How to get over feeling undateable?

[caoimhemoore]

Every now and then I get really down about the fact that I've never dated. Not only that, but I've never kissed a guy and no guy has ever given me any sort of romantic attention. I'm certainly not some sort of perfect 10 catch, but I don't think I'm terribly unattractive and I try to be as friendly as possible. How can I get over this feeling and put myself out there to start dating? I know I'm still pretty young, but it just makes me feel awful that everyone else my age has dating experience and I have absolutely none.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

I think most people meet someone at the most unexpected place and at the least expected time. It may be that you aren't going to the right places to meet guys. I know a few extremely good-looking people with great personalities, but yet they find it difficult find a partner

Try to create new opportunities for yourself. That way you'll have a better chance of meeting more people. Try to have more self- belief. No one is a perfect 10 . Some of the most beautiful people look in the mirror and dislike themselves, and only see their own flaws. Change what you can and accept what you can't change. Not everyone you see with a partner is in a happy relationship. Use the time on your own to build your self- esteem and confidence , and when you do meet someone you'll know you are worthy of dating ❤

[TayTay21]

Just remember that you're not undatable. No matter what anyone says, you have tons to offer. And no guy is the final word, it's all just preference. Most guys think I'm sexy, but some wouldn't touch me with a 30-foot stick. It doesn't matter, though, because *I* think I'm gorgeous.

The other thing to remember is that so many guys are pussies about dating now. They'll do anything to avoid asking girls out. In fairness, lots of guys get told that it's creepy to lust after girls, when really it's just a normal thing. So just because you haven't been asked out doesn't mean there aren't guys who like you.

[AnonB17]

My advice to you would be to work on yourself instead of worrying about dating. Let things evolve naturally and in Gods time. Live your life and accept the pleasant surprises that come with it instead of waiting around just to be disappointed. I know it sounds cheesy but sometimes you have to remind yourself that good things come to those who wait. One day you're gonna just have to stop giving a fuck and start living.

[springocelot]

Just put yourself out there. If you already are, then work on your presence. Display open body language, flirty expressions, etc. Be joyful.

But whatever you do, don't give in to pressure. My dorm neighbor was also a never-been-kissed. She wanted it to so bad that she drunk kissed a guy at a party. Don't be that person.

[caoimhemoore]

How exactly should I put myself out there? I feel like a guy who genuinely wants to date and not just drunkenly hook up at a party is hard to find in college so I'm getting a little discouraged

[springocelot]

College has different scenes for everyone. It's not just parties. A lot of the long term couples I knew in college met each other through hobbies and clubs. A few were serendipitous--they met each other on the street. And one met her future husband doing study abroad her 2nd year.

[Chico_brah]

Are you going to university? If you're not, then you're fucking up. Literally surrounded by a ton of other people in your same situation around your age. Plus you're getting an education so there is always that.

[caoimhemoore]

Yes, I'm in my first year at university. I feel like there are so many people my age, but that doesn't help my situation because I've had people the same age around me at school my entire life.

[Chico_brah]

University is different. People are out of the house for the first time. They are going crazy freshman year lol. Do you go to parties?

[caoimhemoore]

I joined a sorority this semester so I usually go to one mixer or so on the weekends.

[Chico_brah]

It sounds like you have everything in place. Are you being picky?

[caoimhemoore]

No, I don't know how I could be picky when no one has ever seemed to be actually interested in me. Honestly, if any friendly guy asked me out, I'd say yes, at least to get practice in the dating world

[Chico_brah]

Are you open to starting conversations with guys or are you more shy?

[caoimhemoore]

I'm a little shy, but I've been working on being more outgoing since I've started college. I don't typically start conversations with random guys, but I can keep a conversation going

[Rahdle]

Been there! Yeah that feeling sucks. Just know that God made somebody for everybody and hasn't forgot about you. Keep your eyes open and put yourself out there a little more and it's just a matter of time

[lordpokerface]

Whenever I go through the feelings you described above, I take a pen and paper and list down some of the things that the opposite sex finds attractive in me (tenderness, charm, etc.) and then draw a vertical line and write one or two things that I need to work on to make myself more attractive.
Going through this process for about a year and a half changed me and my perspective entirely, and now I feel like I've shrugged off that feeling.

[Ferrett321]

I've never really dated either and i do occasionally feel down about it every now and then, but the thing that keeps me going is the anticipation of meeting a future girlfriend. The odds of dating soon are in your favour.

[reixun]

https://youtu.be/PQ1-RLEyGW8

this is easier than you think, lol.

[caoimhemoore]

Okayyy then, doesn't really answer the question

[reixun]

hold on, wrong clip lmao. The clip that I was intending was the main chick of this show going to a boy interrogating him on his finances, etc and then she was like "ok you're my boyfriend now"

You're not undesirable and if you need some romantic attention to show you that, then seek it. Try tinder dates if you feel you're not able to get into environments where that kind of stuff happens.

[Revinz]

Are you fat? If you are, you are already below 5 in most peoples eyes.

Find your flaws and fix them, ie. if you are fat start working out.

[BlondeBlueEyes84]

You never got any sort of romantic attention from men? You must live in a place without Black or Brown men. They cat-call, approach, hit on and ask out literally everything that moves.

[Pyrofox]

Well for starters just learn to smile more and just change your attitude to a more positive attitude.

[SarahsSummer]

Find someone you're attracted to and start talking to him.

[caoimhemoore]

I have no trouble talking to guys and I have plenty of guy friends, I just don't think any guy has ever been interested in being more than friends

[SarahsSummer]

Start employing your friends to help. see if anyone you are attracted to is interested in you as more than friends.

[rgb008]

Do you take care of yourself? I lost weight before I actually had the self confidence to get out and date.

[caoimhemoore]

Yes, that's not an issue. I eat as healthy as I can given the college dining hall food situation and I exercise.

[sedrftvgyhujik]

You could try a dating sight for fat pepole
sounds rude maybe but thats how one of my brothers flatmates found his girlfriend

[rgb008]

@sedrftvgyhujik What part of "i lost weight" do you not understand? lmao

[sedrftvgyhujik]

Ignore what i said i wasn't entirely paying attention.

[deraz24]

I had my first kiss at 19 and nvr really been on a date but it's fine it'll happen don't worry ab it

[archiz]

it will come don t worry.
I only started dating this summer and I had my first kiss around 19-20

[RicanEyes]

Don't rush it when it's meant to happen it will. Enjoy your life do things you enjoy find a hobby.

[capturemyheartnow]

Put down your address and phone number and invite people to date you.

[Jersos]

i feel the same. so if you want to practise online.. at least... i can be a help
it d be a win win situation
isn't it?

[StickStickity13]

Find a hobby that you are passionate about, you will forget about it.

[caoimhemoore]

I have lots of hobbies/extracurricular activities, but that doesn't stop me from thinking about it and getting a little upset from time to time.

[StickStickity13]

It's highly romanticized

[Guitarwizard7]

I can't really comment because I don't know what you actually look like

[DEvilAnimeGuy]

Baka... date yourself

[LastNightmare]

Why don't you try TALK

[caoimhemoore]

TALK? As in just talking to people or something else?