You're married and fly out of town on business. On your flight home the plane crashes over the ocean. Somehow you survive the wreckage and the plane just happened to crash near an island. You're the only survivor. You grab what you can take with you and swim out to the land, only to find a woman there who greets you curiously. She speaks English and tells you she was lost at sea for 2 years, before her boat went down to a storm. She drifted to this island and has been there ever since. There is no contact to the outside world.
You swim back to the plane several times every day to see if you can find any communications devices, but to no avail. Your situation seems inevitable so you give in and accept that you're stuck on the island and make the best of it. Crying yourself to sleep every night, while falling asleep to this woman you grow fonder every night that goes by. 2 more years go by and you fall in love with the woman. You bed her that same night, finally consummating the bond you have with her.
100% justified cheating in my opinion lol.
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No. If your cheating then its because you have refused to communicate, refused to talk about your issues, or refused to move on in every scenario its your fault you are not forced into a relationship you are not forced to keep silent you are not forced to have sex with some one else. It is a choice ergo there is no justification for betraying some one and hurting other just because you don't want to be proactive in your relationship instead choosing to let things deteriorate to the point where you decide cheating will get you what you want without you actually having to suffer the discomfort of confronting your partner or yourself with the issues you are having.
I wish I did cheated on my ex for everything making it like I was cheater when I wasn't plus he emotional cheated on me and told me after we got back together to get over it. But he always reminded me for no reason that if I cheated he would tell everyone I know my personal information. He was a complete jackass, and I wish I didn't take the high route so I could feel alittle better for doing shit since he put me through hell.
Never. Some people might say "They weren't giving me enough attention" "They were mean to me". Well if you can't first work through whatever issue that is making you feel like cheating than you should call it quits. Justifying cheating is just something people do to tell themselves it's ok.
Yes. Like if someone's in an abusive/nonconsensual relationship that they don't have the option of leaving. In relationships where the person can leave without issue, they absolutely should do that instead of cheating, but there are relationships where it just doesn't work that way.
No. There is never a good, or bad, reason to cheat. Have a problem or issue? Then talk it through. Cannot be resolved, then part before the cheating happens.
It will not resolve anything.
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I think it's justified if they cheated first. I am probably in the minority in thinking that, but I am an eye for an eye kinda person. I never liked that "two wrongs don't make a right" expression.
I could also see the argument being made in the cases where the person is trapped in a sexless marriage and doesn't want to leave due to a fear of not being able to see their kids and/or being financially ruined. Still, I think proposing an open marriage is better so you don't have to go behind their back. I also don't understand why their partner would even care. It seems kinda selfish to expect someone to be sexually exclusive to you when you rarely to never have sex with them. It's like "I have no interest in doing this activity with you, but I don't want anyone else to do it with you either".It depends on the individuals ofcourse. Some might be okay with it I am certainly not. I value honesty in a relationship a lot. If a partner feels like being sexual with another person he/she should talk to his/her partner about having an open relationship or at least getting a free pass for one time. A friend of mine recently went on a Europe trip with me. His wife had given him a free pass and told him he "can be a bachelor" on this trip. However he didn't fuck anyone during this trip because he just couldn't do it.
no i don't. perhaps unless someone is pointing a gun at your spouse or child's head saying if you don't have sex with someone your family will be killed... but in that case i imagine a spouse would say yeah go ahead and have sex...
to me there is hardly ever a realistic situation that arises where someone should compromise their morals and ethicsYes. When a partner, usually the wife let's be honest, stops having sex with the other and absolutely refuses any sort of counselling, therapy or discussion. The sort of woman who thinks a man can be weaned off sex if she just keeps saying no.
Women like this do exist. And they are absolutely the ones that cheating is justified on.
If divorce laws were more equitable (hey feminists, want to tackle that?) and a man wouldn't lose rights to his kids, I'd say divorce is better. Just divorce the selfish celibate bitch.
But since they aren't, cheat on the bitch. And feel zero guilt about it.I'm not sure if "justified" is the right word but "forgivable", perhaps.
As a blatant example, take a woman who is married to a husband who abuses her domestically. She's afraid to break up with him out of fear of further abuse.
If she ends up having affair with another man who makes her feel loved and treats her well, I can't exactly see her as the villain in this scenario.Its honestly just a despicable thing it really renders those who cheat who say they love you, worthless. I mean really its "Oh, I love you and one or more."
I mean yes you should give cheater who in the past has cheated a chance to fix their postiion. But with extreme caution.Yep. If your spouse is a dud and you're not ready to split, then sure. They call it branch swinging when the ladies do it.
About 70% or so marriages experience some kind of affair by one or the other or both.
Been on both sides of it. It's always ugly when it's found out. [shrug]Yes. Absolutely.
If there are kids involved, and one partner refuses to sexually satisfy the other for more than 2 months without a valid medical reason, then it's free game.Justified is a strong word.
But when people with kids decide to stop having any kind of sex with their partner, and their partner cheats, i'm sure as hell not condemning it.
Sorry, you don't unilaterally get to decide monogamy has become shared celibacy, use your kids as hostages and then be sad you got cheated on. If you didn't discuss and get agreement on a sexless marriage, why are you shocked they didn't discuss and get agreement on an open marriage?not really i dont though i dont thing being castrated by the girl when find out justified either lol but hey i never did that myself but i have to say it is wrong.
No,
Cheating and Violence are two things that I would not tolerate in a relationship, not even for a second, no no hell no I'd be gone and he would never see me again. I love myself too much to go through that.I know this sounds fucked up but I think army wives/husbands whose spouses lost their legs during battle or became paralyzed from the waist down deserve to have sex with other people if their spouse is not able to. And this doesn't just apply to army wives/husbands but anyone whose spouse suffered that kind of injury.
Never. Even if you are cheating just because they did you shouldn't stoop to their level just break up
I understand why some people cheat but I never agree with it. If you love the person your with then you should never want to hurt them.
The only scenario's where its justified to me would not do the definition of cheating justice. At those stages its just an open relationship.
It's always a very hurtful thing to do. Problem is life is very complicated and in some situations it can be the lesser of two evils. So yes I do unfortunately think their are situations which justify it.
I don't personally think so. If I hypothetically felt like cheating, either because I wasn't sexually satisfied, or emotionally or whatever you wanna call it, then I would rather just break up with the person then cheat.
Never. If someone is not satisfied with any part of their relationship then they should talk to their partner about it or leave
No, and you're a fool for staying with anyone if you ever catch them cheating by any means.
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