My best friend and I are very close And we have both spoken about being in a relationship with each. However, he won't say this but I know he won't date me until I lose weight. And I do not blame him. I'm currently 250lbs ( I've already lost 30 so far)! It hurts me because he dates girls that are similar to me and I can see that my size is the only reason he doesn't take me seriously. He always tells me" if you lost weight you would be the prettiest girl I know" and a lot of people tell me that. I do understand that no one to date someone who is unhealthy and at risk for a lot of things. My question is this does he not really care about me if he can't see past my weight or is fair that he wants me to be smaller first? Would you date someone who was in the process of losing weight?
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You can't really know his intentions, but whether they are good or bad, it has help you motivate yourself to lose the weight.
Either way, you win.
Now, just because you lost the weight and got him, doesn't mean you go back to your own way. This is has to become lifestyle or else you'll gave it back up.
Now, your question if he doesn't care about you.
Only time will tell. Once you lose the weight and he is still trying to change you or making you feel less, then you should just leave him.
Seriously, as you lose the weight, you'll have more self esteem and more guys coming after you.
In general, lose weight for you. If he is with you or not, it doesn't matter. You should be proud for yourself for such achievement (:
Remember to wear some type of shape wear. Don't risk having excess skin hanging on you.1