First i want to say my girlfriend is not fat. She did gain some weight, but not like a muffin top or anything like that. 3 days ago i said "you packed some pounds", i'm a joking type of guy so she thought i was joking but i told her that she gained some weight in all seriousness. I told her it's not a big deal but just letting her know. Then all of a sudden she got emotional and to my surprise she was saying how fat she was and if i still loved her and just dumb things like that. Of course i told her i loved her, and told her that is not fat but she gained some weight. The past 2 days she has not been the same, she doesn't really want to hangout with me and earlier today we went to go eat out and she said she didn't want anything, I thought she was kidding but she literally took nothing. I told her to just forget about what i said. I know the food she liked, so i ordered it for her but she still did not eat.
Was what i said bad? I want her to eat and not starve herself. When i told her if she's eating proper meals she said "it's none of you business". I never knew she was that sensitive. Again she is not fat but just gained some weight. What can i do?
Most Helpful Girl
Um, no its not wrong for you to tell her that. That is just her being sensitive as most women are when it concerns about her body. She is sensitive because she wants to look good to only please you. That is the sole purpose of why many women becomes emotional about their looks. Because if your not attracted to her then your bound to stray. I'm not you would personally, but that is often the case with many men who no longer feel sexually attracted to their partners and wives.
Overall just tell her that your sorry and you won't comment on her weight again. Just don't say anything unless it warrants for serious medical attention. And if she asked you about how she look, just tell her that you won't answer if she is going to freak out about your honest. I just say this. If the person can't handle the truth and brutal honesty, then they shouldn't ask. You didn't know, so don't beat yourself up too much. Just forgive yourself and move on after you apologize. Now if she just complains after you apologize to her, now she is just being very unreasonable and you should just ignore her for being childish. Again, not saying that she is. I said IF she complains after you apology. Then don't stress it anymore.1
Most Helpful Guy
"To your surprise"? Really? It's sad how oblivious some people are. The only thing you should do is apologize to her and drop the subject. If her putting on a few pounds is a big fucking deal to you break up with her and let her be with someone less judgmental than you.7
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