Guys: What makes a girl a "catch"?

[EyeSeaYew]

Is it what she looks like? What type of personality she has? A combination of both? Feel free to go into detail.

[Shypider]

to me; a girl the is herself if the best girl. she doesn't worry about makeup, dresses the way she likes and is true to herself. i just really like that and i think lots of guys like that because these type of girls are pretty rare nowadays. girls often try to look like the model on the magazine and wear a ton of makeup but to me that is not pretty. id take a girl with her own sense of style, her own personality and that is all natural over a wanna be celebrity. all i really want is a REAL girl. doesn't matter if she doesn't look like a victoria secret model. (looks kind do matter but its more about hygene than actual physical appearance. a cute girl that doesn't take care of herself will look ugly in comparison to a not so cute girl that takes care of herself).

Also physical "size" doenst really matter. idc if my girl has small boobs or a small ass. it really doesn't mean anything to me

so to summarize, if a girl doesn't wear too much makeup, is nice, authentic, unique has a great personality.

[FatherKnowsBest]

An excellent description of what I found in my wife many years ago.
You might warn to include "a goal oriented mindset" To me what adds to a woman's allure is her smarts.

[MrOracle]

- Attractive
- Fun, pleasant personality
- Compatible morals and values
- Sexually compatible
- Similar/compatible life goals (marriage [or not], kids [or not], lifestyle, etc.)
- Not emotionally oversensitive or easily offended.

[Dorkasaurus]

Define attractive? Please?

[Shaun0fthedeaD]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I personally think Taylor Swift is the most gorgeous woman on earth, friends tell me my eyes are fucked.

[MrOracle]

I didn't define it on purpose, BECAUSE it will mean something different to each guy. Other than "not being overweight," "long hair," and "pretty face," it's hard to think of anything specific that MOST guys consider ideal. Some guys like big boobs and some like small. Some guys like big asses, and some small. Some guys like thin girls and some curvy. Some like tall girls and some like short, etc. Most guys like a wide-enough range of attributes that they'd find most girls who are in decent physical shape to be attractive.

[nastyb]

@Shaun0fthedeaD

haha i would agree. i find nothing appealing about taylor swift.

just like some guys tell me im pretty while i think im ugly af.

[Mesonfielde]

Compatible and admirable behavior, respectable value system and attractive physical appearance. Primarily. It's an absolute plus if she's intellectually smart and hates Twilight.

[Mesonfielde]

I'm glad you found that helpful! :D
Although I wish I knew what that one downvoter disagreed with. She probably likes Twilight, haha.

[EyeSeaYew]

I found it helpful because what you described as being a catch is general enough for most guys to agree with, instead of being biased and describing your own specific dream girl. It also makes sense---a good-looking girl who's likable with respectable values is sure to be liked by plenty of guys.

And yeah, you know how those Twi-hards are. I'm surprised you didn't receive a very angry message listing the reasons why hating Twilight is a sin that inevitably results in eternal damnation.

[Mesonfielde]

Ah I see, that makes sense :D

To be honest, I even asked a question "is it okay if I wouldn't date a girl who likes Twilight" and the people of this website mostly supported the idea, haha. They said, "you are what you read", and "Twilight is rubbish" :D Although to be fair, I know some people who actually are pretty cool and did enjoy the books for one reason or another, but it makes me a bit wary at first. But the general consensus is that the movies are horrible in every way, and as much as I have seen of them, that's a valid claim.

[Chelsea241]

CONFIDENCE. But not cockiness. You dont have to be drop dead gorgeous to be attractive. Men are a sucker for a confident and also an unattainable woman. Men naturally love to chance and there's nothing more intriging than a woman with mystery.

[tigerseye7]

Not gonna lie, its probably about 80% body/looks and 20% approachability

[Hajar_Whitestone]

Guys look to body more then behind that body --"

[sugardandylion]

Yeah, because men are very visual and zexual beings. They go for what looks nice and will turn them on I guess.

[Alkan]

Body is what attracts me initially, personality is what keeps me around.

