To be rather fair chivalry (the way I have been brought up to believe ) Is pretty much is actions of showing mutual and even further positive respect for your fellow man. Its not that chivalry is dead in the modern age it is just that it is simply changed and transformed over the years and in this day and age we simply do not need to protect the maiden fair any more like yee olden times.
To me simply holding doors for people, helping them with a chair or any other form of gestures that you could called using chivalry is pretty much me going out of my own personal way to show some one I personally respect that person and am fond of them, be that via friendship, relationship and so on.
That being said since my own mother brought me up rather well considering the situation she has said that I should choose who I show the kind of actions to. I mean any one I choose to go out of my way for more than on once occasion has had to earn my admiration, respect and trust and if the situation does arise where I feel a person is taking advantage is simply without cause a fuss stop acting that way towards some one in a non aggressive manner and go on my way.
Having chivalry in the modern age is a good thing to have on my personal view but should only be given to those you feel deserve this personal choice to act this way.
If people or feminists dislike it if you show chivalry then the only thing i can respectfully is go to town.
Do not sell yourself short : )
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Common courtesy is not the same as chivalry, as common courtesy is expected by both genders. Chivalry is only expected by men. That means chivalry is a gender role. Since chivalry is a male gender role, it is therefore sexist according to modern feminism which claims to fights against gender roles. Most feminists would be very offended if they were told they needed to run head opening all of the doors for men, pulling out the man's chair so he can sit down, etc just because they were born as girls.
Any role placed upon the woman is seen as degrading to women, while any role placed on the man is viewed differently. Some even flip it around so much they claim the male gender role of chivalry is actually an insult that means the woman is too weak to do those things herself.
Feminist ideals were created by people with a lot of gender bias. You put the same restraints on both genders and they will come up with different answers. This is why they think women doing something for men because of her gender is degrading, but when a man does something because of his gender for a woman it is never seen as degrading for the man. They are not holding us to the same standards. Everything is about twisting reality to make women look like the victim instead of looking at it fairly and logically.
It's not sexist. Being chivalrous is basically being common courteous to the other individual, both sides need to participate in it. If you don't want to pay for her meal, tell her before the date and discuss maybe splitting it. Though that's what my ex and I did and it worked great.
It's sexist to think only men should tend to chivalry. If it goes both ways then that's respect and courtesy. I would never expect someobe to pay for my meal. If I get asked out on a date and don't have money I will ask if we can push the date forward or if I can pay him/her back.
Yes, I do believe the concept of chivalry is sexist and outdated.
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You should try creating your own form of chivalry. I hold doors for everyone. I sometimes pay for my friends food. During dates I talk about paying for dates with a girl before actually doing it. A lot of them like the gesture but dislike the expectations. After talking to a few I quit purchasing thier food. It no longer felt chivalrous just unnecessary. But I still open car doors cause shit sometimes it's cute. I still give up my jacket in the rain and pull the car around cause hey no big deal for me. Just talk to people about it girls aren't monsters
Yes, chivalry by definition is benevolent sexism. Have you seen a female ever be "chivalrous" towards a male? No! That is called general courtesy, and it is not the same!
Therefore it is indeed hypocritical. If we want TRUE equality, then chivalry must perish. It comes off as trying too hard anyways.Here's the solution. Ask if women or ANYONE wants special treatment from you before doing it, eg, on a first date; "do you want me to pay all the time?"
I hate special treatment, but it varies. That's why you should always ask.Chivalry needs to be expected for both genders!
Genderqueers get nothing!Why the hell would chivalry be sexist? It doesn't hurt anyone.
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