I keep hearing of feminists who fight for equality and expect chivalry. I always tell them that they are being highly hypocritically sexist, since chivalry puts an unfair expectation on men to treat women a certain way, some women define it as respect. However, they don't quenstion why we find it as respectful? Why must a man pay for a woman's meal or why is it strongly advised for a man to pay for a woman's meal? Why must I open her car door, when taking her out on a date? Why must I hold the door open, in general? People say it is courtesy. However, this "courtesy" has historically been rooted in sexism. Can women be chivalrous too? Yes. But it is not on them to be chivalrous because historically chivalry has constrained men. Some women will state the person who asks is the person who pays. Yet, most women don't tend to ask men on dates. Why don't women pull out chairs for men? Why don't women hold car doors open for men? Because they are not expected to. Historically, chivalry was geared towards men because men but society has changed. This is why women are not expected to be chivalrous. So is chivalry sexist by the standards of feminism and masculism?
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Common courtesy is not the same as chivalry, as common courtesy is expected by both genders. Chivalry is only expected by men. That means chivalry is a gender role. Since chivalry is a male gender role, it is therefore sexist according to modern feminism which claims to fights against gender roles. Most feminists would be very offended if they were told they needed to run head opening all of the doors for men, pulling out the man's chair so he can sit down, etc just because they were born as girls.
Any role placed upon the woman is seen as degrading to women, while any role placed on the man is viewed differently. Some even flip it around so much they claim the male gender role of chivalry is actually an insult that means the woman is too weak to do those things herself.
Feminist ideals were created by people with a lot of gender bias. You put the same restraints on both genders and they will come up with different answers. This is why they think women doing something for men because of her gender is degrading, but when a man does something because of his gender for a woman it is never seen as degrading for the man. They are not holding us to the same standards. Everything is about twisting reality to make women look like the victim instead of looking at it fairly and logically.2