Who do you think mostly loses interest faster? Men or Women?

[Ccmama]

Women

Men

[Annie_Mosity]

Women. I would say this because being honest, most men take a lot longer to mature and get their arses into gear and become adults. Men also seem much happier to continue in an unhappy relationship. Women file for divorce more often than men but in my own opinion this is because people were badly matched and had different life plans which weren't discussed.

Women seem to often date guys and as the years go by get disappointed with the sluggishness of the mans maturation. This isn't a case for trying to "change him" as so many complain about, it's usually a case of maturing together... or not as the case may be.

On the flip side, I think a lot of men choose a woman based solely on her willingness to be with him and her looks... you don't need to be a genius to figure out that sort of relationship isn't going to last. Hardly a soul-bonding is it?

[Annie_Mosity]

Thanks for the MHO

[sthrnsweeti]

I think men lose interest quicker but I think when women lose interest it's permanent. Ever notice how a guy will show up months later talking about how he misses you, etc. I feel like as a woman i might take longer to lose interest but when its gone, its gone.

[skykid1992]

Half true

[sthrnsweeti]

@skykid1992 it's an opinion. There is no right or wrong answer

[HOAAH]

women do because women are like always wanting to do something about a problem, men are more like... eh who cares... not serious and then go and watch a video game. Women are more like, fix the problem do this and that, or else I'm bored and will leave!

[Ccmama]

I literally did that last week to a guy who didn’t want to talk about his “issue with me and would rather play a video game and push the problem to the side. I immediately lost interest after that.

[HOAAH]

Lol!! I believe it.

[MartyL]

I believe women lose interest faster only because men train themselves to keep interest on the hopes of getting laid. I can't speak for all men of course but most men, myself included, develop a type of "auto pilot", a series of VERY generalized responses, like "oh yeah?" Or "holy crap!", judging simply by the tone we hear, can be accepted in almost any conversation. Men can be looking right at you, with a smile, making gestures, and expressions, but will have no idea or interest what your talking about.

[think_logic85]

In my experience, it’s mostly girls who lose their interest faster, there are usually the girls who don’t know what they really want or usually at the very first sign of trouble call it quits.

It has been like that for quite a while now, woman think differently in their 30’s as compared to their mid 20’s, given the fact that they have gone through so much trial & error previously.

[ManOnFire]

Women have much shorter attention spans in attraction, and I think this is because they're slower to know what they really want until they're older. In the beginning things might be thrilling for them but they lose interest sooner. Guys usually aren't that feeble like that it.

[LunaJ]

you're right about that women know later only what they really want.

you made some girls angry, man xD

[rockcherry86]

this is true, but most women gained that knowledge while in a relationship and often times its too late. so they are stuck with a man they didn't want any more and if you have kids its much more complicated. a woman in her 30s knows most what she wants. the majority of men only knows what they want when they have something done that fails the relationship, because he know he could lose everything he has and suddenly he knows. just dumb

[scooogy]

@LunaJ True. I had a "girlfriend" (rather teen affair) come back to me 6 times. that was 15 years ago. She got married this year.

[freakyzeaky]

@rockcherry86 Notice how you said, "the majority of men only knows what they want when they have done something that fails the relationship". Notice that the onus is always put on the man, that it is usually the woman that gets dissatisfied with the man, that her expectations, whether they are considered high or not, aren't met.

This is why I say men are much more simple creatures. As long as we eat well, have great raunchy sex, aren't constantly nagged to fundamentally change who we are, respected, and have some alone time, we can thrive. We tend to forgive much easier, tend to overlook minor annoyances and don't let them build up to resentment. If our woman makes a mistake, we support them in their growth.

The only time I feel guys are apt to break up with a decent woman is because she changes who she was from when they first met, she becomes overbearing, she is disloyal, or she stops being enthusiastic in the bedroom.

