This guy invited me to his bbq and I think he forgot, should I say something?

[Anonymous]

He's having friends over, I don't know any of them but he invited me. I think he forgot that he invited me though.
I asked him if he wanted to have lunch today and he said he's having people over for a bbq
So I replied oh okay I thought that was a night thing. Well enjoy then :)

i I didn't want to remind him that he invited me. Just waiting to see what he replies I guess
we have plans for tomorrow night anyway but I haven't met his friends before so it would have been good.
Should I say something else or wait and see if he does?

[Streamhopper]

Well, that's awkward. I really can't imagine not inviting you, but if he truly did forget, your presence may be weird.

But my god, man. Seriously? How can you forget that?

[Asker]

Yeah
Well he knows I don't have plans because I invited him over lol
If he actually forgot then I don't want to see him tomorrow hey...
Should I say something?

[Streamhopper]

Well, you could, but honestly? How can you forget that? I may forget where my car keys are. I might forget where I left $5. Would I forget this? Hell no. I don't know why it happened, though.

[Asker]

I'm a bit annoyed, I don't really want to go anymore now.
I messaged him and said I guess I'll see you next week maybe
Surely a guy who remembered we had plans would say something right? And I guess if he just takes that then he doesn't care

[Streamhopper]

We guys get so distracted easily. That's why I put everything in my calendar now. You're right to be annoyed. I don't blame you. But I'm sure he has other things on his mind. I can't say what in good company.

[Asker]

I don't want to act like a bitch but I don't want to be a pushover either
im pretty angry at him though
Like it's not a big event, just a few people

I don't want to message him again and look clingy by asking if he actually forgot
But I won't know what to say tomorrow if he brings up seeing me like we talked about

[Streamhopper]

Eh, don't get too caught up in it. It'll work itself out. It's just a BBQ, after all. Sad he forgot you, though. :(

[Asker]

It's because he's going away for a month for work.
If he messages me tomorrow I won't know what to say.
Right now I'm upset so I'd say something like I don't want to see someone who doesn't care enough to remember making plans with me

[Streamhopper]

You're right to be upset. I don't blame you at all. But if he's going away for a month, isn't that all the more reason to contact you? I'll admit, I'm pretty dense. But I'd think of that.

[Asker]

Yeah...
Okay I think if he doesn't message me tomorrow then that's it, it's over
If he does I guess I'll ask how today went and bring up somehow how he forgot he invited me and see how he responds to if I see him

What would you think getting my message though? It's hard to tell if it sounds like I care as it a message
Me - (invited him over for lunch)
Him- I've got people coming over for a bbq woo
Me- oh that's right, I thought it was at night. Well enjoy then
I guess I'll see you next week maybe

[Asker]

He just replied 'you sure will'

[Asker]

Gah I should leave my phone while I'm annoyed
I said Yeah I know you and plans so probably not

[Streamhopper]

Kinda crass on his part. But that's me. I'm a strange animal. Should have been more personal, though. It's like you were an afterthought.

[Asker]

I don't want to be a typical annoying girl and be angry when he has no idea why though

[Streamhopper]

Why be angry and annoying? It's a BBQ. People having fun, getting loose. I wish I had friends like that. Enjoy yourself. But I do know what you mean, despite my banter.

[Asker]

Lol I'm not going because he forgot me!
That's why I'm angry

[Streamhopper]

Then by all means, party on! (him) Wait, what?

[Alohalani18]

Keep ur mind off him, maybe he is just busy. Don't wamder over him

[Asker]

The thing is He's replied (you can see in my other comment above)
I don't know if he forgot or just doesn't care
I don't want to cause unnecessary drama or be annoyed if he doesn't know why
Should I say something?

[Alohalani18]

Ignore him, its not being childish. Just don't want you to waste ur time

[Asker]

He just messaged me something completely unrelated (a funny photo of him as a kid that he found)
Lol So he clearly doesn't know I'm annoyed...
How do I be direct about him being crap with plans without making a big deal?

[DavidNYY]

yeah he probably forgot