That is indeed awkward. I don't think you did anything wrong here and I'm wondering why he recoiled back, but your reaction was completely incorrect. The whole "wasting time" and then moving onto the "if you just want to be friends" talk is just very... female... because the real problem is that women are just so bad with rejection. This wasn't even a rejection (I truly believe the kiss just caught him off guard for some reason), but you immediately went into self-defense, anti-rejection mode and that's always awkward if not a complete turn off.
I don't totally blame you though -- men are used to rejection because this it's their lot in life to make the first move and thus be rejected dozens of times over the course of their life. This is why you hear stories about women who feel "humiliated" because they basically offered sex to a guy and were rejected. I mean, do you think guys ever feel humiliated when they're turned down for sex?
But anyway, I think that while you made things awkward, you two will be fine. Just let it go and the next time something like that happens, play it cool. No ultimatums, no threats (yes, what you said was an ultimatum/threat) and just have fun and pretend like nothing bothers you. Most women would say that a guy sharing his insecurities is a turn off and I'm sure that most men would agree that the inverse is true.
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Ouch. The recoil is really weird to figure out. Usually inhibitions and guards are lowered when drinking and most guys would have been sucking face in no time! However, in this day and age of next morning "regret rape", he may have been scared to kiss you since you were drunk. Kissing comment in the taxi was only a joke, I hope! Next date might be better to stay sober and just have a night in watch movies or something simple and go from there.
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Sounds like a good guy, maybe he was just being considerate about not taking advantage of an intoxicated persom
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