Is it racist to only date within your own race?

Question

For example if I only wanted to date white guys does that make me a racist?

Tdieseler · Accepted Answer

Nah... its what you are attracted to. Now, feeling attracted to someone of a different ethnicity but refusing to make a move or date them SOLELY because of their race... see now... THATS racist, and makes you a moron at the same time... i apologize... and even Bigger moron.

Lemme explain... I've always told people that love can come from literally any fuckin where. So you narrowing your preference pool down to just one race/type/status/profession etc... thats your fuckin business.

You know... failed relationship after failed relationship but you still cling on to that stupid preference and all that, meanwhile, there is someone right outside of that preference pool that would be the Perfect match for you but because you are tunnel visioned.. got on those damn flea collar thing they put on dogs, around your neck... you can't see em.

You dont wanna date outside your race... perfectly fine.. personal choice. At least you know when shit blows up or doesn't, we can safely say you are to blame.
@rushthesand weren't we just talking about this?

MazeOfLove · Accepted Answer

If someone only wants to date within their own race, it COULD be racist. But it would only be racist if the reasons fit the definition of racist. Being a racist requires that someone show prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior. So, if I only dated white women because I believed they were the superior race, that would be me racist. But, if I only dated white women because I was not attracted to black women, that would not make me a racist. We like what we like and we cannot invent chemistry. I've done relationship coaching for 10+ years and these are realities. No different from someone saying they are not attracted to short men or obese women.

Personally, I have dated all races but that is me.

vishna · Accepted Answer

I see it as weird. Why isolate yourself from all the fine people of the world? All those fine fine human beings, my sexual desire doesn't stop just because someone isn't the same as me. And it's not like I'm from some different world with customs so strict and different, I can't share a life with someone who was raised in a different type of upbringing. Plus, my mama always embraced the fineness of men from different ethnicities, so, I grew up embracing it too. "mom fawns over the rock... mom fawns over Vin Diesal... mom fawns over everyone XD"
Disclaimer: some cultural differences are too much esp. if our ideas on gender roles are different ex) he expects me to not have a job but he's can't get a good job, so we're just struggling, lookin dusty and sad and he's stressed and I'm like, dude, let me work

shan_shan · Accepted Answer

your question has 2 answers and that is yes and no regardless either your are black or white.. and all this depend on what you feel and act coz some people have white or black friends and they get along very well and are very close but its just that they feel attracted to white than black (or black than white) and one day they meet someone of different race and like them they won't hesitant to go out with them (coz they are not racist its just their preference and liking) but some people (the racist ones) they tend not to get involve with other race even socially (sometimes they force themselve) but the mere thought of them they feel disgust like what me and them no way (RACIST)
i hope this answer your question and you will know which category you are😥(did i make sense coz am sleepy😴)

Hidden_P · Accepted Answer

No.

I personally prefer the features of white men overall but I do find black men and women beautiful too. My sister in law is black and she is stunning.

It's not racist to have a preference.

I'm auntie to 2 beautiful mixed race children. I've found the whole process of mixed race children eye opening.
When a mixed race child is born some have a pigment pocket on their back/bottom instead of it already spread. It looks like a nasty bruise. As they age the pocket breaks down. I've watched my two nieces go from white to coloured during their life. It's very interesting!

But your question, black people and white people have very different looks. There is nothing wrong with having a preference.

CluelessJ · Accepted Answer

no, its not racist unless you think that whites are the superior race and that you choose them as they are better than any other race and that they are inferior and must be dominated (or something along those lines, I looked up the definition of racism). So, no, your not racist, you just have a preference, like how some people like black haired, tall guys, or chubby red heads, or blonde guys with blue eyes or brunettes with brown eyes, etc. Its who you prefer to date, doesn't make you racist, its just what you define as attractive to you. Hope this helps :)

Scooby225 · Answer

Tell me how this sounds.
1. You're a very awesome, amazing person and i really like you. But i dont want to date you. Dont worry there's nothing bad about your you're perfect it just that you're not white so it a deal breaker. If you were white than i would've love to be in a relationship with you.

2. You're a very awesome, amazing person and i really like you. But i dont want to date you. Dont worry there's nothing bad about your you're perfect it just that you're not black so it a deal breaker. If you were black than i would've love to be in a relationship with you.

3. You're a very awesome, amazing person and i really like you. But i dont want to date you. Dont worry there's nothing bad about your you're perfect it just that you're not Hispanic so it a deal breaker. If you were Hispanic than i would've love to be in a relationship with you.

