Guys, do u compliment other girls in front of ur gf?

Question

My boyfriend sometimes compliments other girls in front of me, tho he makes it sound like a joke and he always says im the most beautiful girl but im still not comfortable with it.
One time we were in a bar, he kept complimenting on a girl that i got so pissed, i left him in the middle of the conversation. Then he apologized but he said i over-reacted. Did i?

Answer 1

Tacticious

Xper 5

On accident, yes. I say stupid shit and never mean it in a sexual way. For example, if I notice a female co-worker is rocking a new hairdo, I'll say "Damn it looks really good! You really pull that off!". It's never meant as any more than to just uplift the co-worker, and there are ZERO feelings between either of us. My lady is quite understanding and doesn't feel threatened by it. I do it with everything, including dudes by the way. I like to compliment people.

Answer 2

ThisDudeHere | 3.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

No you didn't overreact. I mean if I were together with a girl I would absolutely never compliment random girls. The only way I'd compliment another was if I knew that girl (a friend or relative) she had dressed finely or whatever. In that case why not compliment her on a job well done?

Asker

+1 y
Coz guys like looking at pretty girls, i guess it's just some keep it in mind when they see a hot girl, and others just wanna say it out loud

Answer 3

Asker

Coz guys like looking at pretty girls, i guess it's just some keep it in mind when they see a hot girl, and others just wanna say it out loud

Answer 4

bubble_tea | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

He's clearly out of line if he kept mentioning how great she looked. You didn't overreact.
It's only overreaction, if you flip out when you two run into his female friend who clearly made the effort to look good for the night and he wanted to be nice by acknowledging it verbally once.

Answer 5

SleepySmile123

Xper 5

Me and my ex used to comment other people all the time. I once called him from a train to tell him i saw a girl with awesome butt xD
it was just us, we knew we wouldn't cheat on each other, but i know most people dont like it. If he knows it bothers you he shouldn't do it.

Answer 6

vouge

Xper 4

no way you didn't over react! if he's in a relationship with you, he shouldn't be complimenting other girls other than you.. thats how it works. I would be pissed to if my boyfriend did that. if i were you, talk to him about it and tell him how it makes you feel :)

Answer 7

Hollywood-Glam | 552 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Your reaction was understandable. I would feel really bad if my boyfriend did that. I would feel bothered by all types of physical compliments and flirting done to other girls. He should make me feel like I'm his one and only.

Asker

+1 y
I know right? Good thing he doesn't flirt, other wise, i could never stand it

Answer 8

Asker

I know right? Good thing he doesn't flirt, other wise, i could never stand it

Answer 9

Nik1hil | 1.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

That is one big mistake you should not do in a relationship with women.
Jealousy is woman.
Man in relationship
Cannot compliment other girls
Cannot watch porn
Cannot check out other girls
Cannot send smile to other girls.
Cannot Kiss a random girl on back or her hand, or her forehead to thank her for her efforts
Cannot have explicit pic of other girls in our phones.
Cannot sit on your ass and enjoy a game.
Cannot be that bad person or act like a perve.

Answer 10

AleDeEurope

Master

Depends on the compliment. I would say she looks good or that she's pretty. If my girl gets offended by such simple and innocent words, she's clearly too immature and insecure for me to wanna be with her.
I will never tell a girl she looks hot, sexy, gorgeous... in front of my girl, cause I know that can get taken out of context.

schnipdip

+1 y
when can't calling a girl hot sexy and gorgeous be taken out of context when you are in a relationship? that is never appropriate
AleDeEurope

+1 y
@schnipdip Well, there are some girls that fully trust you and know what you feel for her and don't get mad if you say something like that.
Or if you're with a good friend joking around.
schnipdip

+1 y
the only way I can see you doing it is if your friend is depressed. Anything outside of that situation is pushing the limits of what is acceptable.
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AleDeEurope

+1 y
@schnipdip But it depends on your girlfriend too, some girls don't care if you say that cause it's just a compliment.
My father has multiple times said certain girl is beautiful and my mother hasn't got mad, actually agreed. And the same when my mother says certain guy is handsome.
It doesn't always mean you want something with that person.
schnipdip

+1 y
I think you can only do that after a very long time and there is a bond that can't be broken between you two.

Answer 11

schnipdip

when can't calling a girl hot sexy and gorgeous be taken out of context when you are in a relationship? that is never appropriate

Answer 12

AleDeEurope

@schnipdip Well, there are some girls that fully trust you and know what you feel for her and don't get mad if you say something like that.
Or if you're with a good friend joking around.

Answer 13

schnipdip

the only way I can see you doing it is if your friend is depressed. Anything outside of that situation is pushing the limits of what is acceptable.

Answer 14

AleDeEurope

@schnipdip But it depends on your girlfriend too, some girls don't care if you say that cause it's just a compliment.
My father has multiple times said certain girl is beautiful and my mother hasn't got mad, actually agreed. And the same when my mother says certain guy is handsome.
It doesn't always mean you want something with that person.

Answer 15

schnipdip

I think you can only do that after a very long time and there is a bond that can't be broken between you two.

Answer 16

ElvenMr | 289 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

I don't think i would compliment other girls, while my girlfriend is right there with me, but everyone is different. It could be, that he teases you with this, or he really just compliments other girls, cause he is like that.
You can ask him, why he is doing that, and talk about it with him, after that i think you'll be able to decide what to do.

Answer 17

Anonymous

Does he do that sort of thing with everyone. If so, then he's just a generous, sociable guy who tries to make people feel good about themselves.

