probably shouldn't be flirting around when you have a boyfriend... yes?

[carnix]

If they both know, no, it's not.

[BellendBob]

Yeh if they don't know about it