[scooogy]

@freakyzeaky I couldn't have said it better :')

[freakyzeaky]

Women, on the other hand, seem to have lofty ideas of what men should be, no matter her thoughts on gender equality. Men need to be the providers, the leaders, constantly striving for improvement, constantly looking to break "bad habits", willing to sacrifice themselves completely for her (if he doesn't, he must not care), think about her even when he isn't asked (if he doesn't, he must not care), always pursuing and courting (if he doesn't, he isn't exciting or attractive enough). *Some* women tend to look at other women's relationships and compare and contrast. "Why doesn't my man make a heart out of Cheerios on the kitchen table and post the picture on Instagram?" Then resentment builds. She is becomes afraid to communicate her wants because she knows these are minor complaints, but as they start to stack up, she gets restless or bitter. Resentment is the attraction killer. She loses respect. Now any "mistake" he makes, it is added to a tally, until that one day she gets fed up.

[scooogy]

@freakyzeaky if this behaviour decreases with time, should a man still accept her apologies if she wanted another chance after all this?

[freakyzeaky]

@scooogy Accept her apologies for what? Her resentment? The examples I gave were in reference to things men do or don't do that causes women to grow resentment and lose attraction.

If she cheats and it was due to the guy not satisfying his woman, then he needs to ask himself quite a few questions. How much is he slacking off in the relationship? Has she communicated well, if not, it is probably best to move on as the chemistry has broken down. Is what she expecting unreasonable? For example, say you like to smoke cigars or vape, and she was fine with that for the first year, but now she is harboring resentment that you haven't tried to quit even though she never mentioned it before. Is it reasonable to quit for her or do you think she should respect you for who you are and what you enjoy?

Sometimes these resentments are away for a guy to weed out a woman who isn't willing to sacrifice for him or who sweats the small shit too much, however, it is a painful process.

[scooogy]

@freakyzeaky yeah that as well, but I rather mean when the girl tries a bunch of guys and thus rejected me who wanted to be with her for longer, and after her journey, she'd come back and wanted to be with me "for longer".

[freakyzeaky]

Then, if he is willing to take criticism and grow, willing to make the right changes as long as he isn't fundamentally sacrificing who he is (doormat behavior, which is also unattractive), then perhaps he can forgive a cheat. In reality, the guy should probably move on, because it is damn hard to get a woman's attraction back once it has been lost. It is better to find a woman who is compatible and respects you for who you are and isn't seeking to change her man to some unrealistic standard.

Now if the guy is a lazy bum, then he has bigger issues. A woman who sticks it out with this guy and then holds resentment later is probably an even bigger fool that he is.

Guys should constantly strive to better themselves anyways, but women need to understand a man's need for comfort as well. Treat him like a king, he will treat you like a queen, that I can almost promise you, as long as the guy has good values (loyalty, honesty, kindness, etc.)

[LunaJ]

@freakyzeaky - i totally agree with your 1st comment here. perfectly detailed n true. by your 2nd, i think many women get brainwashed by those idiot movies n tv shows. they have some weird image about men n unnatural expectations toward them. maybe 1% of men could do it.. or maybe a 0,001%

[scooogy]

@LunaJ concerning these ideal-thinkers, for years I had thought that there were only two options: If I'm not interested, then I get chased. If I give in and play the game, she won't let me go again. But being left alone didn't seem an option for me. I had to surrender up the attitude of being nice in order to be left alone. Finally. And you won't believe how relieving that is to me now.

[ManOnFire]

@LunaJ I love it when the chicks here get mad lol.

[scooogy]

@ManOnFire if only I could like replies :D

[ManOnFire]

@scooogy I will consider that a like. +1😁

[LunaJ]

@ManOnFire - oh man xD the best I've seen here was when a girl asked opinion on her text (thoughts about life). i told her the end of it is stupid. she went nuts that she didn't ask for critic only opinion 😂😂😂

@scooogy - i don't chase guys. if he loses interest, that's his choice. he just simple won't lose interest cos i know what he needs n i really care about his goals n wishes in life. the problem with most of the girls is, that they're focusing only on their needs. what the guy should do for them.

[scooogy]

@LunaJ Oh God, I wish you were available :)

[LunaJ]

@scooogy - ty i appreciate your words really 😘
tbh i screw up 2 relationship earlier. ofc guys were guilty too. we just didn't understand each other. so i just started to make research about relationships 😂

[freakyzeaky]

"yeah that as well, but I rather mean when the girl tries a bunch of guys and thus rejected me who wanted to be with her for longer, and after her journey, she'd come back and wanted to be with me "for longer"."