If he's ONLY choosing to say nice things to pretty girls, then it's a problem (and I'll be honest, there's a chance that that is the only thing YOU would notice -- confirmation bias).

So are you overreacting? Possibly, possibly not.

Answer 18

mr90skid

Yoda

I never did just cause I don't give compliments much out of shyness and cause I didn't wanna deal with the drama that would of followed *rolls eyes* smh

Answer 19

DodgersGM

Master

I'll say that someone looks good, but that's it. I just don't think it's respectful of myself or my partner to say anything else.

If your boyfriend kept pushing the issue, then I don't think you overreacted.

Answer 20

TheMythicalDragon

Xper 2

Yes and I check them out which is why women stay away from me, they know better than get into a relationship with a wannabe PLAYA.

Answer 21

SerenaWalsh123

Xper 2

Girls are insecure and if the one you love shows interest in another woman she will most likely feel competitive or in competition with the woman. Its also disrespectful as you are on a date with your GIRLFRIEND so all you should be looking at is her. Boys DO NOT do it.

Answer 22

Outofthegrey | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I do not complement anyone. Complements are for the weak.

Answer 23

findingdreamland

Guru

That's disrespectful. You were not overreacting.
Just talk to him clearly. You don't like his attitude.

Answer 24

Yanoa_Yanza | 1.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I honestly would. Like if they were friends of us, and I found something nice, I'd say it

Answer 25

Anonymous

if he knows it makes you upset then he shouldn't keep doing it. end of the line. he want being respectfull of your feelings

Asker

+1 y
He stopped doing it but i know in the back of his mind he stills thinks im overreacted
Opinion Owner

+1 y
okay im glad that he stopped. but if he ever did it again and then you should compliment a guy infront of him and see how he feels. he would do the same thing as you probably. walk away. and then he won't think that you over reacted.

this isn't something i would typically suggest a girl to do. purposfully try to get and emotional reacton from a guy but sometimes its necessary to have them understand.
Asker

+1 y
Thanks girl, i thought of it too. Actually when we talked after the incident, i asked him what if i compliment other guys in front of him, he said he'd be fine. Let's wait and see...
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Opinion Owner

+1 y
exactly they tink they would be fine until the emotions suddenly flooded them

Answer 26

Asker

He stopped doing it but i know in the back of his mind he stills thinks im overreacted

Answer 27

Opinion Owner

okay im glad that he stopped. but if he ever did it again and then you should compliment a guy infront of him and see how he feels. he would do the same thing as you probably. walk away. and then he won't think that you over reacted.

this isn't something i would typically suggest a girl to do. purposfully try to get and emotional reacton from a guy but sometimes its necessary to have them understand.

Answer 28

Asker

Thanks girl, i thought of it too. Actually when we talked after the incident, i asked him what if i compliment other guys in front of him, he said he'd be fine. Let's wait and see...

Answer 29

Opinion Owner

exactly they tink they would be fine until the emotions suddenly flooded them

Answer 30

Anonymous

No, you have every right to be upset. I don't compliment a girl on something I haven't already said to my date. It becomes sort of an inside "joke"; I'd compliment the girl but I'd wink ;) at my date so she knows I like her more.

Opinion Owner

+1 y
Your boyfriend needs to learn to respect you more. It sounds like he has a big ego.

Answer 31

Opinion Owner

Your boyfriend needs to learn to respect you more. It sounds like he has a big ego.

Answer 32

Anonymous

Have you tried sitting down with him and explaining this to him?

Asker

+1 y
Yea after i left, we talked and i said it was disrespectful, he said he was joking and that i overreacted. I guess its bcoz i was ok when he did it at first. But this time, he kept complimenting on that girl non stop, something like "she has nice legs", then i said "she's ok, I've seen better", then he kept going "look, other guys are surrounding that hot girl", i kept silent, and lastly he said, "now she's playing with the tree" then i got pissed and left
Opinion Owner

+1 y
Yeah, he's definitely gone too far IMHO. There's nothing wrong with an occasional, discrete compliment, but not the way he went on.

Answer 33

Asker

Yea after i left, we talked and i said it was disrespectful, he said he was joking and that i overreacted. I guess its bcoz i was ok when he did it at first. But this time, he kept complimenting on that girl non stop, something like "she has nice legs", then i said "she's ok, I've seen better", then he kept going "look, other guys are surrounding that hot girl", i kept silent, and lastly he said, "now she's playing with the tree" then i got pissed and left

Answer 34

Opinion Owner

Yeah, he's definitely gone too far IMHO. There's nothing wrong with an occasional, discrete compliment, but not the way he went on.

Answer 35

apple24 | 5.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I wouldn't unless we both agreed it was okay!

Answer 36

DamnCurtis | 540 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Yes. Because she knows I'm just teasing her.

Answer 37

Ihav2fart

Master

Never... thats disrespectful as fuck!

Answer 38

ben1236921

Xper 3

depend if my girlfriend is really!!! hot

Answer 39

SuccessfulOVO

Xper 6

I'd be upset too. That's disrespectful.

Answer 40

Humping_Tornadoes

Explorer

Umm... fuck no?

Answer 41

Iron_Man | 11.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Only if I know her

Answer 42

Anonymous

I would straight up slap my boyfriend right there

admles

+1 y
and then complain when he slapped you back?
Complicated-Soul

+1 y
Lol, :p I don't know this made me laugh. :D
Not in a rude way. :)

Answer 43

admles

and then complain when he slapped you back?

Answer 44

Complicated-Soul

Lol, :p I don't know this made me laugh. :D
Not in a rude way. :)

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