Stand on your convictions and get to know any girl you date. I was in a rebound relationship when I was 24 (already graduated college and so had he) that we both had different views on abortion...meaning he would want one and I was convicted that if I got preg I would not be able to have an abortion (my best friend had one and she is still not the same at age 35). Well, 6 mos in while I was on the pill I got preg and he abondoned our daughter for her first 7 yrs. of life (he's an officer in the Army National Guard so when the war started I found him, he got lost again and then I met a PI who found him). It has been one of the most life changing experiences in my life, she is now 10 years old and is not the most confident little girl, all because her dad was a jerk and she knows the bond that she misses may never come to be. My point is it is HARD to make any choice in that situation and many women would not be strong enough to be in my shoes...nor would they want to be, so do not judge those who have a pro choice opinion but let the women you date know when you get to the next level how you feel and that this is a deal breaker. Keep safe and protect yourself from this, everyone please do, because it is never pretty.
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Seeing as I'm 21 and completely against abortion, I'm sure there must be some other girls out there who feel the same way as I do about it.
In my opinion the best thing to do is to make your views on such issues clear early in a relationship because it's really important that both you and your future wife have the same values. Even if you get through the dating stage of a relationship without conflicting views of abortion being a problem...as in you don't get her pregnant before you're married - there's always the possibility that in the future if you marry her, she gets pregnant at a time she feels is inconvenient, you may have no say in whether your child lives or dies.
Always best to make sure your views on such issues are the same.
i think it could be easier if you live in a conservative area, small town, or the bible belt
i wouldn't have an abortion but I am not pro life. I think other women should be able to have the choice of what to do with their body and whether they carry a child or not. I wouldn't feel comfortable basically killing *my* child but that's just me. I would probably have an abortion of I got raped or there would be something wrong with the child...
i think its good to be with someone who has similar values to u, but just because someone does believe in abortion doesn't mean they would abort ur child while ur married
just get to know the girl beyond a surface level and really get to know what she is about and u'll know
'I just kinda would never want to have a relationship (especially sexual) with someone who would be comfortable having an abortion'
Many women whom are pro choice would not have an abortion themselves they simply support the decision of other women to get one. You're weeding out more women than you need to be in the first place.
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Pro-choice, does not mean pro-death. Get to know the girl. Just because she supports another woman's right to choose does not mean that she would make the decision for herself. I believe that when you're involved in a sexual relationship, that you should discuss your course of action if pregnancy were to occur. Being pro-life or pro choice is not different than choosing a political party or a favorite sports team. It's a personality trait. and you shouldn't dismiss a girl before you get to know her based on assumptions.
If you're not going to have sex with her then does it really matter? Personally I wouldn't date a guy who thought that I shouldn't have the right to control my own body.
I know a lot of girls who are totally pro-life. I think there are circumstances to consider. Like, could you marry a girl who believes in abortion solely for rape victims? Or just for mothers who would die in childbirth without saving the child? Those are the only two really circumstantial situations where I feel things get really iffy... I think there are just a lot of considerations.
i'm pro-life for personal reasons and all my friends are pro-life so let me tell you there are a lot of girls who are extremely against abortion
i know plenty of guys and girls that are pro-life, actually I would say 90% of the people I meet are. ironically enough quite a high percentage of them also are/were teenaged mothers/fathers.
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