4. You're a very awesome, amazing person and i really like you. But i dont want to date you. Dont worry there's nothing bad about your you're perfect it just that you're not Asian so it a deal breaker. If you were Asian than i would've love to be in a relationship with you.

5. You're a very awesome, amazing person and i really like you. But i dont want to date you. Dont worry there's nothing bad about your you're perfect it just that you're not arab so it a deal breaker. If you were arab than i would've love to be in a relationship with you.

Now tell me does that sound racist or not?

TheFlak38 · Answer

For some people it is.
Here we have a poster warning that they will not tolerate White people dating withi their own race and we know what kind of people post these posters.
And of course no media outrage and condemnation anywhere, no reaction from any anti racist group. It further shows that White people are targeted for demographic genocide and are the only people you can legally discriminate with a whole legal system to back you up.
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Prof_Don · Answer

I'm a black dude, and I voted G.

Whether this is racist or not, TOTALLY depends on the reason why said person only dates within their race.

This would be racist if said person found people of another race appealing in terms of looks, culture, personality, interests, etc... but still turned down that person.

ALA, if said person WOULD have dated that person if he/she was not of a different race, that is racist. Because that means that said person likes this potential partner, but race alone was the deterrent, seeing that in terms of attraction, personality, culture, interests, etc., it was a match.

spoonman2014 · Answer

I think to a point, we can't choose our skin color and to have that be a deciding factor in wanting to be with someone seems kinda rude. I think I feel this way because I have seen families of all types, where someone is dating within their race and that person sucks on all levels but the family tolerates it. But then they date someone outside their race who is better and then all the sudden all the racist words come flying out their mouths.
So for that reason, I feel that way. So you have to ask yourself, would it be better for you or someone to date someone within their race who is terrible on all levels or for them to date outside their race and is better? And why do you feel way?

skype1000 · Answer

Some people get offended by it easily. One girl wanted to try to hook me with some of her friends. Because some of her friends were black and I didn't want her to think I was a racist, I said I only into dating my own race, when I date all races except black. The truth was I just didn't find black girls attractive. I can't help who i find attractive.

madhatters4 · Answer

voted not sure as it depends on your reasons for only dating within your race. if it's simply that you have a preference then it's not racism. if you think that a certain race is superior or inferior based on a generalized belief that certain races possess certain characteristics or traits then that would be racism playing a part in your decision

nevermoregirl7 · Answer

I've messed around with majority of the rainbow. I personally don't care for my own race. I have a preference for white or black. This doesn't make me self-racist. Honestly, you like what you like. And to some, it's as simple as a cultural comfort thing.

CurlyBookWriter · Answer

My mom did not have any support from her family cuz they found out that i was mixed. she had raised me by herself (My birth father not in the picture) and she went into the army. The last guy that she had dated was a black male and my current step-father is black. i see no problem dating someone outside your race. though it did suck that my moms family didn't support her at the time i was born (94) so i dont have any problems cuz hey, i am white and black lol. And i dont see color. i see the personality

natured · Answer

I don't think it's racist if you just happen to date your own race, nothing wrong with it, as long as somebody does not OFFICIALLY OFFEND people in public and call them racist names being LITERALLY a racist, it's NOT..
Everyone is free to date whoever they want to whatever color they want to. :)

blunttalker · Answer

it actually depends on the reason , if it's because you think it's a inferior race , then yes it's racist , if it's because you are more attracted to white people then it's not. I'm white and I'm more attracted to white people, in my country there is only 10% of black population , maybe that influences me , but I could date a black man of course I don't mind

Pyrofox · Answer

Its not racist its more a preference. Its racist if its done out of spite of discrimination but if its done cause it feels right and its not to just put down the other races. I dont see an issue so long as your clear its not to be discriminate against the other races. Or an elitestic reasoning.

ksoma · Answer

I despise this question, because I despise the idea that someone else has the right to instill in someone else the fear that they might be bigots for having personal preference, when it comes to what they are attracted to.

It is in no way racist, but everyone who would tell you it is racist is a bigot of the highest order.

