I've seen so much hate lately especially by people who have no idea what the arrangement is.
Coming from a long term sugar baby let me tell you a few things:
-I've almost finished my degree with the financial and intellectual support from my SD
-I'm a virgin! Omg i know weird right? Not really don't get mistaken although some girls enjoy sex with their SD some of us aren't up for that
-The support system from other SBs is great. I've made long lasting friendships
-I've been to 5 different countries before turning 20
-I've learnt how a man should treat you and no I don't mean with money but with respect, kindness and understanding
And of course I've learnt not to judge anyone's choices if they are not harming anyone! :) x
Most Helpful Guy
Your story is clearly bullshit, you're basically saying that you found a guy who paid for your whole college, multiple trips to other countries and gave you a good relationship and you never even had to have sex with him? Unless you are attractive enough to be a model, which you obviously aren't, then your story is faker than Kim Kardashians ass.
But let me still explain why I this sugarbaby bullshit is gross.
- It is prostitution, you are selling your body in exchange of money/gifts/etc. Just because they take you on a date before hand doesn't change that. The real difference is that whores generally make more money.
- Relationships should not be about money. They should be about your connection, your feelings, sharing things with each other because you truly like and enjoy each others company. These sugar relationships are based on them giving you money and you being eye candy for them/doing sexual things for them and it is just disgusting that someone would mix those things in my opinion.
- It shows what kind of a personality you have, most people have no problem working for their money. Most people get working experience, make connections and build on their future like that. But if your first choice is to be a sugarbaby that just shows that you have no ambition, no work ethic and no morals, it shows that you just want to take the easy way out no matter how morally questionable it is.
And lastly I gotta comment on a certain thing you said:
"I've learnt how a man should treat you and no I don't mean with money but with respect, kindness and understanding "
Are you fucking kidding me? Those relationships are completely based on him giving you money and you being attractive for him, if you take one of those things away then the relationship would not even exist. But you talk about "respect, kindness and understanding" You can romanticize this glorified prostitution all you want, but it honestly makes me sick that you would actually compare it to a real relationship. If you get your relationship values from an arrangement that is based on them paying for your company, then don't be surprised when no decent guy wants absolutely nothing to do with you.
And I just wanna say that everyone is free to make their own decisions, if they want to be a sugarbaby or just a straight up prostitute then that's their choice to make. But I would absolutely never get involved with a person like that.10
Most Helpful Girl
I personally think people can do what they want, but in my mind, I was raised to take care of myself and to be totally dependent on my own wit, and more importantly, my own money. Somehow, to me, selling your body/company to a man just comes across as... well, wrong, if I'm honest.
I don't think women should take advantage of the fact that there are men out there who will pay their way just because they're women, and that they should find their own means to be completely independent. What if one day your SD goes from being okay with not having any sexual relations to expecting it? And you refusing cuts off those funds that you depend on to pay your rent and tuition? It pays more to be self reliant in my opinion since not every SD/SB relationship is guaranteed to run like clockwork.
Ultimately, people can do what they want, but the concept to me is off-putting.1
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