I was talking to one of my male friends and he said he would never date a woman who didn't make him feel needed in some way. So, I was curious about how other men feel about this.
- Yes, I would date a woman like that
- No, I would not date a woman like that
- It would depend on other factors (please explain below)
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See, in my opinion, there has to be a balance. A woman who, like some of the other contributors have noted, is so independent that the very idea of "being with a man" is the semantic equivalent of "having to settle with mediocrity" to me, would be a blaring red flag. Being cold, distant, acting superior and condescending, why would anyone want to deal with that?
I want a woman in my life who is kind, generous, compassionate, and able to help me when I am in need as well as herself; in that regard, she doesn't "need a man", but chooses to be supportive with one. Who pushes her man to be his best self and he does the same in turn; who will not bow down to him when he is disrespectful, because she deserves better. Biologically, the sexes are different, but when those differences are taken into consideration, should not both people have both dependence and independence from and with each other?
Autonomy with accountability. That, in my mind, is the definition of Independence. And any women who says that this is simply the Patriachy talking needs to ask themselves the obvious question: what is the better alternative?