[Gustafsone12584]

Nope, not true. Those are those superficial ones. There are the ones that take the personality over the looks. Of course we all have to be honest. When looking for someone, they've got to be attractive. But the personality of who the person is, makes up the rest. You can't just be sexy standing there. You have to be sexy yourself. That's what makes the package. It also works from both sides too :) I'm betting you look at body first. There's some study out there, that say that it takes woman a very small time frame to know if they like a guy. Don't tell me, that looks can't be a deciding factor.

[AdamThomas]

That's like saying guys look at the wheels of a car more than the rest of it - obviously not true. A car needs the right wheels for the guy to consider the car, if it does then he's gonna evaluate the rest of it, if it doesn't then no matter how good the rest of the car is he won't want to drive it. Same goes for looks.

[tzdc21]

Looks get you through the door. Personality keeps you there.

[Finchie40]

If she has a good heart and good morals , she values a relationship and is loving and loyal , she isn’t selfish , she brings happiness into my life not misery , she works with me not against me , she is beautiful to my eyes , She wears my shoes like she expects me to wear hers when it comes to making decisions , She prioritizes me the same way I prioritize her , She doesn’t withhold intimacy and affection , intimacy and affection isn’t even an issue , We both make each other feel valued and wanted , she knows how to resist temptations the same way i do for her , Finding a girl like her is a girl i would stick with for the long haul , sadly it seems hard to find these days

[Thewhitestdudeever]

The older I get the more I realize that men and women find the exact same things attractive i their partner. Everything is important not just how the person looks, it's the confidence, the sence of humor and playfulness, the intelligence, posture, and hygiene as well as several other things. Yes a woman can be perfect physically but if the same woman was funny and smart and confident and had excellent posture and was basically on my level, that's the difference between a one night stand and my future wife. Sure I wana fuck barbie but now in the other hand Stacy over here is just a little less hot but she's got the personality that I crave I will go for Stacy every single time unless I'm just an asshole looking for a place to park my dick for a minute. So think about that, whatever personality traits you find attractive in a man are the same things that man will find attractive in you.

[1932ct]

A "Catch" is hard to come by in today's market... lol

What make her a catch is probably a well balanced combination of things, obviously her physical looks , compatibility , her type of personality, if she is claim, soft spoken an sweet , affectionate an loyal , if she favors a little more to the delicate and feminine side , mentally an emotionally stable, someone the guy enjoys being around (not one he has to find excuses to get away form) she needs to be all these things while still being her self an that makes her a "catch"

Now if she is a good cook to that moves her status form "catch" to " trophy" ... lol

There are two basic things to catch and keep a guy , but there are dozens of ways to run the guys off

[Deja_April]

me: reading everything about what makes a girl a catch... I am a catch... now how do I keep the guy?

[Meesterlijk]

Some guys will state a girl is a catch when she's physically attractive (maybe even slightly out of their league). If a girl is hard to get and you succeed to establish something with her, that's great.
In my personal experience, a girl is a catch if I want to catch her. She can be short, tall, wear glasses or not, she can speak my language or another, she can be interested in me or she can be trying not to fall for me for whatever reason, etc. There is not something like a mark on these girls I consider a catch.
Personally I like girls with an open personality, who are cute but also have an edge. I don't want a girl who is like this all the time: "I don't know what I want to do, you can decide, I will do whatever you will come up with..."

[PineappleBreath]

I'll just cover the looks portion here. If your honestly not that great looking like a 4 or below, I can't define what a below average person looks like but you know what it looks like when you see it, then you just have to accept the fact that regardless of your personality you will end up with a guy that is probably pretty weird looking.

Now 5 or above, average looks and up, they don't really matter all that much beyond the initial attraction. I mean the main part is you put some kind of effort into your appearance. That means somewhat working out, being at least basic with makeup and having at least a vague attempt at a style. The big part that matters most is just being interesting and not boring, so have a Damn life worth talking about, actually listen and comprehend what the person you like is talking about, and just smile and crack some jokes. That's it when it comes to the importance of appearances.

