If you sent the last text, should you initiate the next time?

Anonymous
Ok, I don't like mind games, but I do get what people mean when they say that the person who sends the last text in a way gives the power to the other person. Personally I think it's more that you make the other person feel good and wanted. It then makes it easier for them to initiate.

Sometimes tho, owing to time difference, or one person being at a party, or work or whatever, you get a situation like this right? This is for someone who Initiates just like you. Both of you initiate after the other person was last to text?

So if you text a woman and she responds, then you text again to her slightly inviting, but tbh ambiguous response, then the convo ends as when you look at your message it also looks ambiguous and possibly final, even if you hinted at a question..

Now you have ended up being the last person to text right?

So can you initiate the next text or even buzz her have a good day? Cos it seems like a double, if not triple text?

Say the messages are like:
Me
Me
Her
Her
then instead of leaving, cos you're nervous and like her you reply so:
Me
Me

Can you just not initiate again? Feel hopeless now...

I mean this is someone I like, yes maybe a little crush, but she is a great friend. A person I value. I think she was probs partying. In terms of Initiation, this girl does initiate too. Thought mostly through the texting history, THE PERSON WHO WAS THE RECEIVER OF THE LAST TEXT ENDS UP BEING THE INITIATOR.

One time, she initiated despite being the last person to text me? So that felt great from my perspective, but the messages were more like:
Me
Her
Me
Her
Her
Me
Me
Her

and then after some time, Her again initiating?

Thoughts? This is with read receipts by the way.

Also if it's a girl who is flaky, how would you text differently? E. g. if a different girl doesn't text for days or only responds at holidays?
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@Lumos, you had a great take. Any thoughts on this?
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