VictoriousSausage · Answer

You're confusing preference with race, love is non-discriminatory, doesn't matter who you love, how you like to be loved, there's ways of classifying it, but that doesn't affect who you love. on the same note though, that doesn't excuse discriminatory acts in every day life, we're all people, there's literally no difference, doesn't matter where you're from.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

So you're attracted to a guy of another race and you don't give him a chance, I think so. If you just have a predisposition to check out guys of your own race you're actually limiting your lifestyle and it may cause resentment to the men of your own race. What if you meet a guy of your own race and your subtleties are made apparent to him? He may find that mentality repulsive especially if he has a relative or friends of another race

JustAnHonestGuy · Answer

I don't personally think so. There's nothing wrong with having a preference, i prefer to be with white and hispanic girls because that's who I'm attracted to and they both happen to be the same races as i am. I don't exclude women of other races, honestly for all i know my soulmate is Asian or black, and if that turns out to be the case, then so be it. Personally, im just not attracted to those groups of people. It only becomes racism when you choose to hate those people because of your lack of attraction.

angelmarkley · Answer

It's absolutely not racist to only want to date within your own race. That's crazy. Life is all about preference and if that is what you prefer then it is fine. Some people do it because they are scared of what other people might think, but whatever your reason is, it's not racist unless you are racist and you just don't like other races.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

It is not racist. Just personal preference and being comfortable with one culture more than another. I was hanging out with an Asian gal much younger than me last year who thought the world of me. (It wasn't a dating situation.) She was looking for an Asian boyfriend and found one. I don't take it personal as we weren't dating anyway... LOL But Asian is her preference for a long term relationship for cultural reasons. No way would I call her a racist... LOL

marinajs · Answer

Its not racist unless you have a reason for it. (For example, you won't date mexicans because they're mean. That would be racism sort of because you're discriminating against an entire race because of one judgement) It is close minded though if you refuse to even think outside of your preferences. You should always be open and willing to try new kinds of people even if its not typically what you're attracted to.

AnaWryneck · Answer

I'm biracial and no it's not racist it's only racist if you're like "because other races are disgusting animals!" But I like black guys I've dated Latino African British American and Islander but they all had dark skin that's what I'm into be into what you're into

Eugene · Answer

What's up with the same retarded question on gag every other day? Answer: NO, regardless of what some autistic leftist has to screech on the matter.

TripleAce · Answer

Let's just say it can be but not necessarily
Preferences can be racist but racism can't be preferences... if that makes sense

Not dating your own race or only dating a certain race - Just raises eyebrows however you slice it

--> The question isn't whether it's racist or not... The question in this case becomes whether it is your 'right' to choose even though it can come across as discrimination --> The answer to that question is; that it's certainly your right

Anonymous · Answer

nowaday people get offended by almost everything !! o m g. it is called choice u hav a right to choose who you want to get laid n do all that stuff with. you can choose a white guy or a black or an Asian or an indian who bloody cares. just becus u get married to a white man nobody s gonna come n point you out n say, look she s racists she married a white guy.

Dargil · Answer

Racism is the belief in the inherent superiority of one "people group" such that one group has the right to control and even own members of another group. American over Negro slavery was the essence of racism. My wanting to date someone from my ethnicity and culture is not racism. It's a preference like preferring a BMW to a Mercedes. The words racism and racists are so over abused as to no longer have meaning. I freely date outside my race because I enjoy the differences.

Chico_brah · Answer

You're attracted to what you're attracted to. You can't control what you attracted to. It's not racist at all and I seriously laugh at people who say otherwise.

DaddiesLittleToy · Answer

Good lord I'm so fucking sick of this. NO it is not racist. Google the definition of racism. It's "Prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of another race on the basis of one race being superior to another" So NO it's not racist

Goethe · Answer

As a racist, I don't think that act constitutes racism at all. It's natural to want to maintain racial purity. Only in the last 40 or 50 years have cultural Marxists convinced the masses that mongrelizing their race is acceptable.

TheBootyChest · Answer

I feel like we all have our own preferences. Maybe it's cause of where we were brought up, or our internal wiring.

I feel it's only racist if you refuse to date anyone in another race for a specific reason.

CrystalChild · Answer

The only reason that'd be racist is if you didn't date other races because you thought you were better than them. Otherwise it's just a preference.

Ironlak282 · Answer

If you don't want to date a specific race you should really explore why that is. If you just find the features of that race less attractive than that's fine. It could however be because that race has been devalued in your society and you should reconsider.

Keesh · Answer

DEPENDS.. each race has different prominent features. If it's a preference of those features then no. but if you say I'm not gonna date you because of your race then yes.
Example: this girl said "I would date you because you're good looking and muscular but I don't date black guys" that's racist. (btw to her I said "no one asked you and I would date you too but you're unattractive and a b**")

EmoKate97 · Answer

I'm just going to throw this out there..

