We see girls who we think are hot and chase them. It's that simple.
If I see a person who is standing next to my favorite car like he owns it, looking under the hood. Well, I like that car too, I want to talk to that guy. So I do.
If I see $20 on the ground, I'd like 20 bucks. I'll pick it up.
It's not complicated. We see a girl, we say "I'd really like to have sex with her" and we try to have sex with them. Depending on how far some dude is willing to go usually dictates how much of a piece of shit he is. But there are a lot of players who make great companions.
In fact, I realized that most of the relationships I've ever seen that are successful were ones which the guy was a player who decided to stay with a girl because he thought she was really cool.
I'll give a perfect example.
I used to work at this place where we drove a lot of places so I would have long conversations with a lot of people. Many of whom were married. One thing I learned during my time on that job which really surprised me was how many guys cheat on their wives. Even though they have kids. In fact, the only people who didn't admit to cheating or weren't always looking at pictures of girls on their phone, were guys who were in serious relationships with girls who were total players.
Those guys agreed with my strongly in my disgust for the other guys. Not all players are bad guys. Most of them are just people who go after the things they want which isn't the quality of a bad partner, it's the quality of someone with a lot of personal, mental strength.
It's not easy to find the right guy because girls seem to just naturally fall for the wrong people. When looking for a partner, you need to find someone who you have respect for, who respects you (even if it's only in their own way) that when you look at them and picture all the problems you might encounter later on in life, you can say "I could live with this person for the rest of my life"
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I'm a massive player: over 1000 Tinder matches and at least 200 dates in my life time.
The reason for me is quite simple: I simply don't prioritize relationships in any way, shape or form. The effort I could be putting into a relationship I'd rather put into myself. And in many ways it's benefiting me: I say this on G@G a lot but I'm half way through my PhD at 26 years of age.
Moreover, why would I spend a bunch of time, money and effort into a relationship with ONE person when I can get all the intimacy I want from multiple people and more or less for free?
Anyways, just my 2 cents.
1. He's been burned in the past and has trust issues with women. Maybe he felt like being himself didn't give the attention from women he liked so adobted the player attitude instead based off how other guys get women by showing very little respect towards women.
2. He's just a selfish fuckboy who don't care about emotions or the consequences of his actions cause all he wants is some vagina.
He's generally an asshole that you should close your legs to, his dad should have used a condom but just wanted to make the world more crowded with his bastard child, also his daddy doesn't love his mom and his sister is a whore.
isn't a womanizer and a player the same thing?
i mean dont they play the same game?
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Womanizer or player may fall under many different mindsets. If you are one of these does not mean you won't fall in love or you are looking to fill your ego, many people got this stereotype wrong, cuz they don't understand the mindset of a guy like this. Not to brag, but most girls would probably put me in this category so here's my mindset since you asked. Im young and i want fun, doesn't mean no girlfriend, but its not a priority. I understand that girls are human and have insecurities, fears, urges, just like we guys do sometimes. I know every girl wants to meet an attractive guy. So if big part of looks is genetic, the other most attractive thing in a guy is behavior and mostly confidence. I understand what confidence mean and how to get it, which can not be fully explained with words. We all know how to be confident, we just need to get the things that's stoping us out of the way. Shortly i like the interactions with girls, there is sexual energy and also i like the fact that i know how things work, which makes me want to go after numbers if girls, its not sex or ego. When i meet a girl i can tell all about how she feels, i can understand her and i know that it doesn't take much to make her attracted, confidence, smile, eye contact, humor, being real and natural, nice haircut and fit body, with good taste of style, not putting standard for myself. In 1 sentence a "player" knows that he is attractive and doesn't ask himself if the girl is attracted, he just have it for granted.
The psychology is as follows:
The prize of a man is his commitment. Why should he part with his prize when women are to be had in supply?
It is the psychology of abundance... basically a playa has flipped the script on women, but unlike women, he is actually keenly observing his options and exercising those options. And a man is as valuable as are his options.
It is a self reinforcing mechanism:
Options -> high sexual value -> more options -> higher sexual value
More on the theory of abundance can be read here:
therationalmale.com/2011/08/19/plate-theory-2/I can't speak for all, but for me it is about power. There is a certain satisfaction when I can watch tv, see a girl on it that I think is attractive (along with literally millions of other guys) and within a few weeks be having sex with her. I can make many women do exactly as I wish them to, and they do it thinking they are the lucky one. The question is not why guys like me have sex with lots of women, but why in the world would beautiful, smart women line up to have sex with guys like me?
Sometimes, it is just a game. There is one city I sometimes visit where I would give myself four hours to randomly meet a girl with whom I would be having sex with by the end of the day (no bars, alcohol or drugs are involved). I usually win.A womanizer is a guy that just gose for the hottest ladies, he has no disregard for the ladies personality or feelings and only wants one thing,
A player is a guy who cares about sex and racking up numbers, the more he has the better is what he thinks 😂🤣😅😆To be blunt... most of them are sex addicts.
These guys are addicted to not just sex, but "new pussy", as in the conquest of having sex with a new woman. Even for a guy that is NOT a sex addict, the ability to bed another woman is such a natural high. :)well in guy world being a player shows dominancy. People become like your fans lol! And besides that womanisers not only just conquest women but also every individual they encounter in their lives. It's kind of a stron leadership skill and is a personallity trait in like 0.1% of population. Such kinda people are extroverts and diplomats and their strategy is people mastery (One of them lol).
Selfish, not comfortable being vulnerable, and has the power to do so. By withholding, they seem more attractive to many women.
The flip side is why women value such men. It feels masculine, mysterious and powerful. They don't see the immaturity and insecurity.
I think it's a combination of selfishness and insecurity. I feel that guys that get women and use them only to move on to the next do it so they can feel good about themselves for being able to get a girl
That women aren't worth committing to. That they are good for casual pleasure today, nothing more.
The FI has gone a good job at convincing women this is all they're good for. That they don't need no stinking man. :)Nothing surprising. Just a guy that enjoys playing games with women's minds and emotions for the sole purpose of sex. They're selfish and think the sun rises and sets on them
Most men start good, then they see how women really behave and they learn which ones deserve relationships and which ones don't.
Toxic masculinity. They want to gain status by 'conquering' a lot of women while not appearing outwardly emotional. Added to that they don't have many socially acceptable outlets for their need to connect to others outside of sex.
It's a game, a fun ego boosting game. Once you become good at it, it is seriously addictive and you try to get harder and harder girls.
Read this and you will understand...
elitedaily.com/.../He thins he could get whoever he wants. He's a bit narcissistic and arrogant. He also knows that this personality attracts women and the more women he dates the more this reinforces his view of himself.
Some guys just like some women wanna sleep around as much as they can and who am I to judge. Its their life
They think that they are the most important person in the relationship
They were never taught how to truly loveAnd if you don't know how to love your go looking for it anywhere you can Find It
especially if you wasn't getting that loved as a childAnd then there's those are just afraid of commitment"I can't be in love, it's not safe." (for a secret agent)
I actually think it is the sign of a low ego. Some guys feel they have to have conquests to validate themselves.
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