You want straight up honesty from my opinion? Here it is: Coming from a 20-something virgin whose first boyfriend was 26 when she was 19, all he ever did was brag about all the chicks he's been with and OMG turns out I even knew some of them (girls who warned me too). He claimed I was in the mid-20s when I asked him what # girl I was? He rubbed in my new-to-dating face how inexperienced I was and how I should do EVERYTHING his way because "that's what people do" which pressured me to do things I wasn't ready or comfortable with - yet. Although, I kept my virginity (glad I did). In the end, his "experience" made me nervous and insecure because I felt like I would be compared to the other girls he'd been with and I feared I would fail miserably. So I don't like it when a guy is really experienced.
I do genuinely like a guy who would wait (not for marriage but for the right girl or for at least to be in love). I held on to mine because I want my first time to be with someone i love who loves me and I just didn't feel like I could love a guy like that. Now, before u call me a liar or doubt me, I will admit as a virgin I am afraid that dating another virgin might seem awkward for the two of us in the beginning as we both may not know what to do or get too nervous making it a bad experience. NOT saying I WOULDN'T date a virgin, but if a guy had a LITTLE experience and knew a little more than me (being the virgin I am) then at least he knows what he's doing and can help guide me a little with my first time. Hopefully then I'll learn and it'll be great for the both of us.
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The "never asked a girl out" part bothers me. You don't know it first hand. You've never been rejected for lack of experience personally. And seriously, I've never heard of a guy asking a girl out going like this:
Guy: So, you wanna go out for a drink?
Girl: Sure, oh, btw, you a virgin?
Guy: Yeah...
Girl: U-uuuummmm... sooorryyyy, gotta run.
I doubt anyone would talk about it at all when setting up a date. Just let it flow man, let it flow.
Also, I'm a virgin so I don't know jack about sex, so I can't tell you what's the difference between an experienced guy and an inexperienced guy, and frankly, I don't give a rat's ass. I'm not saying you should go around doing hymen check on every girl you see, but maybe the less-experienced girls will be less prejudiced about sex with a virgin than you expect experienced girls to be?
I'm not a virgin and I can tell you that it's not a problem for me. The second partner I ever had was a virgin. I was his first, and I was glad that he told me. Actually, we had fun with it when we tried. I had a lot of fun teasing him and seeing what turned him on. Our first few times were pretty awkward, but it let us learn a lot about each other.
And to be quite frank - I don't think girls are as hasty to jump into sex as guys are, meaning she will probably only want to be intimate after you guys have reached a certain point of seriousness in the relationship. So if she's into you, I don't think it will matter.
In my experience, i have not rejected someone who was inexperienced, we all can't be perfect.. When i look at them and see how they are inexperienced it makes me think of the first times i've been inexperienced at things... I give everyone a fair go
I'm pretty much the same as you twenty one never kissed a women before of course that is hard when your in a long distance relationship in high school. Except I've had a couple girlfriends the fact that I haven't done anything didn't bother them not that I care regardless as I am waiting until marriage to lose my virginity and nothing will change that. And if you do get shot down o well life goes on you'll find another girl the only way to get experienced is to keep trying until you succeed and gain experience in whatever it is your lacking in. And if a women is shallow enough that she will break things off with you just because you lack experience then was she really worth the effort in the first place. Look for a real partner someone who will be with you regardless of whether you've done something or not, who will work with you on the areas you lack in and build you up not tear you down those are the kinds of ladies you need to search for.
Outside of hooking up most girls don't care about experience per se.
The problem with being inexperienced is the mistakes you make, not that the -idea- of you being inexperienced is generally a big problem.
If you're looking at a more hookup type situation, she doesn't want to know its special for you if it's 'just fun' for her.
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Inexperience hurts during sex... Its hard not to cum during oral and hard to know how to please her. Dates, etc... Its kinda easy as long as you're confident. During sex you need to be confident too, but in a way that calms you down and not be too giddy. Practice holding it in when you masturbate. That helps a lot.
Damn I want to know if being rejected for being inexperienced is a myth or fact. Well I am scared that I will cum too fast and the girl knows that I am not experienced. That can be very embarrassing. For sure I will hide the fact that I am inexperienced unless the girls like shove the question down my throat, which I doubt any girls would do. I mean they will let the action tell the truth.
Also i want to ask How many guys on here have been treated unfairly like being a womanizer just for good looking and sociable?
and How many girls on here have been prejudiced to being a money worshipper just for their intelligence, pretty , good salary and high social status?Anyone who would turn you away for being "inexperienced" isn't worth your time anyways. Just go for it.
I don't think girls care about experience. I'm 21 and a kissless virgin as well and I'm pretty sure girls want a guy they find attractive that has similar interests or attractive personality traits
i've never asked a girl out because of my choice LOL
It has happened to me about 4 times.
Now I just pretend that I'm a player, and I sort of am. So strange, it's the opposite with women. Women want to fuck a guy that gets around? I've turned down women who I thought did that.fuck experience I think virgin's are cute! :3
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