How to get over feeling undateable?

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Every now and then I get really down about the fact that I've never dated. Not only that, but I've never kissed a guy and no guy has ever given me any sort of romantic attention. I'm certainly not some sort of perfect 10 catch, but I don't think I'm terribly unattractive and I try to be as friendly as possible. How can I get over this feeling and put myself out there to start dating? I know I'm still pretty young, but it just makes me feel awful that everyone else my age has dating experience and I have absolutely none.

Fitness-Fanatic · Accepted Answer

I think most people meet someone at the most unexpected place and at the least expected time. It may be that you aren't going to the right places to meet guys. I know a few extremely good-looking people with great personalities, but yet they find it difficult find a partner

Try to create new opportunities for yourself. That way you'll have a better chance of meeting more people. Try to have more self- belief. No one is a perfect 10 . Some of the most beautiful people look in the mirror and dislike themselves, and only see their own flaws. Change what you can and accept what you can't change. Not everyone you see with a partner is in a happy relationship. Use the time on your own to build your self- esteem and confidence , and when you do meet someone you'll know you are worthy of dating ❤

TayTay21 · Accepted Answer

Just remember that you're not undatable. No matter what anyone says, you have tons to offer. And no guy is the final word, it's all just preference. Most guys think I'm sexy, but some wouldn't touch me with a 30-foot stick. It doesn't matter, though, because *I* think I'm gorgeous.

The other thing to remember is that so many guys are pussies about dating now. They'll do anything to avoid asking girls out. In fairness, lots of guys get told that it's creepy to lust after girls, when really it's just a normal thing. So just because you haven't been asked out doesn't mean there aren't guys who like you.

AnonB17 · Accepted Answer

My advice to you would be to work on yourself instead of worrying about dating. Let things evolve naturally and in Gods time. Live your life and accept the pleasant surprises that come with it instead of waiting around just to be disappointed. I know it sounds cheesy but sometimes you have to remind yourself that good things come to those who wait. One day you're gonna just have to stop giving a fuck and start living.

springocelot · Accepted Answer

Just put yourself out there. If you already are, then work on your presence. Display open body language, flirty expressions, etc. Be joyful.

But whatever you do, don't give in to pressure. My dorm neighbor was also a never-been-kissed. She wanted it to so bad that she drunk kissed a guy at a party. Don't be that person.

Chico_brah · Accepted Answer

Are you going to university? If you're not, then you're fucking up. Literally surrounded by a ton of other people in your same situation around your age. Plus you're getting an education so there is always that.

Rahdle · Accepted Answer

Been there! Yeah that feeling sucks. Just know that God made somebody for everybody and hasn't forgot about you. Keep your eyes open and put yourself out there a little more and it's just a matter of time

lordpokerface · Answer

Whenever I go through the feelings you described above, I take a pen and paper and list down some of the things that the opposite sex finds attractive in me (tenderness, charm, etc.) and then draw a vertical line and write one or two things that I need to work on to make myself more attractive.
Going through this process for about a year and a half changed me and my perspective entirely, and now I feel like I've shrugged off that feeling.

Ferrett321 · Answer

I've never really dated either and i do occasionally feel down about it every now and then, but the thing that keeps me going is the anticipation of meeting a future girlfriend. The odds of dating soon are in your favour.

reixun · Answer

this is easier than you think, lol.

Revinz · Answer

Are you fat? If you are, you are already below 5 in most peoples eyes. Find your flaws and fix them, ie. if you are fat start working out.

BlondeBlueEyes84 · Answer

You never got any sort of romantic attention from men? You must live in a place without Black or Brown men. They cat-call, approach, hit on and ask out literally everything that moves.

Pyrofox · Answer

Well for starters just learn to smile more and just change your attitude to a more positive attitude.

SarahsSummer · Answer

Find someone you're attracted to and start talking to him.

rgb008 · Answer

Do you take care of yourself? I lost weight before I actually had the self confidence to get out and date.

deraz24 · Answer

I had my first kiss at 19 and nvr really been on a date but it's fine it'll happen don't worry ab it

archiz · Answer

it will come don t worry. I only started dating this summer and I had my first kiss around 19-20

RicanEyes · Answer

Don't rush it when it's meant to happen it will. Enjoy your life do things you enjoy find a hobby.

capturemyheartnow · Answer

Put down your address and phone number and invite people to date you.

Jersos · Answer

i feel the same. so if you want to practise online.. at least... i can be a help it d be a win win situation isn't it?

Guitarwizard7 · Answer

I can't really comment because I don't know what you actually look like

StickStickity13 · Answer

Find a hobby that you are passionate about, you will forget about it.

DEvilAnimeGuy · Answer

Baka... date yourself

LastNightmare · Answer

Why don't you try TALK

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