So I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and I definitely love him. But we recently were talking about if I accidentally got pregnant (highly unlikely, I use condoms and the pill, but it's still not impossible). I found out that he is 100% pro life and would absolutely not accept me getting an abortion.
I myself am 100% pro choice (and being Canadian, I'm completely supported/entitled to that choice). I am a very hard working, career oriented girl and I would absolutely not have the time or ability to add a child into the mix and would never risk the career I'm working towards. I would absolutely not accept carrying a child. Add into that the fact that I'm not super maternal and may actually never want kids, ever.
I love my boyfriend and I know it's a slim chance I'd ever get pregnant, but there is still that chance... so I'm wondering if it would be best to break up now? I don't want to, but im not sure what would be best. Especially considering the fact that I may choose to never have children and I now know he clearly wants them.
Please dont try to sway me on my pro choice beliefs, my opinion on that is unmoveable. But opinions on how to go forward in this relationship welcome!! Thank you 😊
Most Helpful Guy
What he thinks is of no importance. You are the one making the decision over your body. He doesn't have a word to say, which is exactly how it should be. Just make sure he is aware of your beliefs and understands how it's going to be if you become pregnant. It's unfair not to tell him now since he might want to have kids one day and he might be unknowingly wasting his time with you. Otherwise, you don't necessarily have to leave him if you don't want to as long as everybody is fully aware of the situation.4
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Most Helpful Girl
If you don't agree on fundamental things like that when you are discussing children, then it's important you discuss the issue thoroughly and if you can't agree on how to handle a situation like that, then obviously it's time to be brutally honest about whether you're in the right relationship. If you get pregnant and you want to exercise your right to choose but he hates you for it which then makes you resentful and evidently the same argument comes up, why wait until then? Do the mature thing and resolve the issue now.2