I met a man online - he e-mailed me first. We chatted on the phone several times before meeting and had the best conversations (chatting for over an hour each time) and really connected before even meeting. We had 3 very nice dates and were feeling the chemistry both physically and mentally (we're both in the same field and can relate to each other even if we aren't in the same profession). He seemed rather serious - by the 3rd date, asking if I would consider moving (he lives 70 mins away), if I wanted more kids etc. He did not seem to mind that I'm a single mother since he has dated another single mom before. Well on the 3rd date, we got to 3rd base and I told him I wasn't ready for 4th. By the 4th date, I felt very comfortable with him and we went to 4th base. The next morning Thursday, I told him I had to leave early for a play date for my son and he had to leave early for work (he had wanted me to stay so he could come back during his break). I texted him later saying I had a fun date and I felt bad that he was so tired (he's been working crazy hours). He texted back saying he would be okay and thanked me for driving all the way up to his place. The next morning, Friday, I texted him saying I hoped he would get some good R and R on his vacation (with his siblings and parents). I have not heard from him since and it's now Monday (4 days since he texted me). Should I be concerned? I have not contacted him since my friday text. I have not clicked like this with anyone in 2 years since my separation/divorce so it's a little discouraging after meeting so many men I don't click with.
Thanks for all ur advice. I contacted him via e-mail and he called. We chatted for 2 hours. We're planning a date in The City - we both have to drive there. He had a rough family vacation leaving him wondering if marriage works and is v. busy at work
We had a great date yesterday. We met halfway for dinner, walked around a park and had a good talk. I asked him about his intentions and that I did not want to be a booty call. He didn't call while on vacation because he was basically scared...
So we had a really amazing 6th date. We met in the City, saw a show, had dinner with his friends, stayed in a hotel, had brunch with his friends the next day, walked around and talked... plans are to meet again within the week depending on work.
So, I decided to move on from this guy. We had some fun dates but he was just too self-centered. We got to 7 dates and I ended it. Thanks to all for your advice. I learned a lot from this and I'm not in rush to find anyone.. good luck to you all!