Maybe she is seeing the error of her ways, but I wouldn't say she has to apologize for it. It is really up to you and how it hits your ego. Do you feel like you are now being treated like a second option or the fallback guy? Maybe it was her being immature and it took some mistakes to learn. Most people need to make some mistakes in relationships to grow, but that doesn't mean an inexperienced person (man or woman) can't get it right the first time or in the very least, stick it out even when there is some growing pains.

I would give her a chance but realize that she still may not know what she wants. Casually date her, get to know her, but don't invest yourself too much too soon. See if you guys click well and see if she has better ideas of what a LTR should be.

[nevermoregirl7]

Ok, so just switch that from women-->men and you would be right on the ball.

[scooogy]

@nevermoregirl7 you're right though

[Antrop]

He has a point no matter how much butthurt you feel. Women's emotions change easily which is also one of the reasons they lose interest. It isn't bad it is just who they are. We men sometimes think with our penis instead of reason but that doesn't make us bad. Peace.

[LunaJ]

@Antrop that's the point ^^

[scooogy]

@LunaJ But you have to admit that this is often better than overthinking things. Even penises hit the right spots on occasions.

[LunaJ]

@scooogy don't even mention overthinking. it's horrible. i literally hate it - cos i really have to fight against it. and the most annoying thing in it is, that you (well rather the girls) can't even realize they're actually doing it. only when it's late

[scooogy]

@LunaJ yeah right. I mean, I used to forget the pizza in the oven, but I guess some females would overthink that, like "what if the house would have burned down, and we'd be homeless?" Sure, homeless because of a forgotten pizza.

[LunaJ]

@scooogy - actually a forgotten food on the fireplace is dangerous xD we left the meat on it once, left the house for an hour (shopping). arrived home to see huge smoke 😂
but yes actually, i don't like to speak like that what you quoted earlier. my overthinking stops with relationships.

[scooogy]

@LunaJ that actually sounds like your overthinking ends relationships :o

[LunaJ]

@scooogy - yep, that screwed it up 2x. so I'm focusing on to not let it happen again.

[scooogy]

@LunaJ Okay, I'm serious. I need a girl like you xD

[LunaJ]

@scooogy - sry i don't have a sis *sigh* it'd be good. 😊

[scooogy]

@LunaJ yeah it definetly would :)

[OlderAndWiser]

Loses interest in what? Football. Scrapbooking?

[Ccmama]

Romantic interest

[OlderAndWiser]

This is not a gender-specific issue. It depends on the individual and the subject of their romantic interest.

[BaddieBunny12]

Scrapbooking 😂😂

[Djaaay]

Opinion owner... So is this why your love life isn't so hot now days , because you think you have the answer? Your followers are being misguided don't you think?

[OlderAndWiser]

@Djaaay I think that many, but certainly not all. people value my opinion. If you don't. . . that's okay.

[Djaaay]

Opinion owner... I do respect you , although I can contest to the fact that this question is ( gender-specific ) . Knowing this from early ages , I've been succesful in this particular dept. This is why I oppose to your statement about gender -specific

[NineBreaker]

Women most likely. More than otherwise, men pursue women.

To put things into perspective: in my long life of 34 years, I've been hit on almost 5 times by women, and particularly catcalled twice (in both cases, I suspect by drunk college girls). I think that's a lot, and astronomically so for a guy like me.

For some women, I wouldn't be surprised if they rack up numbers like that in months, weeks, days, or even hours.

My point is the behavior of both men and women may lead to a difference in the quickness of loss of interest.

[PlacentaSalad]

In my experience it's been a little bit of both but that's just because of certain incompatibilities, mainly sexual. I find myself not enjoying sex that much if it isn't in the way like it to be and plenty of girls are the same exact way. If a partner doesn't have fetishes or kinks that compliment my own or isn't open-minded then it can get boring fast for me and some nights I might not be that interested. A sexual relationship with a girl who is not kinky, for example, just isn't going to work for me.

Otherwise, I think women might lose interest faster because plenty of women say they're dating a man for his brain or personality. A guy who she deems not so intelligent probably isn't going to stimulate her with conversation, whereas I think plenty of guys are perfectly fine with having a "dumb" girlfriend so long as she is attractive.