There are 2.5x more latinos then there are blacks, wouldn't it make a shit load more sense to make a latinos their own yes / no poll and put blacks in the other poll instead? Also its not racist.

originaluser · Answer

Yes. And it's sexist to only date women. It's ageist to not date grandmas. It's xenophobic to not date refugees

chefsam · Answer

You date who you wanna date. Doesn't matter what people say about it, you can't your heart to love certain races or religions. That's your preference on who you wanna date. The heart wants what the heart wants

littleheartbigbooty · Answer

Depends on the reason, if you don't date them cause it's just a preference, such as I don't want to date blonde guys, it's not racist. It's racist you don't want to date them cause you think you're better as a race and if you act racist.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

You can in no way be racist by avoiding or choosing to do certain things in dating in regards to race. You date based on preference and you can not be racist for having a preference. Whom you choose to date is no one's business but your's.

bree109 · Answer

If you think it is then you must be racist. It doesn't matter if you want to date just within your race or outside. It only becomes racists when you talk down on other ethnics the reasons you don't date them.

Anonymous · Answer

I am Asian and I would like to date black beauty or white blond chick. Now I am dating an Arab curved-figure girl. I like her brown boobs and I fuck her hard at nights. In a world of globalization, all we need is a soul caring for you. Race is irrelevant. Asians should date more boys or girls from other race.

mellifluous_girl · Answer

No, it's just a personal preference. You might only be atttacted to a certain type of person, and that handful you've dated with that certain characteristic just so happen to be white- but that doesn't make you racist.

MisterCake · Answer

It's an interesting thing to think about.

You're not allowed to refuse me a work position because I'm white. You may, however, refuse to make me your husband on those grounds.

One way to look at it is it's the only kind of racism that's okay.

IdkSomethingRandom · Answer

Not at all. I only date Hispanic women. Love em. Love the shit out of em. Not cuz I hate any other races.. I just like Hispanic women. Culture, general shared attitude and traits. lovely.

FatherJack · Answer

I am SICK of seeing / hearing " RACIST " everywhere & ONLY white people can be waycisst... dickheads & bigots come in ALL races , shapes & genders. It is nobody else's business , but your own on your personal preferences.

wankiam · Answer

depends on your reasons... if its some missplaced notion that interacial sex is a bad thing then yes its racist but if its just your sexual preference then it isn't

Rissyanne · Answer

No it isn't. People want to bully people into dating someone they dont want to. It is ridiculous. I think they do this just to make themselves feel good. They may have been rejected by another race.

tyber1 · Answer

It depends on the reason. If it's a lack of attraction, that's not racist. If it's just because they're not white, that's racist.

CalebJay18 · Answer

No, it's just what you prefer. If you were to say "I only date white people because they are superior to all races" then that would be racist.

Tron5678 · Answer

I don't know how to vote on the poll because I am half white and half Indian lol. It's is not racist to date only your race because it's preference and this preference comes due to cultural barrier. I date only Asians tho!

BreeJM · Answer

i dont think its racist, it's just what you prefer.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm one who believes its normal for one to be attracted to people of there own race , wouldn't it be weird if someone was not attracted to people of there own race and background? so why would it be racist to be attracted to someone of there own race

truthbeknown · Answer

No, you should be dating who you are attracted to. If a gay guy only wants to date another man instead of a women, does that make him sexist?

ManaX · Answer

Date whoever you want, I've been around the rainbow and it just so happens this guy is French white. Doesn't matter where he's from.

MaiNameIsSunshine · Answer

It depends. If someone has everything you want in a SO but their a different race then that's pretty screwed up.

ambertaylor · Answer

We all have individual ideas of what is attractive, who's to tell you otherwise what you should or shouldn't attract. I don't think it's racist.

reixun · Answer

Black and no it's not racist... as long as their reasons aren't racist

Jonathan23 · Answer

Everyone has their own personal choice I believe and their is nothing wrong with that. However if you had choices between two guys white or other and if the other is a better person and has similar core values as yours you should go for the other

Anna96 · Answer

Even your poll is racist. What does it matter of which race I am, when I'm answering the question? What is wrong with you?

qa12017 · Answer

No, just a preference. Just like I would never consider a women outside of my background because they're sluts. Does that mean i'm racist? No.

Anonymous · Answer

Usually when someone rights or refuse to date other races and cling to one race, it usually an underlining racist belief behind it. Of course people will hide behind preference though.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on whether or not you're rejecting other races because they're from that race. If you are then it's kinda racist, if you're willing to date other races then it's not.

Krista7 · Answer

I think it just goes along with personal preference. Now if you were saying you would never date someone outside your race ever then yeah that could be taken as racist.

bxchra · Answer

if you weren't racist you wouldn't even doubt dating any guy of any color

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