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Should men put in more effort into dating and relationships than women? (Page 2)
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Honestly? No. It should be equal.
" if he treats you like a queen, treat him like a king".
No, no one should put more effort into it. It's a give and take, but if you're taking more then you're giving, there is no more balance.
By all definitions if one does all the work, it means they're being used.
Both should, why should men do it more? If as a man i put more effort and she does nothing what should i do? buy her a catapult? if she doesn't show effort at all or very small effort then why should i do more?
Yes and no. The feelings should be mutual. A guy could be being Mr. Nice guy and putting his feelings into a female but she may not feel the same way back towards him.
i don't really think there is a hard and fast rule. both men and women who want to be in relationships should probably put equal effort into finding and sustaining relationships as the reward for both is equal
No, men and women should both put in equal effort to the relationship; 100 percent, if either one gives less, then that person should not be in a relationship that is based upon mutuality and compassion.
Ah yes the woman should just sit back and offer nothing to the relationship but her emotions, body, and bitchiness
You shouldn't even be thinking about who's putting in more effort. Both parties should just put in everything they can. When you focus purely on what you're giving rather than what you're getting, you're guaranteed to be happier.
It's too early in the day to be triggered... I'm just gonna sit back, drink my coffee and keep smiling
in the land i wish i lived in it would be 50/50 all these girls are saying it should be equal but it definitely is not. it's 90% up to the guy to put the work in all the girl has to do Is dress up and look pretty sounds mean but it's true.
That right there tells me your a Young man who has a lot to learn about women! And the ones your chasing our Girls, not women!!
@britters85 so why is the man always expect to initiate damn near everything if it's "50/50" in short the guy approaches the girl asks for her # calls her asks her out on a date picks her up pays for dinner and goes for the first kiss other than looking pretty for the date what else did she do? I know it's not always like that but the vast majority of the time it is
@that1tallguy I don't know why girls do what they do, because they're girls, they need experience and time. I'm very initiative but I'm also 12 years older then the girls your dating. Relationships take work and they should absolutely be 50/50 and if they aren't I belive thus comes down to parenting how much responsibility your parents Gabe you growing up, for example if your mom cleaned your room till you moved out and that included doing your laundry and making your food, then your 10 times more likely looking for a woman that will take care of you. Time that's all I can say or if your really mature them pursue older women.
your jumping to too many conclusion who said I need my parents to take care of me? I been more of an man then most people I know since age 15! my mom is disabled so I was the one to clean the house the the laundry and make dinner. got a job as soon as I was legally able to chipped in what I could. fresh out of high school worked 60 hours a week making 3 times more than about 80% of people my age now I'm the one to pay the bills.
and who said a date women my own age all the girls i pursue or have dated are older then me. I agree I good happy relationship is 50/50 but I was talking about dating before the relationship phase it's diffrent. If your not like that your 1 of the few and that's great but most people aren't like that "age does not define maturity" I know this shit by experience
Holy christ I meant men in general, not saying your one of them. And for the women your dating I'm just guessing they're younger because you are and if you are dating an older woman then she's very immature. Wasn't trying to be rude. Just giving my opinion, and what I've experienced with relationships. Anyway I'm other going to argue with you.
Most women just sit there and wait for us... what else would u like us to do
Nope. A relationship should be an equal taking/giving. Nobody should habe to put more effort into it than their partner!
This. While what is given might differ since people are different and so are men and women - the amount should be equal.
@FakeName123 that's true as well.
No it should be equal. Your both choosing each other so why not?
I actually put more effort in than a guy.
Why should it be just men that put in more effort? It should be mutual. Good relationships are when two people are working hard together to make it work.
They already do darling, i think we should cut them some slack.
Yes, especially in the beginning, usually ME as a woman i would expect a man to put more effort than me, and I will do the second step ;) and confirm that paying effort has paid out and NOW you have more chances to be my boo boo :)
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"and confirm that paying effort has paid out"... what do you mean by that?
That just sound like an incentive for women to serial date to get free meals and gifts and an incentive for more guys to give up on dating women because it's more work with no more reward.
You are literally a prostitute by definition. :D
@SneakySnickerdoodle😂😂😂😂
Listen lady, I don't know what makes u think your shit don't stink, but with that kind of self entitled "power of the pussy" mentality you'll be dating beta fuck boys for the rest of your life.
Opinion owner. Only in bed , like always !!
No. I feel as if it should be an even 50/50 split where both parties are putting in the same amount of effort. Once someone starts putting in more effort than the other person, they'll start to feel like as if the other person cares less than they do.
Naturally, girls are much easier to develop feelings and to become attached to a guy. It is easier for guys (or they make it seem this way) to move on from one girl to another and to expect girls to go out of their way for them.
So in that regard, I would say that it's important for a guy to show that he is interested by doing things such as, texting her first, asking to go out, willing to go out of his way etc.
its 2017
I've put loads of effort only to be dropped off for the next leather jacket wearing HS dropout.
So, no. Effort is relatively meaningless in the grand scheme of it, it either works or it doesn't, and everyone's different. So are their relationships.
Men already put in all the effort. If they put in anymore women wouldn't even have to think, not that they do that anyway.