[mattty]

Lol before I even clicked I already knew that most votes on women would be by men and most votes on men would be by women. However its still definitely women because: 1. they generaly have much more options simple due to the fact that they are approached and chased much more often. A hot girl will get tons of messages on dating sites and social media than even good looking guys while guys have to approach and/or mesaage first most of the time. And: 2. guys are more into looks than girls so as long as she's pretty and has nice personality on top of that there is very little change a guy will loose interest while a guy can have the same qualities and girl can still loose interest over some trivial stuff.

[Ryansh]

In Different phases of life romantic interests also changes its original form. Therefore, depending on the situation or the subject of interest or their choices or mutual understanding... Etc many are the factors that effects one's decision.
Now, keep all things in mind I would say "women" loose interest faster because she hav lots of other emotional attachments in her life where she can find a place to balance her emotions ( like... Her parents, siblings, kids.) but a man if committed than more rely on her than to any other relation.

[lainee12]

guys seem to do all the chasing in a relationship so when the guys gets the girl it’s like he knows he has her and totally stops making her feel special just normal but you know he likes her, on the other hand though girls tend to lose interest because they like the attention and every other guy wanting her is gonna make her move on faster

[Anonymous]

Lots of men will say they are looking for a relationship just to get sex, then lose interest once they get it, but they nerver really had any interest to begin with.

In a real relationship that's not about sex, the women usually loses interest when things start to get boring, routine, the same all the time.

[unsacredmonk]

Why don't women take initiative in that case, why such dependency on men always to keep the excitement up?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh you're asking the wrong girl! I think more women should use that equality they earned to not only ask men out, but pay first dates too!

I'm also not afraid to openly seek out men for just sex just for fun with no strings.

[jumbojoffer]

i like the sound of OP here. A woman who actually knows the stuff and doesn't care about standards.

[freakyzeaky]

This is why I feel that resentments and poor communication are indicators of incompatibility.

Like if sex is getting too routine, then the communication simply isn't there by one or both partners. Maybe he is too comfortable with vanilla sex, or maybe she has sexual hangups about certain kinky things. Maybe he isn't bringing up his desires for kinky sex because he thinks she won't go for it so he goes unsatisfied and vice versa. Maybe she isn't as assertive or enthusiastic in the bedroom and either expect him to make the all the moves or thinks of sex as a womanly duty and not as a fun team effort?

Most men who are interested in sex aren't interested in just sex with a woman they truly are interested in, but are willing to have sex with a woman they have no plans on pursuing or sacrificing for.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAUBR4gl9BY

[Christpaquin]

We can say women because she is looking for Mr. Perfect.

It means that if she knows what she want and she get it it's perfect.

For men, I would say it's because of fears and sex.

Not enough sex, not enough good or you think that you can find better at that level.

What it means? Find a good who belive in him and his not an asshole and that think that you are really hot.

[Fakeintrovert]

It's part of evolution, men are not supposed to be monogamous, that is why men can impregnate and be done with, scientifically once they have impregnated one they move to another. The idea is every man believes his gene pool is the best to survive and more of him in the world is better for humanity.
The same is with a women, they get attracted to married men with healthy family, the element of risk is less because they know what to expect.

[Robsinsf53]

This depends on so many things. I'll say this, for "most" men if the woman meets or even exceeds our sexual desires in amount per week encounters than we don't lose interest. I'm going to leave the woman's answer up to you women. If I didn't stay connected to her on a personal level, she'd have lost interest. (Her being an ex)

[LunaJ]

your last sentence is so true!

[That1tallguy]

With out a doubt women, the biggest reason is they have options. Unless your a player the guy is probably talking to 1 maybe 2 girls when the cute girl is talking to 4 guys with another 5 guys trying to talk to her. It's way easier to lose intreste when you have guys at your disposal.

Also they guy has to do most of the work hit on some more girls and build rapport. All the girl has to do is sit there and look pretty soon enough she'll have some other guy hitting her up

[bluejay5]

We may be sitting there looking pretty, but we are working PI 's at that point, we see everything, we hear everything we learn all we need to to decide if you get to see what's inside this pretty little head.

[nevermoregirl7]

In terms of finding a partner, I will say us women swipe left like nobodies business, but at the same time, we have a lot to risk in going for a relationship. Like, i don't know, our bodies that can produce life!