[Hermitess]

But below-average guys aren’t even going to settle for a below-average woman. The below-average woman is going to die alone and unloved because the below-average men are still out there pursuing Instagram hookers

[Thrifty]

I don't know. There are more and 'many fish in the sea' but I've been so disappointed with women that I don't even want to go fishing anymore.

I wish Jesus could just tell me to throw a net over the right side of the boat then the perfect girl for me will be caught.

But more than catching her, I desire to be able to love, appreciate, support and keep her forever because what could be worse and a waste to have the perfect catch but then line breaks?

I think the perfect catch would have characteristics of love, intimacy, harmony, and communication. Without these, even if you were with a total knock out, you wouldn't truly want to be with her and would continue searching. Am I right?

[SillyQuirks_]

👍👍👍

[ThisxxLovexx]

I feel like we should get married

[landlet]

Going into detail. I like that. But there's not much need.
Looks are important when you're young. Eventually you'll want to end up with someone you like for other things than just looks. So when you're young and you're a guy, you'll probably looks are important. Then, as you get older, you'll start to value other qualities more than looks, perhaps you'll appreciate a girl being funny, or the kindness in her, or her loyalty. Depends, just like looks, it's in the eyes and heart of the beholder.
What I can tell for sure, no one appreciates stupid, evil bitches. So, if you picked that evil bitch for her looks alone, you're gonna be sorry eventually.

[Mike87479]

I feel like it’s a combination. Although I’ll share a story. A few years ago I started work at a new location. I met a girl who I thought was drop dead gorgeous. Whenever I saw her I thought to myself there goes that hot girl, then my thoughts went back to whatever I was doing. After a few months I got to know her and we became work friends. She would play pranks on me like filling in my desk calendar with ridiculous tasks and simple drawings. I honestly was falling in love with her. I knew she was gorgeous all along but it wasn’t until I got to know her that I gained feelings for her.
Would I have felt the same way if she was unattractive? I honestly don’t know. But I do know I fell in love with her personality, and witty sense of humor. Sorry for rambling on but you said details are ok. Lol.

[Xcommunicated]

Her character, personality, body, complete package. As the song goes
She's got her daddy's money
Her mom as good looks
More laughs than a stack of comic books
A dynamite kisser
A good bass fisher
Country as a turnip green
College education
Wild imagination
Add it all up its a deadly combination

[TallAnon]

The general rule; When she adds to your life rather than detract.
If she demands a lot of time and money and gives nothing in return or thinks looking cute or having sex once a week makes up for it, she's not adding anything to your life.
When she goes out of her way to help out, that's what we like. We can survive on our own, we do our job, do the laundry and we can heat up a pizza, but when you make us comfortable, improve the quality of our lives, even if it's preparing one meal in a week, it's a positive.
We will put up with driving you places, carrying things, listen to your story and even be your emotional sponge, but if you're not adding anything in return, then at some point we do the rationalizing and lose interest.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Quiet, Shy, Sensitive at times, Lacks sarcasm, Funny, Loving
I like girl who has some morals, down to earth likes to hold hands
is very affectionate, laid back, wants marriage with kids, can be
a virgin/ or not a virgin, i like girls any shape , looks not matter/
not high maintenance / lacks being materialistic

[Camallunt]

A catch would be a girl who has the combination of decent looks mixed with interesting personality while being into what the guy is into. A catch usually has qualities that tend not to be found together.

For basic example a catch for me is a dark humoured alternative girl who likes animals and working out while having a nice bum and enjoyment of sex and kinks but also doesn't mind me playing video games.

[Battooot]

Yes a little bit of both. To me a catch would be a girl with really nice eyes, pretty face, and nice personality. I just lost a catch yesterday because she was insecure about herself and did not realize how much of a 'catch' she was to me :s. It sucks, it really really sucks, a girl like her should not have ANY insecurity..

[RalphBlack]

A woman can cause attraction by her beauty at first. She can be be beautiful all she wants but when a good guy wants something serious, then the woman has to be genuinely true to what her personality was to begin with. By saying that I mean she has to respect the guy. A good guy will do what he can to please his woman regardless but if a woman treats him like a hand towel then he's just gonna allow himself to float off into the wind and move on.

