Should I unfriend the girl that rejected me?

[ice_cat]

Pretty simple story. Some girl essentially led me on (she admitted that she did) and then rejected me. I like her as a friend and I tried to be a good friend, but she's just pissing me off now. Should I unfriend her (on Facebook and in general). My answer is, yes, I should, but I want to know what happened when other guys did this.

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Yes

No

[Flash123]

The girl i was with 2 months ago did the exact same thing to me. We fucked and went out on dates but she always told me that she didn't want a relationship. Then one night she told me that she loved me and i was stupid enough to believe her. Well anyway, 2 months ago she texted me saying that she wanted to be her own person and basically rejected me. The first thing i did was delete everything that had to do with her and i regretted it so badly. and here's why, right now your going through a withdraw phase, soon your going to be asking yourself "why you dint do this and that?" and your going to miss her. And when you do that she's going to be out, fucking other dudes and there's nothing you can do about it. instead just don't text her, don't call her, don't like instagram pics. basically use the no contact rule. But don't tell her that your mad at her or anything just tell her that you understand and although you don't agree with it that you respect her choice and then walk away. Science says that In about a month she'll text you.

[ice_cat]

Thanks for your answer Flash. That phase is long over. We are part of the same club and we're forced to interact once a week. I don't usually text her for any reason unless we're organizing something with the club. She is doing stuff in these weekly events that is really starting to get on my nerves.

[Flash123]

Right, how long you guys been apart?

[Flash123]

and what stuff is she doing?

[ice_cat]

Well we had the weekly meeting yesterday. But the "rejection" happened a month or more ago.

[Flash123]

what stuff was she doing tho?

[ice_cat]

It's pretty subtle, it would take a lot of context to describe. Basically she just makes small passive aggressive reminders (usually when I'm just minding my own business) that we're "just friends" and I don't know, I'm just getting annoyed at having her around.

[Flash123]

You gotta fake it till you make it bro. Act like you don't GAF. Dont talk to her, even at the meetings. whatever the meetings about only talk about that. and thats a stretch. if there are other girls at the meeting, go talk to them, break out the charm. Even on ugly girls. Lol because then she ask's herself wow, he choose to talk to her then me. and if she's starts doing some petty shit and you'll know what I'm talking about when it happens. then that means that she still likes you.

[ice_cat]

I get what you're saying, unfortunately I've been there and done that. I've even dated a few girls since the time she rejected me. At this point putting up that facade (mainly for her sake) isn't worth it emotionally and the whole situation is just frustrating me.

[Flash123]

Then fuck it. Delete that How

[Flash123]

Hoeee

[cth96190]

I would say no, because it would be interesting to watch in silence as her life derails and becomes a train wreck.
Karma is a bitch and people bring it upon themselves.
The small number of females who went out of their way to do me psychological and emotional harm, have all come to grief as a result of their own actions.
To quote the Chinese general and philosopher Sun Tzu (496BC): “If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by.”

[btbc92]

She led you on purposely, and this is effecting you and your conscious. It's best that you do drop her and move on. Nobody should do that to you, unless it was by accident or a misunderstanding. But this is why you need to be honest, and she wasn't being honest with herself until the last minute. In the end you still got hurt. I personally say yes, but it's entirely up to you. I can't make you do things you don't want to do.

[Kastinis]

I think nothing particularly will happen when you'll unfriend her. Simply she may have some thoughts only, like you must be angry or hate her now, that you no longer want her on your social websites, that would be the most logical case in my opinion (but I can't get into her head and predict hers actions, actually).

[FlutteringFeelings]

Yes is the answer but how would that prevent you from wanting to know what she's up to. Should probably talk to her about why she chose to act that way towards you.

[desidoll]

No don't do it. It shows that you're trying hard to get over her.

[ice_cat]

You honestly can't win with girls can you? You accept friendship and they think you're a soft loser. You stop talking to them and they think you're trying hard to get over them. Honestly girls, what do you want?

[desidoll]

No one is winning here. It doesn't mean she wins the game just because she rejected you. You stop talking to her doesn't show that you're trying hard to get over her but unfriending her does show that you're hurt. Take it calmly and I'm sure she'll respect you more after the rejection. She wouldn't think you're chasing after her. BUT if it really hurts you to the maximum to the point that you can't handle it anymore, then just do whatever makes you feel better :/

[desidoll]

Thanks for the MOB 😊

[desidoll]

Damn MHO*

[jdoe80]

why should he care if she respects him more or at all? the only reason one would stay friends over fb is they are actually friends and he wants her in his life as a friend

[Smoogles]

@jdoe80 half the time WOMEN don't even know what they want, they are the WORSE people to take advice from, because they don't even know whats going on in their own mind.

[JudgmentDay]

She was never really your "friend" to begin with. So it's time to clean up that friends list and unfriend her and anybody else that had been lying to you and played you for a fool before.

[Darkone1]

Time to show your attitude and behave like, She is nothing and you are ok with rejection.

[ice_cat]

This seems internally contradictory. Why would I have even shown interest if she was nothing? She already knows that I like her and she's just playing off that now.

[Darkone1]

"It is what it is", if you showed weakness now, t will hurt you in future. Behave like you are ok with rejection otherwise continue to be played.

[Cosytoasty]

You do what you need to do to feel better. No contact works well if you can't accept friendship status.

[BullMush]

No you shouldn't. Use that to show her how happy you are without her and that her rejection didn't really affect you.

[ice_cat]

It is affecting me. She's pissing me off and I don't want to see her anymore.

[BullMush]

Well would you like her to know? That would just boost up her ego...

[ice_cat]

It's a lose lose for me. Either I get upset because she annoys me. Or I get upset because her ego is boosted. Can't really win here.

[BullMush]

I think yuou should learn how to ignore her. I am friends with my ex-best friend who cheated on her boyfriend with my boyfriend. '_'
If I can do it so can you!

[ice_cat]

I can't completely ignore her without making a strong point. We're forced to interact on a weekly basis and ignoring her would be extremely obvious and awkward.

[BullMush]

ohhh okay I get it.
Then don't be too mean. I mean you don't want to seem like a jerk.

[onthelist]

who gives a shit about Facebook? LOL..

[ice_cat]

The question wasn't only talking about Facebook, but among my age group at least, people still seem to care about Facebook...

[onthelist]

u care about everything everyone else cares about?

[ice_cat]

I appreciate your vehement (albeit slightly naïve) individualism, however, it isn't necessarily a bad thing to care about what other people think. It's called being social and being connected to other people and it's an important part of being grounded.

I will say that Facebook is not a necessary component in that connection, but for many people it's important.

[MJas16]

Yeah that's messed up.

[cinderelli]

If it makes you feel better then do it

[jwhit]

Yep, give her the scissors.

[SarahsSummer]

I said yes.

[Waffles23]

Yeah.