In terms of the relationship itself, I feel a lot of men can lose interest pretty quick. they get bored or nervous that they're losing out on all these women that they suddenly just want to be "just friends".

[fsu19]

I feel like what you said can be said for women as well. Relationships, especially marriage are a sacrifice for men. And "let's just be friends" is famously more common said by women to men

[nevermoregirl7]

@fsu19 The friendzone thing is something that is just complained about more from men than women. We get friendzoned too, but aren't going to whine about it.

[fsu19]

Do you think it's the fact that men complain about it more or that it happens more often to them? I might do a poll on this.

[nevermoregirl7]

@fsu19 guys complain about it more. I 100% believe it.

[fsu19]

I'll make a poll

[enirikiu]

I don't know if it's just me, but I lose interest pretty quickly. Before a relationship can even start, I already lose interest, especially if I see any 'fatal flaws' in the other person. It's pretty crazy, but I am never emotionally attached most of the time. I can detach myself easily and move on (not that I've ever had a relationship).

It's really hard to pin down someone like me, though I'm not sure if it's the same with other girls.

[bluejay5]

I won't say women get bored faster just that we may be looking for something long term and we may look at details more, men may be looking for sex so it's easier for them to overlook certain things about a woman unless she indicates she won't give up.

[ManOnFire]

About 70% of divorces are called by women who were usually in long-term marriages. Women lose a thrill in things quickly because ultimately they don't really know what they want a lot of the times.

[bluejay5]

Well I know I Want romance, not a guy who forgets your around, I want to dress up go out feel sexy desired, wear sexy lingerie, heels, makeup, get my hair done, have him notice, and remember why we started dating, remember that desire that 1st attracted him to me, look at me as a woman, not a house keeper, cook, or the nag that ask him to pick up his dirty socks, or to lift the lid before he pees, cause it's really hard to be attracted to guy that's more your kid then your husband.

[ManOnFire]

@bluejay5 I get that, and you wouldn't be the first woman to say that. But there are women with men who ARE treating them special and the women still "get bored" and want to move on. Women focus heavily on how a guy should keep them interested, and still get bored even if he does the things she wants/likes.

[bluejay5]

I don't want it to be all about me, i want to marry an independent man who could make decisions on his own, guys who let me make all the decisions no arguments what ever I want are boring. Been in that relationship and yes left it cause it was boring, if I ask a guy what he wants to do, be honest and say nothing, I want to go out every now and then, and I don't want to be stuck with a guy who prefers nothing but will do what ever I want. the whole point of dating is getting to know a guy, not to see how well he will conform to what ever I want. And again guys who aren't confident enough or strong enough to be themselves are boring.

[ManOnFire]

For me I tell a woman what I'm into and what I'm not, and she has to accept it. Some guys are just Yes Men with women because they know that when she does ask him what he wants or wants to do and he tells her, she still won't be happy. Because she's not really considerate about him in the first place. Me? I won't stand for that, and when a woman is not rubbing me the right way I cut it off. Women have basically taught men that a relationship is supposed to be about making her happy, so there are men who yield to that.

[Babsie1984]

In my experience, women have more complex needs than men. Which means men are happier and content with much less than what a woman is when it comes to relationship satisfaction.

[Anonymous]

Women are by far the most evil gender. That is why major religions have correctly identified them as the source of the continuing downfall of humanity, They are able to play the victim role... or the raging bitch role to suit their needs. Men have only the recourse to violence... which of course makes them assholes. Most of Satan's disciples are "sweethearts"... hiding behind softness and feminine deception...

[Djaaay]

Eve... just like the little pink rabbit... still going , and a bunch of Adams still following... true !!

[PotatoGab]

It honestly depends on the individual. I know men who've dumped women for losing interest in sex or love

Women for losing interest in sex or love. I've never really lost interest I just usually have had to move on.

[Journeyman11]

Studies show that women suffer more intense, men longer after a break up. Men usually lose interest in a relationship early or not at all, women late or not at all. 43 percent of men will cheat at least once in their live and 38 eight percent of women will. 80 percent of divorces are initiated by women. Those are the facts I know, make of this what you want.

[godfatherfan]

always the woman. They are looking for free dates, always looking for something better. Always afraid of commitment and relationships. It is sad nowadays.