[RalphBlack]

I also love quirkiness and when they love to be playful in a good way :)

[Anonymous]

Funny, loyal, doesn’t have to look like a supermodel, just someone I find cute in a sense. I don’t have a “preference per se”. She could be blonde, black hair, red head, brunette. Her body shouldn’t be draped in tattoos. She shouldn’t be doing drugs. I don’t want to find out she’s been passed around the town by other dudes. A girl who has intelligence and knows her history, religion and how this system works is a plus in my books. I think I’m a chill guy, so I would like to be with a chill girl.

[JacobJordan]

not severely obese, genuine, kind, caring, respectful, supportive, understanding, encouraging, dresses like a lady, doesn't wear a ton of make up, doesn't smoke, drink, do drugs, party, little to no tattoos, is feminine (not to be confused with feminist), has no sexual past. maybe a couple things I missed but that is what I personally looked for in a partner. It was also the woman I found and married.

[KeirAdams]

In all honesty, its someone you feel that you get along with and they dont have to try to impress you and you like them for Who they are, looks aren't as important as girls think, in my opinion a 'catch' is someone that makes you smile whenever you see them

[Anonymous]

It's simple. She bucks everything modern feminism espouses as good. She is not independent, she loves and relies on her man. She does not hate helping him, she loves him and is grateful he is in her life. It is her delight and gratitude to give herself to him, after marriage.

She does not seek a job, furthering herself from him. She does not hold her heart hostage, she freely gives it to him.

She makes him happy. She completes him.

[unicornsandglitter]

You need to get shot in the foot.

[Opinion Owner]

Why? Because I want a mate who loves me?

Please, if you are not capable of loving your man like this, do not search for a man at all!

[Justcurious123]

It's funny how I was just reading a book that's 200 years old and the men were searching for the same thing. A woman who has no other point in life than to please her husband. If you just add her capacity to play an instrument to draw to dance to sing and to walk properly you would describe the perfect accomplished woman of the 19th century! (Being rich and from a respectable family with a lot of connections helps too)

[PlainJane86]

I'll tell you exactly what was wrong with that statement: you just said women are supposed to be totally dependent on men, and can't even have their own jobs. Women have fought for the right to work, and while some women want to and some women don't, that's their choice to make, not yours. And exactly how is it desirable for a woman to be totally dependent on you? I think independence is attractive in anyone. The fact that they can do things on their own without guidance is important. In a healthy relationship, you need to depend on each other and help each other, but you need to have independence as well.

[Opinion Owner]

Justcurious: Basic desires do not change no matter how many years go by. You are shooting yourself in the foot by telling yourself these things are desireable. And no, the reciprocation of that is not a man treating a woman like furniture. He adores her, makes her the center of his earthly affections, and loves her more than he loves himself.

Any man that treats a woman like furniture does not deserve her.

[jammasterjay]

I don't agree with limiting a woman from getting a job. When I'm with someone I'm supporting them and backing them to be the best person they can be and I ask the same in return. It gives me great pleasure to see her thriving and making the most out of what life has to offer.

[Versz]

Ignore those brainless girls please , they don't know better.

[Opinion Owner]

Nobody is limiting anybody.

Being a mate is not about "Doing your own thing and including someone else."

It is about sacrificing your life to live with someone else, and spend, and share your life with them. You cannot say, "I want to go out and get a job." unless it is necessary to keep from becoming homeless, and think that you are doing your best to be there for your mate.

That's like saying, "I don't want to cook. I don't want to clean. I don't want to stay at home."

Why are you in his life, then? Is your sole value based on your pleasing him, sexually? Or are you there for him in other ways, too?

[MaybeNormalQuestions]

Well for me, it's the kind of girl that has an amazing personality. Also, I have to be able to relate to her in some way such as hobbies or other things we have in common. Looks are important of course, I mean, you have to look good to catch my eye. That's what makes a girl a "catch" for me.

[jammasterjay]

The girl next door. Naturally pretty and doesn't wear too much makeup. She's funny, intelligent, educated, passionate and trustworthy.