When I come over, I find myself just sitting with him while he does his recording stuff. Like he'll invite me over to have me watch him record. He's completely engrossed in it, doesn't want to talk. He's not socially awkward. He has great social skills & he's an extremely handsome, popular guy. Just lazer-focused when he works. We end the night with one kiss.
I have a very full, rich life outside of this relationship and I feel I am always sharing what I did (deep-sea fishing, camping.) but he never joins, and just says "oh cool!". He does ask about my day. But he never joins. He really is busy and works very hard. He will work 12 hours a day.
This guy is so busy that he will go on vacations and do his music work on the road. He's forgotten to text back a lot or forgotten dates, and apologizes profusely. Always says we will make it up, but we never do. He feels that going to dinner once a month is enough for us.
I know this sounds bad, but I feel like he needs a girl who fully "appreciates" him. I am not one to do this, I'm very strong & know myself. Feel like he doesn't know me.
I want to be affectionate with him, but he is so distracted every day. When we finally get together & have quiet time, it's awkward bc it's been so long between each instance of intimacy.
Is it worth dating a guy like this? I want to be with him & he was perfect in my mind, but the reality of this is insane. I feel myself slipping from him a lot.
He shouldn't be in a relationship. My life isn't as busy, but I know myself well enough to know I don't have the time to be in one... so I'm not. Why is he?
You are wasting your time with this one. Talking will not change a thing. Why is he even 'dating' at all? Maybe he doesn't know himself enough. You are not dating, you are barely even friends... what ever this was, is over already. If you try to break up, he will try to change your mind. He might even change for a while... but it will always go back to being the same. You need to ask yourself why you are still with him.
Thank you so much. This is his first relationship. I warned him at beginning that it’s important to know each other before starting something, but he insisted it was fine. I completely agree, and maybe he doesn’t know what to do. I appreciate this answer and will certainly take this advice. I appreciate your help.